[sheyli]

Omg this topic sounds so emo.
If you're here to bash about how emo I am or how this thread has been posted a bajillion times or make fun of me about how unpopular I am, that's really low of you. Like seriously low. Go suck a doorknob somewhere.

Whoever reads this post till the end, thank you for caring...

Bluntly, I'm one of the nerds/outcasts at my high school. Nobody ever says hi to me or smiles at me unless I smile at them first, and when I get the courage to start a conversation it always seems like they're not paying attention to me, and whenever I make a remark they stare at me like I'm speaking a different language.

But. I. want. a better life. It's been bugging me, and I get so jealous of all the other girls who have a bunch of friends and their own little popular group and a lot of guy friends.

I dun even want a boyfriend. I just want more friends. and guy friends, preferrably.

What should I do? What do I say? What do I do to act like a fricking normal kid?!

I don't know... this didn't really get anything outta my mind- more like a rant... but I'd REALLY appreciate advice, or consolation or whatever....

[小甜密]

Be yourself! You don't have to act any different. As long as you love yourself, other people will also come to love you too.

[Villian]

Omg this topic sounds so emo.
If you're here to bash about how emo I am or how this thread has been posted a bajillion times or make fun of me about how unpopular I am, that's really low of you. Like seriously low. Go suck a doorknob somewhere.

Whoever reads this post till the end, thank you for caring...

Bluntly, I'm one of the nerds/outcasts at my high school. Nobody ever says hi to me or smiles at me unless I smile at them first, and when I get the courage to start a conversation it always seems like they're not paying attention to me, and whenever I make a remark they stare at me like I'm speaking a different language.

But. I. want. a better life. It's been bugging me, and I get so jealous of all the other girls who have a bunch of friends and their own little popular group and a lot of guy friends.

I dun even want a boyfriend. I just want more friends. and guy friends, preferrably.

What should I do? What do I say? What do I do to act like a fricking normal kid?!

I don't know... this didn't really get anything outta my mind- more like a rant... but I'd REALLY appreciate advice, or consolation or whatever....

well it seem like you have such anger on the inside, and you already seem off kinda like a emo on the first paragraph

you just need to relax and stop caring what people think and do

just be yourself and happy

life is good, and life is short

[sheyli]

well it seem like you have such anger on the inside, and you already seem off kinda like a emo on the first paragraph

you just need to relax and stop caring what people think and do

just be yourself and happy

life is good, and life is short

Eeek... I've tried being myself. And got the above mentioned results....

TT_TT It still bugs me.... :[ how do you normal kids do it...

[Humilious]

Be more outgoing. Others aren't interested in someone who's still stuck inside their shell.

[shirotaka]

Why or who would suck on a door knob?

[sheyli]

Rrrr, I /try/ to be more outgoing, but as I said, it almost /never/ turns out well:

when I get the courage to start a conversation it always seems like they're not paying attention to me, and whenever I make a remark they stare at me like I'm speaking a different language.

Plus all the guys make fun of me/pick on me. they dont respect me like they respect their other friends who are girls. ALL BECAUSE THOSE FRIENDS THINK LOW OF ME TOO.

[nubbie]

well first off, your first paragraph made you seem really insecure.

Honestly, just have more confidence. Learn how to make a joke. A funny one. And when you talk, SPEAK UP. the only reason why they're not paying attention is because you don't let them know you're there. They stare when you make remarks? Maybe those remarks seemed witty and funny in your mind but when it comes out, it doesn't sound that way.


The most important thing is CONFIDENCE. be secure with yourself.

[Villian]

Eeek... I've tried being myself. And got the above mentioned results....

TT_TT It still bugs me.... :[ how do you normal kids do it...

i think your thinking too much of it

talk with confident.

[trankimuyen]

Well, if it makes you feel better, other people consider you a reject or an outcast because they're putting you up against other people, which they consider 'normal people'.
But in reality, or rather, in my opinion (which may or may not matter to you), there is no norm. There aren't normal people, because everybody's unique, and blablabla.
But yeah, you know I don't know what you look like.
But, do they pick on you because they think you're not good looking? If you really want to go there, you can change your style or something, and help yourself stand out.

But you know, a word of serious advice. Buying a new closet won't help you in the long run, because if these people befriend you, they're probably fake friends.

[sayuri43]

stop worrying about being normal.
it's not like people are just going to come up to you and beg you to be their friend. friendship requires effort on both sides. if you want a better life, you need to make it better yourself. join some clubs, talk to people... be friendly! ...but not fake.
that's about all the advice I can give you.

stop worrying about it.
the first step to getting friends is to chill.

[PoooBear]

Trust me hun, you'll enjoy college so much better. The people are just so chillaxed =)
High school is nothing to stress about!
Be yourself, if people don't like it, oh well. Who are they to change you, right?
Not like it matters, once you graduate, it's not like you're gonna see any of them again, ever, hopefully.
Those people who picked on you, might even end up rejects/outcasts of society later in life.
There is no point in being "cool" in high school anyway

[Navneeth J.]

This is, like, how Indians are treated by other Asians!!! When I see all these threads, they say "Asian girls think of Indian guys" and "Asian guys think of Indian girls" and all that....

But no one ever seems to notice that INDIANS ARE ASIANS!!!!!!!!

I dont see why these prejudiced and stereotyped delusionists think that the so called "orientals" are the only "Asians"! I'm Indian, and I don't see why I shouldn't be Asian. If you tell me "Oh, well, Indian culture is so different from Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese" etc... Well the thing is, there's only about, like, 5 countries in Asia that are related in that sense (thin eyes, clear skin, straight black hair, etc.). I can only think of China, Japan, Korea, Vietnam, Thailand, Nepal, and the Philipines. Otherwise, Asians look completely different.

To argue, most Arabs look like Indians, so there are two main groups of PHYSICAL characterists between Asians. One, is from China and onwards east, and then there is India, and onwards west. There's also Israel and Russia, which is another group. Nevertheless, they are all Asian.

The thing is, when you talk in the fashion of Indians and other Asians as "different", I can tell you're not really Asian. You've lost the old, simple, clean, and to the point way of Asian thinking. You're culture is seriously cut off from whatever foriegn country you live in, now. I would like a head count from whoever thinks Indians aren't Asians. Tell me, were you born in Asia? If so, were you RAISED in Asia? I only pass the "born" thing, but I long to move back one day.

Also, you seem to be thinking all Asians (Koreans, Japanese, Chinese, other orientals) live happily in unison with eachother and think of Indians as outcasts. That's bull. Japanese invades China for WW2, making them sort of at unease. Then there's the Chinese invasion of Korea, also discouraging, and there is the current competition for dominance in hardware production, so they're not united as you think. Chinese call themselves "Chinese", Japanese as "Japanese", Koreans as "Koreans", and same for the rest. Do any of you think any true Asian actually would say "I am Asian"?

OF COURSE NOT! As French don't call themselves Europeans, Mexicans dont call themselves North Americans, and Brazilians don't call themselves South Americans. You get the point.



Now tell me, WHY are Indians un-Asian?

[smiile]

find someone you 'click' with.
doesnt have to be someone popular, but someone you feel comforable with, and vice-versa.
be happy what you are, and have.
seriously not everyone has working pairs of arms, legs, eyes, and ears.
make best of what you have.

[PoooBear]

This is, like, how Indians are treated by other Asians!!! When I see all these threads, they say "Asian girls think of Indian guys" and "Asian guys think of Indian girls" and all that....

But no one ever seems to notice that INDIANS ARE ASIANS!!!!!!!!

I dont see why these prejudiced and stereotyped delusionists think that the so called "orientals" are the only "Asians"! I'm Indian, and I don't see why I shouldn't be Asian. If you tell me "Oh, well, Indian culture is so different from Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese" etc... Well the thing is, there's only about, like, 5 countries in Asia that are related in that sense (thin eyes, clear skin, straight black hair, etc.). I can only think of China, Japan, Korea, Vietnam, Thailand, Nepal, and the Philipines. Otherwise, Asians look completely different.

To argue, most Arabs look like Indians, so there are two main groups of PHYSICAL characterists between Asians. One, is from China and onwards east, and then there is India, and onwards west. There's also Israel and Russia, which is another group. Nevertheless, they are all Asian.

The thing is, when you talk in the fashion of Indians and other Asians as "different", I can tell you're not really Asian. You've lost the old, simple, clean, and to the point way of Asian thinking. You're culture is seriously cut off from whatever foriegn country you live in, now. I would like a head count from whoever thinks Indians aren't Asians. Tell me, were you born in Asia? If so, were you RAISED in Asia? I only pass the "born" thing, but I long to move back one day.

Also, you seem to be thinking all Asians (Koreans, Japanese, Chinese, other orientals) live happily in unison with eachother and think of Indians as outcasts. That's bull. Japanese invades China for WW2, making them sort of at unease. Then there's the Chinese invasion of Korea, also discouraging, and there is the current competition for dominance in hardware production, so they're not united as you think. Chinese call themselves "Chinese", Japanese as "Japanese", Koreans as "Koreans", and same for the rest. Do any of you think any true Asian actually would say "I am Asian"?

OF COURSE NOT! As French don't call themselves Europeans, Mexicans dont call themselves North Americans, and Brazilians don't call themselves South Americans. You get the point.



Now tell me, WHY are Indians un-Asian?

^ I think you hit "Reply" instead of "New Topic" O_O
but ethnicity threads are banned anyways. So nice try...

[RawrRawr]

Ummm get a new haircut
Clear up your skin
Wear makeup to enhance and make yourself pretty
Wear cute clothes that flatter your bodyshape
Be quiet but smile a lot
Study really hard
Be kind
Volunteer a lot
Help your parents
Be good at art, or music
or..
Be good at some sort of sport..
or..
Be really good with computers and be in some crazy CS class

lol

[Navneeth J.]

[quote name='sheyli' date='Sep 28 2008, 12:26 AM' post='11172181']
Omg this topic sounds so emo.
If you're here to bash about how emo I am or how this thread has been posted a bajillion times or make fun of me about how unpopular I am, that's really low of you. Like seriously low. Go suck a doorknob somewhere.

Whoever reads this post till the end, thank you for caring...

Bluntly, I'm one of the nerds/outcasts at my high school. Nobody ever says hi to me or smiles at me unless I smile at them first, and when I get the courage to start a conversation it always seems like they're not paying attention to me, and whenever I make a remark they stare at me like I'm speaking a different language.

But. I. want. a better life. It's been bugging me, and I get so jealous of all the other girls who have a bunch of friends and their own little popular group and a lot of guy friends.

I dun even want a boyfriend. I just want more friends. and guy friends, preferrably.

What should I do? What do I say? What do I do to act like a fricking normal kid?!

I don't know... this didn't really get anything outta my mind- more like a rant... but I'd REALLY appreciate advice, or consolation or whatever...




Navneeth J. says:

Well, to whoever said to "be yourself", I have a question to ask. What is "yourself"? Is yourself what you were, what you will be, what you do, what you are, what is "yourself"? In reality, no matter what you do, no matter what you accomplish, what you fail, you will always be "yourself". If you are the type to take a leaf out of others' books, then you're still being "yourself".


The thing is, don't TRY to make friends, or anything. Just be friendly. You also don't need friends in school to live happily in life. If you want to seem unusual or exotic, be EXTREMELY polite. It has curious effects. Always say sorry, never use contractions (it's, I'm, I'll), and just seem unatural.

It'll give you a sense of fullness at mind, believe me. Peoples' reactions seem to give an internal feeling of happiness and satisfaction.







.....Still, that effect is my effect. I dunno how it'll work for you, but I suggest trying. You'll never accomplish a thing in life if you never try it out!

[LOLWTF]

Also, you seem to be thinking all Asians (Koreans, Japanese, Chinese, other orientals) live happily in unison with eachother and think of Indians as outcasts. That's bull. Japanese invades China for WW2, making them sort of at unease. Then there's the Chinese invasion of Korea, also discouraging, and there is the current competition for dominance in hardware production, so they're not united as you think. Chinese call themselves "Chinese", Japanese as "Japanese", Koreans as "Koreans", and same for the rest. Do any of you think any true Asian actually would say "I am Asian"?

OF COURSE NOT! As French don't call themselves Europeans, Mexicans dont call themselves North Americans, and Brazilians don't call themselves South Americans. You get the point.



Now tell me, WHY are Indians un-Asian?

I think it's pretty obvious that the person is "Asian" thus wouldn't have to say "I'm Asian" and just state their nationality.
Same with the European thing.

Indians = Un-Asian to others probably cause of skin? non - Asian sounding language maybe.
Well it's nothing to get worked up about, Asian is just a title, lmao.

Oh quote from my friend "There's stacks of Indians, they can be classified as their own race, LOL"

Anyway on-topic
Maybe you should make friends outside of school~

[Chanellas]

High school was a fat popularity contest. Just wait until you get to college, you'll love it

[Vagabond.]

Trust me hun, you'll enjoy college so much better. The people are just so chillaxed =)
High school is nothing to stress about!
Be yourself, if people don't like it, oh well. Who are they to change you, right?
Not like it matters, once you graduate, it's not like you're gonna see any of them again, ever, hopefully.
Those people who picked on you, might even end up rejects/outcasts of society later in life.
There is no point in being "cool" in high school anyway

Bolded the parts that I 100% agree with.
I know how you feel, I used to be like that. I used to have no friends and such... but I also hated myself too.
As everyone stated, I think you're just insecure so you have learn to love yourself first (not to the extent where you become arrogant lol) and feel comfortable.

Just... be friendly. Don't try too hard to make friends.
Just... chill =)

*Sorry, I was no help at all ><*

♥