[Tuffcore]

In light of the increasing amount of "negative" threads lately, i thought i'd share a secret of success with those who still struggle to find success in any aspect of life. It's just one of many habits of successful people but it's probably the most important one. I first heard this from Anthony Robbins and then later re-iterated by many others who have made similar quotes. In honesty, it took me years to fully understand the secret's concept before being able to apply it to my own life. Moreover, i constantly see this secret being shared by people here on Soompi in many ways, shapes, and forms.

Without further adieu, here is the secret:

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

(Okay, saying it five times is probably five times too many because people should simply just know this already!)

Here's a fact: there isn't a right or wrong answer to the meaning of things that happen in life. We humans, whether consciously or sub-consciously, choose meanings for everything that happens around us. Successful people are such because they have learned to harness the power held within the secret. Successful people choose positive, empowering, and happy meanings for virtually everything that happens in their life. And in addition to this, they do it consciously until they fully train their own minds to do it sub-consciously because people aren't born to be successful or anything.

Successful people fail, mess up, and commit embarrassing acts just as often as the unsuccessful ones. They do however, choose to let failure propel them forward as opposed to pull them backward and they do this by choosing positive meanings for negative outcomes. It's that simple and anyone can do it too.

But wait, you might be saying, "Tuffcore, are you saying we should LIE to ourselves and sugar coat everything that we mess up?" My response to that is, "why are you choosing dis-empowering meanings and negative meanings to what i'm saying?" Being skeptical is great but don't convince yourself that you're doomed to fail for life. Mistakes will happen in life and successful people understand this and will move on quickly, turning mistakes into lessons and lessons into success. Unsuccessful people are the ones who make mistakes and then live there.

SOOMPI'S RANDOM NEGATIVE TOPIC GENERATOR,
I don't have a GF/BF, I think that means...
My room is always messy, that means i'm...
I'm really introverted, which means...
Having a lot of money and being rich means...

SOOMPI'S TYPICAL ANSWER/REPLY DECODED,
Don't think like that because that's not what it means!

The examples are vast in the 20+ forum. Topics are born on negative ideas only to be answered by swarms of positive thinkers. No one knows the right or wrong answer to anything but that the right solution a problem can be found through a switch of perspectives, steering away from negative meanings. The secret to success is not only found on Soompi but is found in real life because again, quite simply,

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Choose positive, empowering, and happy meanings. Don't just take my word for it though, take it from the word of every single person who has ever replied to a negative topic on Soompi or have helped someone else through tough times in real life.

[Prot]

Of course. Everyone essentially is permanently in their own world because nobody can read your mind, think exactly the way you do and have the exact duplication of every thing you went through in your life. Not even identical twins with exact genetic makeup and sometimes identical backgrounds. What you want to make of your life and what you want to make of anything has always been up to you because everything in the world is really subjective and is based on the conclusions you draw. True objectivity doesn't exist because it was someone that took an example and judged it and looked at it. Definitions may be defined by society via majority or past history consensus but ultimately you decide what the definitions are. As cliche as it is "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". What you determine is beauty/insert another definition in here that does not have an exact tangible measurement, may not be the way I define it and may not be the way society defines it but ultimately the definition that matters the most is the one that you make because you are the one that is going to use it.

[sasuke-kun]

SOOMPI'S RANDOM NEGATIVE TOPIC GENERATOR,
I don't have a GF/BF, I think that means...
My room is always messy, that means i'm...
I'm really introverted, which means...
Having a lot of money and being rich means...

SOOMPI'S TYPICAL ANSWER/REPLY DECODED,
Don't think like that because that's not what it means!

The examples are vast in the 20+ forum. Topics are born on negative ideas only to be answered by swarms of positive thinkers. No one knows the right or wrong answer to anything but that the right solution a problem can be found through a switch of perspectives, steering away from negative meanings. The secret to success is not only found on Soompi but is found in real life because again, quite simply,

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Choose positive, empowering, and happy meanings. Don't just take my word for it though, take it from the word of every single person who has ever replied to a negative topic on Soompi or have helped someone else through tough times in real life.

for some strange reason, i have a feeling this post is targeted toward one specific member...

[Pogichinoy]

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Choose positive, empowering, and happy meanings. Don't just take my word for it though, take it from the word of every single person who has ever replied to a negative topic on Soompi or have helped someone else through tough times in real life.

Brilliant!

for some strange reason, i have a feeling this post is targeted toward one specific member...

That feeling is mutual. It doesn't take a genius to notice the frequent negative threads started in this 20+ forum.

[sunshine4ever]

In light of the increasing amount of "negative" threads lately, i thought i'd share a secret of success with those who still struggle to find success in any aspect of life. It's just one of many habits of successful people but it's probably the most important one. I first heard this from Anthony Robbins and then later re-iterated by many others who have made similar quotes. In honesty, it took me years to fully understand the secret's concept before being able to apply it to my own life. Moreover, i constantly see this secret being shared by people here on Soompi in many ways, shapes, and forms.

Without further adieu, here is the secret:

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

(Okay, saying it five times is probably five times too many because people should simply just know this already!)

Here's a fact: there isn't a right or wrong answer to the meaning of things that happen in life. We humans, whether consciously or sub-consciously, choose meanings for everything that happens around us. Successful people are such because they have learned to harness the power held within the secret. Successful people choose positive, empowering, and happy meanings for virtually everything that happens in their life. And in addition to this, they do it consciously until they fully train their own minds to do it sub-consciously because people aren't born to be successful or anything.

Successful people fail, mess up, and commit embarrassing acts just as often as the unsuccessful ones. They do however, choose to let failure propel them forward as opposed to pull them backward and they do this by choosing positive meanings for negative outcomes. It's that simple and anyone can do it too.

But wait, you might be saying, "Tuffcore, are you saying we should LIE to ourselves and sugar coat everything that we mess up?" My response to that is, "why are you choosing dis-empowering meanings and negative meanings to what i'm saying?" Being skeptical is great but don't convince yourself that you're doomed to fail for life. Mistakes will happen in life and successful people understand this and will move on quickly, turning mistakes into lessons and lessons into success. Unsuccessful people are the ones who make mistakes and then live there.

SOOMPI'S RANDOM NEGATIVE TOPIC GENERATOR,
I don't have a GF/BF, I think that means...
My room is always messy, that means i'm...
I'm really introverted, which means...
Having a lot of money and being rich means...

SOOMPI'S TYPICAL ANSWER/REPLY DECODED,
Don't think like that because that's not what it means!

The examples are vast in the 20+ forum. Topics are born on negative ideas only to be answered by swarms of positive thinkers. No one knows the right or wrong answer to anything but that the right solution a problem can be found through a switch of perspectives, steering away from negative meanings. The secret to success is not only found on Soompi but is found in real life because again, quite simply,

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

Choose positive, empowering, and happy meanings. Don't just take my word for it though, take it from the word of every single person who has ever replied to a negative topic on Soompi or have helped someone else through tough times in real life.

Thanks Tuffcore for the posts! I felt when I came back to this 20+ forum with a lot of sad threads. But anyway, I think at least they have a place to bring out their problems. Sometimes people in real life don't have the time to listen to others, and that's why this forum became a forum for those kind of things.

I think it's normal for people in their 20+ to feel this way. A lot of things happened in my life that changed my perspective of life too. I used to be an innocent and free little teenager. Well, I wish I was still a teenager. When I was a teenager, I didn't to have to worry about life the way I am when I'm 20+ years.

[oie]

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[Meenuh]

I mean, I agree with the main point of your message. I just wanted to warn you that it sounds really cultish so if you're getting this from a group of people... just DON'T drink the koolaid.

LOL.

why does anything that happens in life have to mean something? why can't things that happen just be things that happen? why give meanings to things that happen anyways? makes it too complicating for my tastes. kinda reminds me of superstition in a way. no good. i'd rather live my life without meanings and signs and what not.

[PaNgIeE]

Tuffcore: Interesting post. Thanks for sharing that. You're right though about the negativity on here with the posts lately, but I think that's the reason why people come and post. We all have some negativity one way or another. We all work around it differently. I think with all of us helping each other on here we provide that positive environment where everyone keeps coming back. That's how I see it when I read the posts on here. I guess some of us are just more vocal in our negativity while some of us likes to deal with it by ourselves. I don't know. Nevertheless, you've made good points on here.

Nothing that happens in life has any meaning except for the meaning we choose to give it.

So true!!! I, myself, am always thinking there's something to life and a meaning to everything, even if there isn't. I've seen, heard, and been through so much that I see "life" a bit differently. Those experiences gives me reasons for a meaning. Maybe that's how we have to think. Being positive is always a plus and even though it may not seem easy, its worth trying.

Thanks for sharing Tuffcore!

[k1D3Ck]

LOL.

why does anything that happens in life have to mean something? why can't things that happen just be things that happen? why give meanings to things that happen anyways? makes it too complicating for my tastes. kinda reminds me of superstition in a way. no good. i'd rather live my life without meanings and signs and what not.

why cant there be more girls like you around where i live....i am assuming your a girl, if not, make this statement general

[jshat4]

Ha I guess that means you can also choose NOT give a meaning too =P And just because we can give something meaning doesn't mean you should expect everyone else to follow suit with your meaning. If your meaning is highly deviant from the societal norm, you better have some good confidence in yourself not to feel angry/frustrated/depressed/shattered/other type of "unhappy" adjective.

[[HyuNi]]

Ok, I'll be the rude, blunt one to say it.
UiB, did you read it? Cuz this is pretty much for you.

I don't really agree, because I believe the complete opposite.
I do believe life has meaning and our attempts to figure out what it is, is what makes life interesting.

But it's taking the easy way out to blame things that look outside of our control to attribute to a life we're leading right now.

[jshat4]

It might be more effective through PM?

I see both sides of the argument:
1) I agree, blaming the world for your problems isn't gonna help in the long run even if it seems like you got the short end of the stick. Just makes you more miserable.
2) At the same time, I've been quite unhappy before in the past and honestly, I can relate to how annoying it is when people tell me things like this. Sometimes, when you're stuck in that rut, you do NOT wanna hear people telling you how to just get up and make that positive change. Unless you've been in a person's shoes (and I haven't either) but honestly, don't just automatically assume that you know how someone feels and how they should best solve the probelm. But I see the other argument, i.e. if someone *cough* posts these type of topics consistently, they are kinda asking for it.

Yes, most of the time, it's a cry for help/attention/venting/relief/whatever. But everyone has different tolerances and reacts differently. You might think you've been through hardship as well and conquered/survived and that makes you this great veteran, but everyone is DIFFERENT and you can't use your own standards to judge someone else.

Sometimes these things can seem really inspirational, other times they just add salt to the injury. Anyway, I think the original post was still good though, it wasn't too pushy/preachy (despite all the repetition and bold letters ha).

[Meenuh]

why cant there be more girls like you around where i live....i am assuming your a girl, if not, make this statement general

lol. because then i'd be like every other girl.

Ok, I'll be the rude, blunt one to say it.
UiB, did you read it? Cuz this is pretty much for you.

I don't really agree, because I believe the complete opposite.
I do believe life has meaning and our attempts to figure out what it is, is what makes life interesting.

But it's taking the easy way out to blame things that look outside of our control to attribute to a life we're leading right now.

i think there's a difference when you say you give meanings to things that happen in life and when you give meaning to life as a whole. i know my purpose in life but i don't give meanings to things that specifically happen in life. it's like karma. i think that when you give something a name it makes everything so much more complicating than it has to be. everyone should have a purpose in life but that doesn't mean they should nitpick every little thing that happens and think "okay this happened because that happened last month" or "the sky was blue today... it means _____".

[Shinobu]

People will find their ways. (And the very proof of that is: UiB of today is the Tuffcore of yesterday.)

[k1D3Ck]

lol. because then i'd be like every other girl.

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[LYRA]

I like this post quite a lot, Tuffcore. Change your perception then you can change your lifestyle. More positivity!