[ShadowMax76]

o_O' i'm curious... since sometimes, as the 'shy person', i feel like people try to do that to me.

>.>' soo... a show of hands?
maybe some stories?

perhaps a second perspective on what i think is a 'mission' to some people
and just kindness to others?

[eximius]

To some, I suppose that being shy is considered a problem... one, apparently, big enough that they think needs fixing. I guess they're trying to do you a favor since it's pretty understandable as to why it could be an issue.

As for my experience... my boyfriend likes me anti-social. He said he'd hate it if I were a social butterfly. d:

[duykato]

I've always kinda wanted to do this, however, I don't really know any shy people. Never been introduced to any, and my environment hasn't exactly had many shy people in the last couple of years.

[BIN157]

Im not really a social person but I do talk to shy people sometimes when i see them sit alone:P. However, I dont do it often cause my school is a boy's school and you can be seen as gay if you do that actually , you are supposed to have the dont-care attitude, kind of stupid

[Ratez]

I used to be shy, still kinda am at times.. mood depending. I initiate conversations quite abit because I know how it feels to be the 'shy person'. But then when the 'shy person' just gives replies where you can't really reply back, kinda hard to keep conversations going. So its just the hi and bye after trying to talk to the guy/girl for once or twice.

[BIN157]

yea, sometimes kind of hard to talk to shy people cause ì he/she's not interested, it would be kind of awkward:rolleyes:

[BBL0V3x33]

LOL
im that shy person =x
my friend tries to get me to social with my crush
im shy at first but once you get to know me, im open =]

[LunaDiviner]

Haha, I haven't done it. But I was the "victim". I went to a party and this guy introduced me to practically everyone and made them give me hugs. I can say it did work though and I'm pretty grateful. I think it's better like this because I'm more confident and it'll be good for when I'm job hunting. xD The only down-side is... gah!, so many parties. I can't afford presents for everyone! Hahaha.

[fizzl3]

i'm shy myself when it comes to people i don't know, can someone make it their mission to make me not shy? lol

[whizzer's_rose]

I'm the "missionary" type of person if I base that on your post. It's just that sometimes, there are things that your friends doesn't have that the shy person seems to have so I befriend the shy person. Once I think that I really enjoy the company of the shy person, I then introduce them to my other friends and be part of our group. I want my other friends to see that the shy person can also hang out with us and that we can have fun-the more the merrier right???

But there was a time when the mission thing backfired on me. I have a group of friends and befriended a shy person. I thought she was really nice and introduced her to my circle of friends and we hit it off. Summer came and I had to stay at home most of the time because I got sick for the most part of it and when I came back to school, the shy person became the head of the group and even had a group name for the group-the most hurtful part was I wasn't included in the group anymore. I was like-wait a minute! I was the one who got you in. I was shocked and hurt but It never hindered me from befriending another shy person who turned out to be a friend for keeps.

[Meenuh]

i don't try to give them social skills but i'm more drawn towards shy people rather than the outgoing ones. i just try to befriend them because i want to be friends with them. not turn them into a social butterfly. i like shy people because i know that there's always another side to them than just the shy side. i'm sure in their quiet exterior they have a million things buzzing around in their heads.

[janejesamine]

i am so shy, most likely the most at my whole school (1000+ students), i'm known as the shy, quiet one, it does make life hard for me sometimes, usually i open up after talking to someone for a while but if i don't want to talk to them i can easily shake em off
though usually it's not that i'm quiet or i overthink things (which i do do) it's that i physically CAN'T think of what to say during social situations, which really bugs me, but with my best friend i can talk to her so easily, but people don't believe that i can be loud

sometimes i feel people are usuing me as a test to see if they can make me talk, like just the other night i had some random old guys come up to me and start trying to make me talk, and i'm all like, go away, then i see one of my friends laughing as if i'm a plaything, ugh, i don't WANT to be the quiet one, i lOVE being loud and all, but it just doesn't seem to come

sorry, this has just been on my mind a lot recently
[/end rant]

[ShadowMax76]

^ i'm rather sleepeh atm. so i didn't read all of that.
o_O' the jist of it i got was... rather relatable.

my best mate would mock my timid nature , trying to get the attention of the Chinese guy [ordering out -food] in the shop

=.=' sighs... i hated that..

[DarkWaltz]

i kinda do that naturally. i take them out, dare them to do stuff. when you see they start changing, it feels really good inside yourself to see them open up.

[Auralie]

why do some people always see quietness/shyness/introversion as something that needs to be fixed?
did it ever occur to you that a person can be reserved, without being insecure or having a secret longing to be a people's person? isnt it possible they just like it that way and thats their personality!?


honestly, how would you feel if someone is nice to you only because he/she feels sorry for you but neither likes or respects you. just a tool to boost their ego. wouldnt you find that rather degrading in a way!?

[duykato]

honestly, how would you feel if someone is nice to you only because he/she feels sorry for you but neither likes or respects you. just a tool to boost their ego. wouldnt you find that rather degrading in a way!?

It's not always about feeling sorry for a shy person. I find them interesting. I wish to befriend them because 1) I'm curious how they are when they open up, 2) she/he could potentially be my new best friend.

[Auralie]

It's not always about feeling sorry for a shy person. I find them interesting. I wish to befriend them because 1) I'm curious how they are when they open up, 2) she/he could potentially be my new best friend.

my post was directed towards people who actively seek out quiet people just to "cure" them.

not against those who are genuinely interested.

I thought I made that quite clear but I guess not

[duykato]

I thought I made that quite clear but I guess not

T_T Sorry, I fail.

[SushiToaster]

Haha yeah... I kinda take them under my wing and try to boost their confidence and stuff. It's kinda fun.

[RE.]

i tried it once back in hs.

i saw a kid that consistently ate lunch by himself. so one day i went over and tried to start a convo and whatnot.

right when the bell rang, the kid just got up and left me hanging. wtf hahaha

no wonder he was alone