[happy_tomato]

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[avii_ichigo09]

are you sure they really aren't worthy or are you just being a little paranoid? not trying to be mean because there IS a difference.

[LiizziieN]

It takes TWO to tango.

[GreenStuff]

HmmmM.. I think I know what you mean.. Ive just started college and Its a christian college. The way I use to live my life was influenced from my old friends not that they force me but just being around them.. and I guess I decided I didnt want to hang around with my old friends anymore and just find new friends at my college. but its hard cause ppls have Best friends or groupies already or I just seem to not been able to find a single Good friend to have a nice real conversation with. And it seems evertime I try to be myself to them I get upset bc they tend to act in a way where they dislike me but maybe its just me. I feel you. I really desire a true good friend right now but started building walls but really its on us to seek friends. Ppls are not really gonna try to break down these walls bc we maybe intimidate them. And if they like us or not is on them. Or if they hurt us it should just only teach us a lesson that they are not a friend. I recently realized that my true friends are my sisters all this time.

[her_heart]

I thought I was going to make friends in here.

[Yunho<3]

I thought I was going to make friends in here.

Aww i thought i was gonna make friends in here too.
I'll be your friend haha.

Aww hun i feel the same way you do.Alot of my what i called ''best friend'' walked out of my life when i have trouble.
Sometimes,i think a really good friend of yours might be your family.My family always there for me when i need them.

[RE.]

I thought I was going to make friends in here.

haha thats what i thought when i went into this thread

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OP i feel you on the trust part. but generally people out there are really nice and somewaht trustworthy

[kishycathiee]

Hahah, I wanted to make new friends too LOL

Dont make your wall too high, cuhs not everyone could get through.
UH, like what if someone had a broken arm? but they're a potential good friend
but they cant climb over.

Catch my drift? LOL

[Onesdream]

Its true that true friends are the ones who walks in while the rest of the world walks out. But imo, its really down to you. If you open up more, then alot more people will get the chance to know the real you. Chances are that a lot of them might end up hurting you, but theres also a chance that you'll meet someone that'll make you feel so glad that you did put your walls down in the first place. You might be thinking "whats the point of putting my walls down if theres a high chance of me getting hurt?", but I'm pretty sure that you know the answer to that yourself. Its because you're not happy with the way things are, thats why you ventured out of your comfort zone already. You want to make a change. If you carry on putting walls up, the chance to meet that very good friend is not zero, but very slim. But if you venture out there, the chances are higher. You've been very brave already to have tried doing something that you're not comfortable with. I respect that alot. Keep at it, and im sure that soon you'll find friends that you can really trust, rely on and open up to.

[touchthesky]

yeah i used to think like that. that only those who break down my "wall" are worthy of being my friends. then i realized what makes me so special that people have to go out of their way to get to know me? get what i mean? that kind of thing only happens in movies. you just have to keep putting yourself out there and eventually you'll find people you can trust.

[Llamallamaa]

First of all, "friends" are very different from friends =P. If you don't really know them that well, then you are probably not ready to share your secrets and put all that much trust in them. Real friends are people you can rely on whenever you need them. If you don't feel like you can rely on someone to help you when you are in need, you most likely are not ready to trust them.

Don't let those people who broke your trust in the past get you down, though. You have to be open and get to know people in order to find true friends, not closed up and waiting for them to come to you. Even though you sound sooo sweet and innocent, you still can't expect your best friend to come and walk right up to you. =P Just make sure not to make yourself too vulnerable too quickly. For those people you know but are not really close with, just hang out with them and have fun together, and you gradually get to know each other and become closer friends.

Having true friends is a really wonderful feeling, and it's sooooo worth the effort to meet and get to know them.
lol people always say my best friend and I act like a married couple xP
Anyways.. good luck! Remember not to take things to seriously. Even if people have hurt you in the past, you can move on. It's not like everyone in the world will act like them =P.

[sweetxbabbieexo]

I thought I was going to make friends in here.

lols i thought the same as you lols xD

[_ATELIER]

lol @ the friends issue.

i know how you feel, there's just a certain point where you really wanna test a person out to see if they're worthy of being your friend because, quite honestly it's hard to find a genuine person nowadays. anyways it's okay, maybe just loosen up a little and don't be too quick to judge.

[her_heart]

Aww i thought i was gonna make friends in here too.
I'll be your friend haha.

Aww hun i feel the same way you do.Alot of my what i called ''best friend'' walked out of my life when i have trouble.
Sometimes,i think a really good friend of yours might be your family.My family always there for me when i need them.

okay

[lockinsocks]

I've experienced this for myself as well and I still create lots of barriers for people around me. It's not a bad thing to create barriers for yourself. It's actually better that way because not everyone you make friends with are trustworthy people. But you shouldn't pour all yourself out when you meet someone who you have a good hunch that they can be a good friend. That could be the problem when you think you find a trustworthy friend and then they turn you down.

I've had lots of bad experiences with friends who I thought were close friends, but as I got older, it didn't stop me from making new friends. I still haven't found that friend I can depend on, but I've made lots of friends who can depend on me and see me as their trustworthy friend. And eventually they all want to return that service back to me.

It all matters how you can read a person's characteristics and then decide whether you want to continue to get to know them better. Sometimes it's better not to find that friend, but let that person come to you.

[vickstahs]

i've been where you are atm, and i'll tell you what i did.

i knocked down those walls/fortresses and stepped out.

i know it sounds hard (and believe me, it was for quite some time) hwoever i've come to realize that no friendship is picture-perfect, and some friendships can never be like the ones you see in movies (Sex and the City.. ring a bell?). But, the thing that really surprised me was the good friends I've always been looking for has always been the ones right in front of me, yet I'd never been able to see them clearly before because I'd been too busy looking for "better friends". friendships has to be built; you can't always expect them to come a-knocking on your door.

(: gl

[hunny]

Instead of seeking true friends, why don’t you just make friends openly?
Because you’re too afraid of getting hurt, another side of you is actually closed up and retreat everytime you get hurt. But since we don’t know why you retreat, it might be a small matter to us, but a big matter to you.
You’ll make wonderful friends in your life, no matter if they last or not. I’ve made wonderful friends, we still keep in contact though we ain’t close anymore, afterall, we have our own life and we move on to pursue on what we want and need. Of course, we’ll meet sucky people at times. People that backstab us for their benefits, people that betray you, people that hurts you, people that takes you for granted, people that are 2-faced, people that don’t give a damn about you, lots of them, you name it and they’re there. Ultimate point is that, you choose your friends, choose right and you’ll be fine. There’s always people who are worth to be good friends with.

Don’t tell me that you need us to teach you how to choose friends…

[willyskies]

I get what you mean too. I used to be like that too until i realised life was too short for me to coop up by myself. It came after watching a pretty emotional drama hehe. But yeah, like hunny said, be more open and accepting. You won't ever make a gain without risk.

I get what you mean too. I used to be like that too until i realised life was too short for me to coop up by myself. It came after watching a pretty emotional drama hehe. But yeah, like hunny said, be more open and accepting. You won't ever make a gain without risk.