[insanelyCRAZY]

So the Topic Title is self-explanatory. (:

Personal Experiences:
1) Between me and boyfriend we have like 100% trust in eachother. This probably reflects how good we can handle our long distance relationship.
I have just transferred schools so I don't know anybody on campus, I honestly don't make friends with girls as easily as guys, so my bf noticed that I was having a little problem adjusting to my new school. He literally told me to "Go make friends with guys, since you seem to have an easier time with that" LMBO! This other time I told him "Go ahead, you can check out her face and boobs all you want, I trust you won't hit on her" LOLLLL. So basicly, my boyfriend and I trust eachother enough to believe that we won't do anything physically or emotionally lovey dovey with somebody else other than eachother. Friendly hugs are okay though. As long as we faithfully love eachother then its all good. ~ Yea, my experience of how much me and my bf trust eachother may sound completely insane to you soompiers, this is probably why some people say to me "you're a really good gf" and vice versa to my bf too. =x I have high standards after my exbf, and I'm glad I fell in love with my current bf. ^^

2) I was the same with my exbf..I pretty much gave him all the freedom in the world. But I was the one who had to endure so many restrictions. I have this policy of NOT giving anybody my password for anything. And well we got into an argument and I ended up crying and forking over my password to aim, email, and myspace. It wasn't that long into the relationship til I had to block EVERY SINGLE guy off of my buddy list. Since most of my friends ARE guys, I ended up not being on aim anyway. He even stalked my myspace comments and asks who the commentor is and what we're talking about. etc. Lame and it was a regretful relationship.

So that was my first relationship...0 trust. and my current relationship..100% trust bothways. ;D

Again, how far would you trust your bf/gf?

[PhuongNguyen]

I trust him enough to not question his every move, and go crazy over every girl that talks to him... however; I don't think there's such things as trusting someone 100%. I mean, if your boyfriend tells you right now that he'll be spending a night at some girl house; on her bed with her... can you tell me you'll trust him 100% and not be worried at all. If you can; then good for you... but I think to trust someone 100%, put you in the position of foolishly loving them... too naive.

I think as long as you're not checking their phone to see if they're cheating 24/7, or spying on them... that's completely fine.

[vickstahs]

Signature: I believe trust is more important than manogamy

PhuongNguyen I don't agree with you there; I do believe in a relationship that trusting in each other completely is possible, and it isn't the result of naiivity or foolishness. Maybe you haven't personally experienced this sort of relationship yourself- and this isn't to go without saying that it is one to easily obtain- but I know what insanelyCRAZY is talking about and those sort of relationships are one of the best things to experience in life.

My two cents, (:

[Daaarian]

So far that I dont even have one.

[Unanimous]

I trust my s/o with all my heart.
But that doesn't mean I don't get jealous or am not greedy.

[cinnamoroll]

i trust him. i probably wouldnt mind giving my pws but he really has no use for it... he has given me his pw for photobucket just so i can upload stuff for him :3 or so we can share pictures. i trust him whenever he goes over to his friend's house where there's the girl he used to like and this other quite flirtacious girl. i trust them too though : ) and i'd trust him with pretty strangers at parties or bars or clubs too... because i know he doesn't want any STDs. LOLOLOL i mean, i trust him with pretty ladies because he loves me and i know he loves me and he thinks i'm the best. lololol! XD i do get slightly jealous when he spends more time with other people than me, but i trust him.

[PhuongNguyen]

PhuongNguyen I don't agree with you there; I do believe in a relationship that trusting in each other completely is possible, and it isn't the result of naiivity or foolishness. Maybe you haven't personally experienced this sort of relationship yourself- and this isn't to go without saying that it is one to easily obtain- but I know what insanelyCRAZY is talking about and those sort of relationships are one of the best things to experience in life.

My two cents, (:

So if your boyfriend is staying at a girl house, sleeping on her bed, just him and her... you will trust him 100% to not do anything, and totally be comfortable with it? I understand that it's possible; but it's rather naive also. To let your bf go that far without setting a line because you trust him... yes; that's pretty foolish in my opinion.

I trust my boyfriend; but I'm not dumb enough to let him stay over some girl house and sleep with them. There's different kind of trust; the ones that are good for the relationship; and the one that makes you a fool if you give them that much trust.

[twig*star]

I know a girl who had a really nice boyfriend whom she trusted 100%. He did sleep next to another girl (nothing else, just zzzzz's) and looked after her when they went to a party because the girl got drunk. He ended up liking that other girl (bean pie, average looking, so many flaws) and broke up with his gf (sweet, hot - as in many guys like her, nice, etc) .... so phuongnguyen i know where you're coming from ....

However, trusting 100% means i would trust my bf not to be stupid and sleep next to another girl who isn't me!!

I have a friend in this kind of 100% trust relationship. I really like and respepct him for it because i can joke and 'play' around with him and it's all platonic. I have spent time with him, just us, very late at night but it's friendly ..... i hope so anyway. I don't know what his gf thinks and i'm not friends with her so really iffy about that ...... However, not many guys are like him.



For the people who are all trusting .... would you trust 100% when your relationship isn't going so well? Does the trust remain there?

[vickstahs]

So if your boyfriend is staying at a girl house, sleeping on her bed, just him and her... you will trust him 100% to not do anything, and totally be comfortable with it? I understand that it's possible; but it's rather naive also. To let your bf go that far without setting a line because you trust him... yes; that's pretty foolish in my opinion.

I trust my boyfriend; but I'm not dumb enough to let him stay over some girl house and sleep with them. There's different kind of trust; the ones that are good for the relationship; and the one that makes you a fool if you give them that much trust.

yerhs i would
it's happened before to me, so i do know what i'm talking about. just because i would and have allowed my bf to sleep over another girl's house doesn't make me dumb; it just means our relationship is very stable. i understand that there are many different kinds of trust, and what i've shared with him was the sort of trust that's so rare these days. it's understandable if you feel intimidated and whatnot- it's all part of a healthy relationship. what i'm trying to get at is that it is possible to have those sort of relationships, regardless of how hard and "foolhardy" you think it may sound.
perhaps in the future if you experience it you will know what i mean.

[insanelyCRAZY]

So if your boyfriend is staying at a girl house, sleeping on her bed, just him and her... you will trust him 100% to not do anything, and totally be comfortable with it? I understand that it's possible; but it's rather naive also. To let your bf go that far without setting a line because you trust him... yes; that's pretty foolish in my opinion.

lol..i guess i left out the part where i TRUST he won't do something so stupid like that.
sleeping over at some other girl's house is really stupid..its kinda a GIVEN that nobody would let their s/o do that.

For the people who are all trusting .... would you trust 100% when your relationship isn't going so well? Does the trust remain there?

sadly..i wont ever make that mistake again..i wont trust him if anything stupid happens. rofl. but depending on the situation...i'll still have HOPE that things will work out.

[RYUUSEi]

Do you ever really truly trust a person 100% besides family? Like REALLY 100%?
80% or 90% is realistic and common among really, really close relationships, but I mean like 100% now.

Because I know I don't, and don't know if I ever will. I hope I can trust my future s/o 100%, though.

[Onesdream]

i trust her 100%. But sometimes i just dont know what shes thinking.

[seryberry]

i trust my man 99% of the time, although i go thru his fone because last year he deleted texts from his pancake face ex (i had her resend what they were talking about nothing bad he jus didnt wanna start a fight which failed haha)

[sidney]

So if your boyfriend is staying at a girl house, sleeping on her bed, just him and her... you will trust him 100% to not do anything, and totally be comfortable with it? I understand that it's possible; but it's rather naive also. To let your bf go that far without setting a line because you trust him... yes; that's pretty foolish in my opinion.

I trust my boyfriend; but I'm not dumb enough to let him stay over some girl house and sleep with them. There's different kind of trust; the ones that are good for the relationship; and the one that makes you a fool if you give them that much trust.

yeah, i would trust him 100% not to do anything even if they're sleeping on the same bed. That doesn't mean I won't be jealous, because I will, but yes, i would trust him. It's not naive. If he wants to cheat, then he can. No point of keeping him away from it. If he loves me enough then he would not do anything, and if he does, then that's when we call it off. I love my s/o very much, and even if a super duper hot and perfect guy who is into me and sleeping on the same bed with me, I will not do anything. That's what I desire from my s/o, and if he doesn't feel the same way, what's the point of staying with him then?

To the topic starter, I trust my bf completely. I think it's very normal when 2 persons are together and still find other people attractive. I said so and so is hot all the time in front of my bf. I don't care if he go clubbing by himself or a bunch of other girls hit on him, call him/text him either. Because I would like to have the same freedom myself. That doesn't mean we don't care or love each other. Last friday my s/o went clubbing without me, and he calls before and after voluntarily, I didn't even ask him to do it. In fact, he called at 3 am after he's done with clubbing and I rejected his call bc i was freaking asleep I know the pw to all of his stuff (he doesn't know mine though =P). He would show me all these hot celebrities girls to try and make me jealous, and you know what I do? I would check them out together with him and compliment him on his good taste. LOL. I don't know, it takes a lot for me to be jealous, i am very secure about our relationship and myself.

[PhuongNguyen]

yerhs i would
it's happened before to me, so i do know what i'm talking about. just because i would and have allowed my bf to sleep over another girl's house doesn't make me dumb; it just means our relationship is very stable. i understand that there are many different kinds of trust, and what i've shared with him was the sort of trust that's so rare these days. it's understandable if you feel intimidated and whatnot- it's all part of a healthy relationship. what i'm trying to get at is that it is possible to have those sort of relationships, regardless of how hard and "foolhardy" you think it may sound.
perhaps in the future if you experience it you will know what i mean.

I don't know... allowing your boyfriend to sleep next to a girl; all alone; in my opinion... is just a bit too much trust. And if you totally feel fine about it; and not worry 1 bit... I do think that it would make you too naive (no offense). Because the guy can pretty much tell you anything; and you'll take his words for it. I mean; it's a good thing to trust your boyfriend; but I think there should always be a certain limit to that trust... and the limit is my opinion; is when you still know you can't always take his words for it. I mean, if you see him totally naked with another girl; and he tells you that nothing is going on; they're just changing... and you take his words for it without questioning (Yes yes, it's a huge exaggeration, I know), I think thats makes you extremely foolish. Don't get me wrong; I'm not stating it as a fact; all of my post is just base on my perspective and opinion.

[quote name='sidney' date='Oct 5 2008, 05:31 PM' post='11254901']
yeah, i would trust him 100% not to do anything even if they're sleeping on the same bed. That doesn't mean I won't be jealous, because I will, but yes, i would trust him. It's not naive. If he wants to cheat, then he can. No point of keeping him away from it. If he loves me enough then he would not do anything, and if he does, then that's when we call it off. I love my s/o very much, and even if a super duper hot and perfect guy who is into me and sleeping on the same bed with me, I will not do anything. That's what I desire from my s/o, and if he doesn't feel the same way, what's the point of staying with him then?



Why would you be jealous if you trust your boyfriend? I mean... jealousy is only because you fear your boyfriend might fall for the other person right? And you shouldn't feel that if you have complete trust?

[jihyepii]

I have trusting issues...which makes it difficult for me to get into a relationship with someone. To answer your question I have zero trust in guys due to my past relationships.

[vpower]

i would say i trust my s/o 100 percent.
he is quite honest about everything and always asks if its okay if he does this and that so he has my complete trust.
sometimes he is surprised about how much trust i have in him
but quite frankly, i know he would never intentionally hurt me.

[insanelyCRAZY]

To the topic starter, I trust my bf completely. I think it's very normal when 2 persons are together and still find other people attractive. I said so and so is hot all the time in front of my bf. I don't care if he go clubbing by himself or a bunch of other girls hit on him, call him/text him either. Because I would like to have the same freedom myself. That doesn't mean we don't care or love each other. Last friday my s/o went clubbing without me, and he calls before and after voluntarily, I didn't even ask him to do it. In fact, he called at 3 am after he's done with clubbing and I rejected his call bc i was freaking asleep I know the pw to all of his stuff (he doesn't know mine though =P). He would show me all these hot celebrities girls to try and make me jealous, and you know what I do? I would check them out together with him and compliment him on his good taste. LOL. I don't know, it takes a lot for me to be jealous, i am very secure about our relationship and myself.

you took the words right out of my mouth x] THANK YOU.
i trust that he won't do anything stupid, because i love him just that much. i won't do anything that would ever hurt him either.
i dont get jealous easily, but i CAN. but that doesnt mean i won't trust him.

[xoxokisses]

the freedom you give is a pretty good standard to set since most people do the same unless they are over clingy or restrictive so i don't think you're crazy at all. and as to answer the question, i dont even set any standards 'cause i dont even see the need. i don't trust him 100% 'cause thats not possible. I still go by the quote that the only person you can fully trust is yourself. and how you would let your bfd sleep over at a girl's house, i would be doing the same haha.

[vickstahs]

I don't know... allowing your boyfriend to sleep next to a girl; all alone; in my opinion... is just a bit too much trust. And if you totally feel fine about it; and not worry 1 bit... I do think that it would make you too naive (no offense). Because the guy can pretty much tell you anything; and you'll take his words for it. I mean; it's a good thing to trust your boyfriend; but I think there should always be a certain limit to that trust... and the limit is my opinion; is when you still know you can't always take his words for it. I mean, if you see him totally naked with another girl; and he tells you that nothing is going on; they're just changing... and you take his words for it without questioning (Yes yes, it's a huge exaggeration, I know), I think thats makes you extremely foolish. Don't get me wrong; I'm not stating it as a fact; all of my post is just base on my perspective and opinion.

you're not getting it, and the term 'naive' doesn't offend me because i'm anything but.
that was a pretty bad example, because you assume i wouldn't take anything into consideration: 1) what is he doing there? 2) who is that girl? and 3) where are they when i catch them. did he tell me he would be with said girl? and if so, who is she? do i know her? where are they?
to trust your boyfriend to go over to a sleepover wiht another girl and to find him naked with another girl are two differnt things.
you'd instantly assumed that because i trust my boyfriend, he would be to manipulate the truth or that I would just let him get away. that's not how it works.
trust has to be a two-sided thing; i give as much as i recieve. if my boyfriend believes that what he does won't jeopardize our relationship, then i have nothing to complain about.
what you have said isn't trust; it's a sort of dependency that's common amongst a lot of girls, especially those who are currently in a relationship with their first boyfriend and/or is very in love with him. if you can put a limit on trust, it's basically you saying that you'll put a limit of your love for him. whether "trusting someone too much" is a good thing or bad, people wil have differnt opinions on the matter. however, i will say this:

trust is the basis of a good relationship, and if you're not willing to give someone all your trust, it's putting a restriction on how much you will allow yourself to love him/her.