[Malice_Kaiser]

So today I discovered my brother is almost definitely smoking pot.
I saw his beanie on the floor, and folded in it I noticed a lighter. That didn't bother me since I know he's owned one for a long time to burn incense (or so I thought) but once I looked closer, I noticed there was also what I could only assume was a smoking... device... or something.

Now I'm a senior in high school, but believe it or not I have very, very little experience with marijuana. Never smoked it myself, just so happens that most of my closest friends don't smoke it, and I never go to any parties so I'm never around people who smoke it. But this thing, I could only assume it was for smoking pot. It was metallic (almost like aluminum foil, but thicker?), a cylinder, and bent at one end. It almost looked home-made to me. But I didn't look for long because I didn't want my brother to know I discovered it.


Normally I'm not one to make a big deal about smoking pot... I mean, whatever floats your boat, right? And it's better than smoking cigarettes. Like I have friends (not CLOSE friends, the kind I see at school and don't hang out with AS much) who smoke pot and it doesn't bother me. I've had friends randomly visit me at my house when high off pot and I actually thought it was funny...

But it's weird. My brother is only 15 and he's smoking. I really feel like as his older sister I should do something. But what? Me and my brother are pretty close, I love him to death and everything.

Should I tell my parents? Me and my boyfriend both agreed that before I tell my parents, that I as his older sister should talk to him about it first. But.... what do I say? What do I do?

Has anyone had any experience with this stuff?

[chuchow!]

well, i'm actually the youngest sibling in my family and i've done some stupid things in the past.
my older sisters talked to me about it (they didn't know i was doing it, but just gave precautions to make sure i was safe) and said some pretty wise things. now, their advice helped me to stay away from those things.

so technically, i'm not in your position. but knowing that my sisters cared and that they wanted to make sure i was safe (without telling my mom anything) really influenced me.

you should talk to him. don't accuse him of anything, but you know.. talk to him and tell him you want your little brother to be safe.

[vi.]

Lots of people in my middle school smoke pot too. ^^ Other drugs aswell.

[Boomx2Brian]

seems like a no brainer. beat his ass

[qkrcjdfla]

talk to him about it first, don't blame him or lecture him, but maybe tell him an anecdote about somebody you know who has hurt themselves with drugs (if you don't know anybody, just talk to him about how bad drugs are)
and you are so wrong about cigarettes being worse than pot

[jobenLOL]

i think you should be a good sister & talk to him about it first.
like try to talk to him about why he shouldnt do it and how it can cause so many problems
in the future. it would be a good idea to talk to him first cause if you go straight to your parents without
telling him he'd probably get mad at you and might smoke even more pot or worse.
so yeahh i think you should talk it out with him cause if you can convince him to stop, he probably would tell your parents himself & by doing that , he learns a life lesson.... ? LOL i hope i made sense.


and ive never been in your position before , but i do have alot of friends that do smoke
ALOT. and i tried talking to them about it. but i never works out how i want to happen.

[simple*love]

I've never experienced any like this cus im an ONLY child hahas.
but you can try talking to him and asking questions, but make sure its the right time?

[jhiroki]

It's not addicting. He can either, stick to it or just give it up.
But I advise as well, to just .. talk to him slowly about it. OR if possible, somehow bring it up with something in relation of pot/drugs.
So you don't just come out of no where and confront him about it.

[Aquaflower]

When he's in the room or you know he's coming... start watching those YouTube videos that show what people look like thanks to using pot. D: Those images are SO disgusting... and it might freak your lil' bro out lol. Just be all, "OMG.. you've got to see this."

Hopefully it would freak him out so he would stop. xD; This could also be a way to start talking about marijuana.

[iloveren]

seems like a no brainer. beat his ass

GREAT advice. my sister would totally beat me to death if she found out i was doing drugs.

[stjapo46]

You should talk to him, it's the best way. I don't think you should tell your parents right away though. Talk to him about your concerns and share some stories? This shouldn't be a lecture but more of an advice.

I don't think it's surprising though, I know quite a few guys who started smoking pot since middle school.

[xAdorableHero]

Im actually not even in Hs yet && my brother is 5 yrs younger then me
But i think you should talk to him about it ><
Try to convince him how its bad && just have a friendly sister-brother talk
(I know i won't be able to handle that)
But if things get out of control, you should tell your parents..

[CorruptedSilence__nomore]

I think you should talk to him first before telling your parents.
If not, beat him up HAHAHAHHAA. I kid

But really, talk to him and ask him if he's really doing it.
Give him some advice or just tell him you're worried.
If he doesn't stop then its up to you really to tell your parents. :]

[pockystixx]

i think you should talk to your brother first, since you guys are close.
and i think it bothers you that he's smoking because you love him that much, and he's your brother
where as if other people smoke, you don't really care since they're friends?

but i would feel the same if i knew my brother was doing that, so just talk to him.

[-ms__jay]

Been there! OMG, I was in the same position as you. My brother actually started just smoking during his sophomore year. I don't even know if he does pot, but I'm pretty sure he's tried it. I knew it was an influence from my cousins. I wasn't sure what to do first, but with my sister, we talked to him. We weren't super close to him, but we still wanted to know for sure if he'd been doing it and if it was the influence of my cousins. He was always there when I lectured my cousins' about it (BTW, they're all younger than me) so I didn't know why he wouldn't think that I wouldn't find out. But because I wasn't so close to him, I didn't know how often he smoked. I really was careful though when he was around my cousins.

I say talk to him first and figure out what he's really up to. I never told my parents; they found out by themselves. The thing is, they never knew that I knew, so I didn't get in trouble. I know that if they knew that I knew, I'd be in big trouble for not letting them know too, but I guess it depends on your parents. But I'd definetely recommend you talk to him first, because you said that you two are pretty close. I envy that because I wish I was close to my brothers. It might just change your relationship if you told on your brother without asking him first what he's really doing.

[foosh]

i think a lotta people have a misconception for marijuana. a lot of symptoms and side effects you hear on tv and such are not true. if anything, marijuana is safer than alcohol but there is a limit (as with everything). marijuana is like sex. its not addictive but it feels good and thats the reason you do it. its a guilty pleasure.

though, i do wonder about an aluminum pipe. doesnt sound like pot to me.

[zizou312]

Look heres the thing.

There is really nothing wrong with smoking pot.

You should be glad he didn fall into any other drugs, ciggrattes or worse alcohol!

If you do have a problem with ur brother smoking weed, just talk to him about and you probably try it as well. I doubt his gona stop because you said something to him.

Oh yea that aluminum foil.. tell him to stop smoking out of that, its really unhealthy smoking out of aluminum, you can get cancer easily with that.

I think everyone shud try it atleast twice, just to know what it feels like, then you can make your own decision from there.

[lovemelody.]

don't tell your parents,
you'll get him in trouble and he'll hate your forever
just talk to him first
good luck :]

[furiae]

yea you should talk to your brother. doing drugs are harmful

[GOOMBA]

Let him learn the hard way.

Meddling = resent.