[.Bboying.]

The story>
So there's this Chinese foreign exchange student that I really like. He's been hanging out at "the asian table" at lunch with us for a week now. I've only told three people that I think that he's cute, but the thing is that this other girl at our table likes him and obviosly everyone knows that she likes him. I barely talk to the chinese guy and said Nihao and wave to him a couple of times. lol. So Friday was the Fair and I found out that he was going. I went to the fair that night and saw him once and we waved to one another. I regret not going to talk with him because for two whole hours I was trying to look for him since I wanted to hang out with him at the Fair, but I told myself that if it was fated we would see each other again. Later I saw him again, he stood there smiling at me so I decided to go and talk with him and ask him if he was having fun and etc. After talking for awhile, he "lost" the people that he was hanging with and started to panic a bit, so he called them and ask where they were. since he couldn't speak Englishg well he gave me the phone and I asked them where they were and etc. I decided to help him find them, so we went walking around trying to find them. When he found them, I was shocked because I found out that he was hanging out with my cousin and her two friends which was the girl who likes him and this Mexican girl from school. She looked really upset and pissed when she saw me and you could tell why she was upset and pissed, I admit I felt guilty and I didn't want her to hate me. My cousin told her to cheer up and it was awkward because we just stood there for minutes doing nothing. Then my cousin and her boyfriend went on there own and left me with the foreigner, the girl that likes him and their mexican friend. I didn't really know any of them except for the Mexican girl, I've talked to her at school a couple of times, so I asked them if they played any games or went on any of the rides. They said that they didnt do anything, but walked and bought some stuff. I felt bad because I remember the Chinese guy saying that he wanted to ride the rides or play a game, but no one would do any of those things with him. So I drag all three of them to this shooting game, my treat, and it was kinda fun lol but this white chick won. Um but then after that they wanted to go home.
While we were waiting for our ride, he was flirting with her, ah I felt so um envious and upset at the same time. I ended up getting a ride from the Mexican girl who gave all of us a ride home. On the way I got to talk with the girl who likes him and we actually got along well . He looked so bored and tired on the way home that I tried talking to him, but his English isn't so good, I can't understand him at times. Well that was the end of the day and sorry for the long, long story lol. Well I guess my question is that, Should I back away from him since she likes him and all of our asian friends know it? I guess I don't want anyone hating on me...and I'm afraid that he already likes her, but I'm not too sure of it. Plus it's hard communicating with him, I've been wanting to learn Mandarin. Hm idk what should I do....?ugghhh

[xjleex]

All's fair in love and war.

[damyoungji]

Just because someone else likes him does not mean that you should stop liking him.
So what if everyone knows that she likes him? There are probably other girls who like him, too, but they don't show it or tell others about it.

Unless you know he does like the girl who likes him, I see no wrong of trying to be better friends with him and such.

[manlytoe]

WOW! i've seen that and been there.
i backed out and the person i knew backed out.
don't worry though, of course we became friends.
it was only fair because she had dibs first. LMAO. (she told everyone first)
i don't like to be dramatic. sometimes it gets too dramatic and i blame myself for falling in deep especially when i already know someone has a thing for him.

i like to wait and see if i get the go that he likes me then that's when war begins.. LOL.

[julieluv]

Hmm I don't know about you but don't you think that communication is essential for a good relationship? And since you two can barely communicate...maybe you should try to be friends first? Personally, I find it very difficult to get VERY close to someone if we can't always understand each other but maybe it's just me. Maybe the language barrier can be cute at first but after a while..let's be realistic... if you ever get into any sort of disagreement (which is bound to happen in couples), wouldn't it be frustrating? Unless you are aiming for a fling with the exchange student, I'm not sure what you are trying to do.

Anyway, I would say..start by being close friends first. As for the girl who's interested, well I don't think she has any right over him :S As long as the dude is still single..I don't see anything wrong with you crushing on him :S

[luckyclover]

Well.. hmm.. i've been in the "friend likes the guy i do" type thing before. 'Cept he wasn't a total foreigner. Basically, you have to be the judge of your feelings. If it's something that you believe you could get over easily, then I don't think you should go after him. But if you feel you really like him, and don't want to let go of your feelings, then perhaps you could try being friends with him? I don't know your friend, but unless she's the jealous type, she'll most likely not object if you talk to him as a friend, when you guys are with a group. I think you should become friends with him first, and find out if you two are compatible, and if a relationship's possible. Then, if you still like him, maybe let her know that you can't help it, and try to work things out.....?

[xsmileforme]

just wondering.. what does your title have to do with your problem? you like him right? for him. so go for it. just make sure you don't regret.

[Shine]

woman, listen to me. you have as much of an equal chance with him as that of any other girl. the dude above who said, "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" is so true. go for it. there's no such rule that prevents you from liking him just because there's another girl who feels the same. grab him! LOL. go out there and be yourself. don't mind about what others may think. remember, you cannot please everyone, so do not try to. the only person you'll be trying to please right now is him. k? haha. but yes seriously, don't mind her. do your thing. befriend him first, then see where it'll go. =]

[myGLAMrocks]

i agree with Julieluv..
You can't really like or date a guy if there's like barely any communication.