[lovebum4life]

One of my friends hasbeen going out with this guy for about a year. She knew he was bi and had no problem with it. He was really flirty when it came to girls and she'd always argue w/him about that but after awhile she caught him cheating on her with his best friend. After that situation she vowed never to date anymore Bi guys because she'd have a hard time trusting them w/guys and girls.

This got me thinking whether or not it's really wrong to think like my friend thinks. I personally see where she's coming from only because in cases like these you have the problem of wondering if your bf is cheating on you w/another girl or guy. So it's like dual suspicion and personally I don't think I could handle that. But I was curious as to what others(including bi people) think about this situation.

[masturyan]

Isn't this blatant prejudice?

[7thprincess]

Isn't this blatant prejudice?

Yes.

[abusegirl]

Isn't this blatant prejudice?

yes, yes it is my pedobearistic forum goer.


let's see...i'm never dating guys in wheelchairs because one ran over my foot once and i sure don't want that to happen again.

wtf? a person's sexuality doesn't increase their chances of cheating. a cheater is an bubble gum...gay, bi or straight. obviously neither of you are as comfortable as you think you are with same-sex happenings. i shall laugh hard if her next straight bf cheats on her with every single one of his and her female friends. will she not date guys then? let us wait and see.

popcorn anyone?

[Meenuh]

you guys don't seem to understand what the OP is asking.
she is not saying that there is an increased chance of cheating because someone is bi.
she told us a story about her friend and that got her thinking. nowhere in that story does it say she can't trust bi people because they cheated on her friend.

when someone is straight you only have to worry about them hitting on people of the same gender. when someone is bi you have to fend off both genders. she's just asking would be able to cope with basically 2x the jealousy when you normally would only have to cope with 1 with a straight person. this in no way says that depending on their sexual orientation that they are more likely to cheat.

if her friend doesn't want to date bi guys then who the hell cares? it's no skin off our backs. she can live being biased because of ONE bubble gum bi or not.

[Gofishus]

you guys don't seem to understand what the OP is asking.
she is not saying that there is an increased chance of cheating because someone is bi.
she told us a story about her friend and that got her thinking. nowhere in that story does it say she can't trust bi people because they cheated on her friend.

when someone is straight you only have to worry about them hitting on people of the same gender. when someone is bi you have to fend off both genders. she's just asking would be able to cope with basically 2x the jealousy when you normally would only have to cope with 1 with a straight person. this in no way says that depending on their sexual orientation that they are more likely to cheat.

if her friend doesn't want to date bi guys then who the hell cares? it's no skin off our backs. she can live being biased because of ONE bubble gum bi or not.

That is of course, assuming everyone has equal likelihood of cheating. it really depends on whether the person is liable to cheat or not, and being bisexual has nothing to do with that. jealousy also has nothing to do with it, because it depends what kind of individual you are.

[onewaylove]

My best guyfriend had this problem with his last girlfriend, who is bi. when he found out that she still talked to 3 girls that she had gone out with in the past, he began to get suspicious and insecure, which led to trust issues. She swore that it was strictly platonic but he still had his doubts. Eventually he began to get mad at her over little things, and they fought over everything. In the end, it couldn't last... all because he found out that she was bi.

So, yeah I can understand where my friend (and yours) are coming from, but when you date someone who is bi, you should know beforehand and trust them and yourself enough to understand that not all bi people are 'more likely' to cheat or whatever....

[Meenuh]

That is of course, assuming everyone has equal likelihood of cheating. it really depends on whether the person is liable to cheat or not, and being bisexual has nothing to do with that. jealousy also has nothing to do with it, because it depends what kind of individual you are.

everyone is liable to cheat and yes jealousy does play a factor. i'm sure that where there is jealousy, there is A LOT of room for insecurity. if your s/o is straight you're going to get jealous over them flirting with someone of the opposite gender rather than if your s/o were bi then you'd probably have twice the jealousy considering they'd be more liable to flirt with both boys and girls.

regardless of whether you say that someone is more liable to cheat than another you will never know. people are unpredictable no matter how similar two people may be. EVERYONE is liable to cheat and has the same chance of cheating in my books. it all just comes down to whether you can put your trust in them or not.

[blueangel15]

^ I agree with you

It all depends on trusting the person your dating and yourself.....I do agree that it is more biased in choosing whether or not to date someone because they are bi because thats the whole population your s/o can be cheating on. So everyone have to step it up a little too with their insecurity.

Honestly I believe that everyone is "bi" and I'm not into the labeling. I come across with people who were once head on straight, against being gay and then bi/gay later in the years. I mean look at "Lindsay Lohan" what a shocker!
On my level, i don't mind dating a guy who is bi, but I'm definitely not going to sleep with any guy until i truly know he loves me and only me and he does a blood pan if anything sexual is gonna happen during the relationship.

[everysecond.]

Lols i agree with ^ because it all depends on how willing you are to trust them. I'm bi myself and im a girl xd lols dating another girl so yea. But she trustes me and i trust her :] So it just depends on both of you trusting each other xd But yea ive been going out with her for about 1 year now so were doing really good too long distances too xD But i love her lots ^-^

[hippiehop]

I don't think you should date someone you can't trust. No matter what sexual preference.

Jealousy isn't because of the other person... it's because of yourself. You need to gain confidence in yourself.

[mechant-lapin]

I think this is really interesting. I consider myself bisexual and my boyfriend considers himself bisexual too but I don't think we ever had an affair with other people other than ourselves. BUT, I have a girlfriend whose boyfriend is also bi and she permits him to sleep with other guys as long as he doesn't cheat her for another girl.

[AngelAngel]

If a person is going to cheat it doesn't matter how many "opportunities" and "possibilities" they have offered to them they will make it themselves. So no, there is not a greater chance of having a person cheat based on a person's sexual orientation, it's based on whether the person is a sack of balls or not.

[Poop-Shoop-A-Loop]

please do not bump old topics.