[takashi]

school started, i've met a lot of new people but the problem is that with school as my main priority i don't exactly use the time to enjoy my social life. recently, you will probably feel the same if you experience the following:

1) Only thing i've kept in touch with was the canadian political election news.
(probably not, but that's what i've been on)
2) go to school and study at home/library, duh =P
3) when people do have social gatherings, you don't go because school comes first.
4) don't know how to obtain a "closer" friend relationship.

i'll explain the 4th one. when you talk to someone, you just talk about anything and as time goes by, you become friends with them, right? well, for some reason i can't seem to get pass that barrier of "small talk" or just random talking. I can be a good listener, and try my best to give advices on certain things when some of my friends ask for it, but somehow it feels a lot harder to try and talk to people.

major thing i want to talk about now:

-how do you keep a conversation alive with people, and make it meaningful in terms of friendship development?
-do you pay attention to certain questions you shoud avoid asking because it may appear to be too personal, and the person may find it kind of offensive for you to ask?

[Miss Vivienne]

I have no idea. Conversations for me are always like big stumps or tall walls.
You just don't have any idea how to get over it.

I make convos awkward. ONEW CONDITION.

[meringue]

Ask questions. People love talking about themselves. Then when you find something in common with the other person, you can hit it off right there.

It's easy to talk about random things. All you have to do is pay attention to the world around you. If you see something funny that happened on the street, remember it and retell it to people. It'll be easier to make friends if you use humor. Everybody likes to laugh.

[fabrications.]

Um. There's already a thread like this somewhere? (With almost the same title! )

[LiizziieN]

If anything is floating around in your mind.
[that's appropriate to ask like nothing TOO personal that it may cause that person to make that person see you as nosey]

Hmm, then again I do question my advices on THIS topic. Because... I'm... random... o.o I say weird things. xD
Like, "Hi! Did you know too many bananas in ya would make you constipated? I just learned it today! This explains so much for this whole week's trip to the bathroom. xD"


>____> Hehe, but yes. Try "Opening Your Mind" =]

[_ATELIER]

ask questions, or just talk about whatever's on your mind.
i do that and it comes off being pretty random and me just rambling
but at least there's not experiencing that awkward silence lol.

[XenosbioZ]

well hopefully the person will talk about what they did that day
and then the next day, you could ask "how was the thing you did yesterday?"

and the other person will be like "omgz u remmebered!"

and then you'll say "yeahhhh... yeeeeeeaaaaahhhh, I remember!"

or you can just leave during a small talk

and then the next day, you continue the small talk!

be really open too

you have to BE interested in the other person!

[CriticalHit]

ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS.

The general ones I usually use are:

1) If you can have any super power what would it be?

2) What's your favorite animal?

3) Do you fly in your dreams?

Stuff like that. I use interesting questions like these to gauge how much
the person is willing to talk, then I'd go into slightly deeper subjects and ask
about their family, school, friends, where they live and stuff. Like not in a
stalkerish way, haha just getting to know them better =P

[qkrcjdfla]

ask them questions.
or just talk about random things about yourself

[brown eye smile]

just dont be afraid to speak your mind

have confident in everything you say

and if they honestly arent interested

let the conversation die, who cares

look away and act cool

works like a charm.

[takashi]

alrighty then. these sound like reasonable answers ^^ thanks y'all. i'll give it a try.