[Torento <3]

Edit: After reading the rules, please delete this thread if deemed unacceptable.

Whether you think it or not, it's true that there is still a stigma directed towards those that date or marry those of other ethnicities. (At least where I live). It's somewhat similar to that of homosexual relations, or some 80 year old man married to a 25 year old.

Since I was 14 years old, I've only ever dated Japanese women (youngest now being 19), and from both Asians and white Australians I notice the 'glare/stare'. I know humans are inquisitive animals, if they see something that is not 'normal', many can't help but stare. But many of these stares are different, perhaps it may be due to my height (I'm pretty tall, 190cm, I think 6 foot 4) and usually dating short Japanese girls makes me look even taller.

Even until this day I received crude remarks asking if I have only dated Asians because they are 'easy', or if she is a mail-order bride etc. I know that most of these people are ignorant and immature, but I don't see an end to it.

Then there's the look from the elderly people (both Asian and non). These glares seem to be somewhat intimidating, I don't know why, but they could be due to past history or something.

Before this, I thought everyone in my country was treated relatively equally. I only experience only a fraction of the prejudice/discrimination that some ethnic minorities in many Western nations experience.

I have other examples, but I think you get the message.

Even with society as it is today, the easiness of international travel, migration etc., there is still this stigma attached to those that date outside of the 'norm'. Do you think there will be an end to this eventually? If anyone else had experience anything similar to what I mentioned, please feel free to post your experiences.

[deportedkorean]

someone missed a memo......

[小甜密]

NO. Never ending circle of prejudice. But more and more people have come to accept interracial relationships.

[Torento <3]

Ah crud.

Just saw the thread at the top. Is there any possibility of self-deleting a thread?

However, I believe my thread was different to the examples used in the argument to ban this type of thread. As mine is highlighting social issues on both sides, I'm not singling out any minority and stating that they are worse than the other.

However, the rules are rules I guess. And if this thread gets deleted, I'll just PM one of the moderators asking if I can post this thread in another sub-section (current events for example).

[deportedkorean]

Ah crud.

Just saw the thread at the top. Is there any possibility of self-deleting a thread?

However, I believe my thread was different to the examples used in the argument to ban this type of thread. As mine is highlighting social issues on both sides, I'm not singling out any minority and stating that they are worse than the other.

However, the rules are rules I guess. And if this thread gets deleted, I'll just PM one of the moderators asking if I can post this thread in another sub-section (current events for example).

You're gonna get BANNED!!!!!

jk, no you can't self-delete...although that would be an EXTREMELY handy option. I guess you can just edit the topic post and write "mods please delete".

[Torento <3]

I left a nice edit at the top of the thread.

If this thread doesn't get deleted within the next few hours and/or days, should I assume that it's sweet? That is if people want to discuss about this.

[stickycarnival]

interesting topic....... i am dating a chinese boy and i am irish... and well in dublin nobody pays any attention but i live in a small town where all the chinese people know each other when he goes there they stop and stare at him literally we'd be walking down the street and a chinese girl drove by stoped in the middle of the road had a good look n kept going ... i felt pretty unconfortable said nothing.. then my boyfriend said it and i kind of implied maybe its cos hes the new guy who knows other things have been people in colleges reaction ... most chinese people don't approve or pretend to approve lol i don't know i definitely think asian girls have an easier time dating other nationalities

[randykiyoshi]

Haha, although the height gap is not as big as yours, my White dad is 6"2 and my Japanese mom is like 5"1. But anyways, here in TX no one really cares that they married each other. At first my mom's parents did NOT allow my mom to date my mom. So eventually my mom fled the house and lived with my dad for a while, and when she came back her parents understood that they had unconditonal love.

I like asian girls too (I only say that when people ask me) and when people figure out, they are cool with it. They will occasionally bug me saying I'm missing out but.. who cares? =)

[GloomyPookie]

I live in The Netherlands and here it is no issue to date people of other ethnicities. Of course there will always be someone, but I have never experienced any hostile behavior towards interacial relationships or weird looks or whatsoever. I'm glad I haven't!

My ethnicity is Indo/indonesian and my boyfriend is dutch.

I don't understand why people would make such a big deal about such things? We're all flesh and blood. The only difference might be skin color and maybe a bit of culture, but it's good and fun to get to know other cultures and respect other cultures.

And besides love is mostly about personalities... It's the personality that counts not the way one looks :S

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

it's becoming an epidemic......later on, we will will all be known as one race......the mix race..lol

but um here in nyc it's really common to see interracial mixes, especially between white men and asian women.
hispanic and blacks.

[andersennavy]

im azn n my gf is "caucasian" and ya i do kinda notice ppl staring
n i live in California!!! (just implying there r tons of stuff more weird than seeing an azn guy w a white girl)
i thougth itd be fine too cuz i always see azn girls w "caucasian" guys
but i dont care about the staremy gf is awesome
n she is so AZN on the inside ^.^
I love her =)

[sirce]

I live in The Netherlands and here it is no issue to date people of other ethnicities. Of course there will always be someone, but I have never experienced any hostile behavior towards interacial relationships or weird looks or whatsoever. I'm glad I haven't!

I also live in the Netherlands, but I'd say that there is still an issue to date people of other ethnicities. It depends on you're surroundings on how this issue is taken. I'm Chinese and I think most Chinese families are still traditional on that point.

I have a Dutch friend who is dating a Chinese guy for a couple of years. In the beginning his family really didn't like her, just because she was Dutch. In the first few months he didn't even dared to walk with her in the Chinatown-area, for fear of gossip. It's been a couple of years, so his family finally accepted her and even like her, but it took a long time (but I suspect that if he ever would break up with her and date a Chinese girl, they really wouldn't mind).
I also know a Chinese girl from another family that had a Dutch boyfriend. Her parents opposed their relationship and threatened to kick her out. In the end she broke up with him.
And I know my parents would not be happy. I live in another city from them for my study. Some time ago, someone told my mother she had seen me walking with my Dutch boyfriend. My mother was like: 'no Dutch boyfriends!!!'
But I don't even have a boyfriend!
Arghh, stupid Chinese gossipers. The worst was that I couldn't think of anyone that my parents would know in this city and my mother wouldn't tell me who'd told her. Now I sometimes get a bit paranoid when I'm just walking with a Dutch guy friend.

[ebolainmemphis]

honestly, you would have to think about why you like the person you do
is it because of who they are, or what they are?
even then, when you think you know the answer, can you really trust yourself on that?

[Eijiro]

honestly, you would have to think about why you like the person you do
is it because of who they are, or what they are?
even then, when you think you know the answer, can you really trust yourself on that?

Not really, isn't it better if you don't think about that at all?

[Miss Vivienne]

I don't see anything wrong with interracial couples. I have a cousin who is Dutch and Chinese and a nephew that's Chinese, Black, Viet, and Caucasian. Didn't think people would be so turned off by it. I mean, since it's a bit rare, I can't help but stare, but in no way do I think it's unusual or disgusting.

[GOOMBA]

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?act...;f=28&id=31

I guess you just got a temporary ban.

[Torento <3]

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?act...;f=28&id=31

I guess you just got a temporary ban.

No, I posted this thread like the day after I joined. So that's why I didn't get a temporary ban. This thread died, and then someone today revived it, so it's not really my fault.

[Eijiro]

The announcement thread says nothing about temporarily banning members, anyway. It just says that the threads will be closed. The temporary ban in the title is referring to these kinds of topics being temporarily banned, as far as I can gather.

[kishycathiee]

From kevjumba: "interracial relationships is the only way to stop racism"
there's some truth in thatt. somewhat.

[GOOMBA]

No, I posted this thread like the day after I joined. So that's why I didn't get a temporary ban. This thread died, and then someone today revived it, so it's not really my fault.

But, no, you didn't not get a temporary ban because it was the day after you joined, it was because you can't get banned. It was a ban on the topics, which was my bad for stating because I misread.

Haha, but "day after I joined" doesn't give an excuse not to read announcements