[PoooBear]

Update: thanks for the help

[masturyan]

I don't see anything conceited about what he did...someone wanna fill me in?

[eternaldarkness4]

i think your over reacting...
i dont really understand why you got angry at him..

and you cant really say he ignored you..
you kinda ignored him too...
and he probably never called cause well theres nothing to really talk about and it would be awkward

he told you about hospital and stuff...probably cause he knew you would want to know and stuff
and when someone goes to hospital they dont really think oh i'm going to tell my friends so they can worry about me..
0.o
and he told his other friends too.. i dont see the problem with that either

[kanashii]

I said "fine, update me when you die"

^^ lol, i just cracked about that..

but anyways back on topic.
you were not wrong, he is def. concieted. he just wants you to care and worry about him even after you guys broke up. He doesnt wnat you to move on, not b/c he stilll likes you, but b/c he just want you there worrying about him.

just forget about him

[xxDemi91xx]

Maybe he just sent it to everyone at once without realizing you were on the list until after you mentioned it. I don't know...can you even do that with text messages? Well anyway, it seems maybe you still kinda have feelings for him or else you wouldn't be so worried to an extent to call back. I think you should just forget about him and his life, because he seems pretty unattached and careless of your emotions.

[tranceeee]

I said "fine, update me when you die"

^i love your comeback

[Adver]

you can wait and see but personally i would just forget about him, he is being immature imo

should you care? thats your choice, think about it, but question is, do you want to care

[PoooBear]

masturyan: because he said "I didnt have to, but did anyways", it sounds like I should feel privileged to be included in his "loop", as he calls it, of friends or something. Then he tells me that I didn't need to worry, so what was the point of him telling me in the first place? am I just suppose to say "okay, have fun"? instead of worrying?

eternaldarkness4: I understand I might have overreacted, but his comments sounded so conceited. I didn't mention that I had made attempts to talk to him, but he has never made an attempt to even speak to me. And I have no problem with his other friends finding out.

kanashii: I'm trying... but it's so hard when the person that you cared about a lot is sick. But his actions and words really bug me >w<

xxDemi91xx: he said it was the best way to get the news out. O.o yeahh, I know what you mean... but it's hard not to worry...

tranceeee: LOL thanks

Adver: I was thinking that too >.< ugh I really need to think this over.

[masturyan]

masturyan: because he said "I didnt have to, but did anyways", it sounds like I should feel privileged to be included in his "loop", as he calls it, of friends or something. Then he tells me that I didn't need to worry, so what was the point of him telling me in the first place? am I just suppose to say "okay, have fun"? instead of worrying?

I think he was just pissed off and threw that out there because you threw a fit at him. I dunno...I don't think you should have done that. There was probably a better way of solving it instead of yelling at him...I still really don't see why you got angry at him. Also, he didn't bother to text/call you...but you didn't either.

[swt_boo]

Later in the afternoon, he texts me and says "Alright homies....(talks about whats gonna happen)"
So I said to myself "HOMIES" O.o THAT'S PLURAL!
so does that mean he's not just texting JUST me but everyone at the same time?
I got upset and called him. I yelled at him for making me worry and how conceited he was for not speaking to me after we broke up and then contacts me to tell me he's going to the hopital! How am I suppose to react? ALL CARING-LIKE?!!! after he IGNORES ME?
Here's how the conversation went:
(after a bit of me yelling and him arguing)
Him: "FINE, I won't keep updating you!"
*hangs up on me*
*I call him back, he doesn't pick up =.='*
*I left a voicemail*
Me: Hey! stop being a stupid baby! seriuosly! what do you expect from me? to worry? or not worry? then why did you even tell me if you didn't want me to worry about you! don't you think that's a little conceited? FINE whatever! You live your life, I'll live my mine! BYE!
*Hangs up*

I don't get it, why did you have to get angry because he wasn't just texting only you. Is it that much of a significance. You should understand that you guys have broken up now and friends would mean just friends. You can't expect him to be calling you all the time still, it's only been two weeks anyways not like years. Well I don't know how your break up went but from how I see it, you're still someone who matters to him to some extent and that's why he's letting you know about his personal issues. And his responses, I'd just say he was being defensive - just saving himself some face after you blew up in his face for whatever reasons.

Chill woman.

[hishari]

I think you should just ignore him...
why does he suddenly decide to contact you when he's in the hospital? Who cares about him.

[The Fey]

he wanted to tell everyone so that they could all hop aboard the pity train

you werent contacted bc he wanted to tell you and only you as some sort of "i love you still, please care for me" but rather a "hey guess what im sick come lavish me"

you're upset because you wanted him to contact you and only you so its understandable to feel a little bit cheated and unimportant, but youre getting wayyy to upset over it

ignore him, he'll survive fine without you

[KareBear]

You're overreacting. You two agreed to stay as friends and, imo, you freaked out at him just because you were not the only one he spoke to about his condition. Did you think he was conceited because he informed his other friends- and not just you? But isn't it normal to just tell your friends when you're unwell. I call some of my friends whom I havent talked for months whenever I'm upset. It's not because I seek attention but because I know that I can still rely on those friends whenever I need help. And I'm pretty sure they feel that way towards me as well. Your ex probably felt that way towards you too.

Ask yourself- are you HONESTLY upset that he didn't contact you until he said he was going to the hospital? If you were, why didn't you act upset until when he messaged you with "Alright homIES..."? Is it because you felt like you're not the only person he'll rely on during this period of time- like how you would do in a relationship?
If you felt that he was conceited- why did you even bothered to act all-caring in the first place? You could have said "I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you feel better soon" rather than "keep me updated"
I'm not trying to attack you but cool down and think why it upset you. Is this really worth being upset about this? If it was another friend that you were close to but couldn't stay in contact with... would you still be this upset if they did what your ex did?

[takemeaway]

to the above people ^

*trying to see it through the topic starter's view*
I think the case here is that he didn't bother to contact her despite the fact that they agreed to be friends.
then one day he randomly decides to text her about his condition - she thinks its only her so it leads her to believe he still at least cares about her as a friend to inform her (Even though he hasn't contacted her for a while). then when she found out he was texting everyone, & she just so happens to be on the phonebook so it doesn't even seem that he gave much thought about it.

well.. thats my guess

but um yeah you really overreacted.

[deportedkorean]

It takes BOTH people to lose contact for a while...ie. you ignored him as well.

FYI, guys are less likely than girls to use the voice minutes on their cellphones.

I think you overreacted, I would have felt relieved that he included you in his situation. You really thought you were the ONLY person he was texting/talking to about this? Of course he's gonna share the info with his friends, so instead of texting one by one, he mass texted everyone (it's more convenient?)

[Namine]

^
yea.

I honestly don't think that you should expect HIM to only text YOU.
Shouldn't be angry, because you guys are just friends now.
And friends do sometimes ignore eachothe for awhle, distance back and forth.
If you don';t try reconnecting, why do you expect him to, who is a guy, because guys are less "touchy feely" than girls.

I dont' contact my ex anymore either (at least one of them), but if you aren't over it, just admit it and don't blame it all on him.

On the other hand, I did want to start out this post by feeling bad for you, but after reading and thinking, it's .. just what I said.

Just :
1. Be glad he did text you.
2. I probably would've reacted the same way, despite my comment.
3. But just because I'd react the same way, doesn't mean we're right.

I think what's bad about what he says, is how HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL -A-

[GOOMBA]

Uh,

I think you're taking this WAY too seriously.

[sayuri43]

I think you're overreacting :\ he just wanted to let everyone know what the situation was with his health.

Chillax.

What do you want him to do? To update him or not? Aren't you worried? Why are you really yelling at him? Reflect upon that and think about how you really feel.

[kuroimisa]

Well, I agree with swt_boo and several other posters that it's not that big of a deal that he did a mass text message.

At the same time though, I do see it from your perspective - that happened with my and my ex.

Maybe not as bad, but once he called me up for lunch and I declined because I was really busy. I promised to call him back to rearrange, and then he told me he was busy even though he had (1) his car (2) a long lunch break (3) was in my area working.

He never called me back to reschedule, and I never bothered with him. Good riddance.

But yeah, your ex was rude (like mine Dx) in the sense that he didn't appreciate you. Not even as much as a friend sometimes :\ Sounds weird, but hopefully you get the gist if you know what I mean. Just cuz there was a break up involved, no need to go all cold on each other and stuff. People still care for other people :\

Don't worry too much about it/him. But yah - just don't take him too seriously. He doesn't really deserve it. I find if you take it seriously, you will get offended more easily. My two cents :3

[swtfirefly]

^
yea.

I honestly don't think that you should expect HIM to only text YOU.
Shouldn't be angry, because you guys are just friends now.
And friends do sometimes ignore eachothe for awhle, distance back and forth.
If you don';t try reconnecting, why do you expect him to, who is a guy, because guys are less "touchy feely" than girls.

I dont' contact my ex anymore either (at least one of them), but if you aren't over it, just admit it and don't blame it all on him.

On the other hand, I did want to start out this post by feeling bad for you, but after reading and thinking, it's .. just what I said.

Just :
1. Be glad he did text you.
2. I probably would've reacted the same way, despite my comment.
3. But just because I'd react the same way, doesn't mean we're right.

I think what's bad about what he says, is how HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL -A-

I agree with what she said.
Just make an effort of talking to him as a friend, not as a bf since you guys aren't together anymore