[RedSunsFC]

So I'm a 20 year old male and don't have a car yet, and I never been to parties or clubs, but I'd like to try it. I never had a gf because of low-self esteem because I think I'm stupid and don't have a car. I regret not trying to talk to pretty or cute girls in high school, but it was because I have no car to take them anywhere. I want to support the girl myself, not have her take care of me if she has her own car. Even if the girl doesn't care if I have a car, eventually she will because were 20+ years old! So I decided to be confident one day and I talked to this girl at school while we were walking back to class after break. Shes 21, confident, lives too far, 1 year older, but I don't care thats sexy. Since I only have that class once a week I have very little time to talk to her and I can't ask her out cuz I have no car =( plus i need practice before I can take anyone anywhere. When that class started again next week, I think she was waiting me to talk to her at break, but class is too full of people I want privacy. Then the next week she was on the phone then quickly hung up when I passed by her at break which sucks bcuz I didn't even see her when I was coming out of the restroom and she was on sitting on the side of the stone bench a few feet from the male and female restrooms talking on the phone. I didn't have the confidence to talk to her again after she hung up because she already was too far and it would feel weird walking to her while seeing her stare at me. Then after that she was just on the phone during the 15min class breaks now and sitting far away or going to the parking lot to talk on her cellphone. Was she mad that I didn't talk to her anymore? It was my first time talking to a girl not introduced to me by someone else, but she doesn't know that. Is that something I should tell her? What if shes avoiding me because she might already have a bf? I think lost my confidence again since I don't know what to talk to her about and shes probably living to the good life already cuz shes good looking, compared to my crappy life and the no car thing keeps coming to mind. I hate my dad for lagging on getting a car for me, and I have to stick with crappy toyota camrys, which I believe is a turn off if a girl sees me drive it. I already got over that because I would rather have a my own crappy car, then have my dad take me to school everyday in his old 80s cressida with car windows rolled down and turn up his vietnamese station that is happening now! F$*&%!!!. haha. So yeah, I need help on this one.

[papabear]

Why do you need a gf at this particular moment? (Don't answer quickly.)

[Meenuh]

So I'm a 20 year old male and don't have a car yet, and I never been to parties or clubs, but I'd like to try it. I never had a gf because of low-self esteem because I think I'm stupid and don't have a car. I regret not trying to talk to pretty or cute girls in high school, but it was because I have no car to take them anywhere. I want to support the girl myself, not have her take care of me if she has her own car. Even if the girl doesn't care if I have a car, eventually she will because were 20+ years old! So I decided to be confident one day and I talked to this girl at school while we were walking back to class after break. Shes 21, confident, lives too far, 1 year older, but I don't care thats sexy. Since I only have that class once a week I have very little time to talk to her and I can't ask her out cuz I have no car =( plus i need practice before I can take anyone anywhere. When that class started again next week, I think she was waiting me to talk to her at break, but class is too full of people I want privacy. Then the next week she was on the phone then quickly hung up when I passed by her at break which sucks bcuz I didn't even see her when I was coming out of the restroom and she was on sitting on the side of the stone bench a few feet from the male and female restrooms talking on the phone. I didn't have the confidence to talk to her again after she hung up because she already was too far and it would feel weird walking to her while seeing her stare at me. Then after that she was just on the phone during the 15min class breaks now and sitting far away or going to the parking lot to talk on her cellphone. Was she mad that I didn't talk to her anymore? It was my first time talking to a girl not introduced to me by someone else, but she doesn't know that. Is that something I should tell her? What if shes avoiding me because she might already have a bf? I think lost my confidence again since I don't know what to talk to her about and shes probably living to the good life already cuz shes good looking, compared to my crappy life and the no car thing keeps coming to mind. I hate my dad for lagging on getting a car for me, and I have to stick with crappy toyota camrys, which I believe is a turn off if a girl sees me drive it. I already got over that because I would rather have a my own crappy car, then have my dad take me to school everyday in his old 80s cressida with car windows rolled down and turn up his vietnamese station that is happening now! F$*&%!!!. haha. So yeah, I need help on this one.

wow ... you seem to care a lot about what other people think about you. get a job. buy a car. that will answer all your problems.

[RedSunsFC]

Why do you need a gf at this particular moment? (Don't answer quickly.)

Because I am lonely and feel like I'm missing out on these things. When will it be my turn to spend time with girls that are interested in me as much as I am interested in them? I just want to have fun too and I feel like I am incapable of these doing these things. So I want to prove to myself that I can do it. I want a girl I can hug and kiss...not just be friends.

[tlydia]

To be quite honest, speaking from my opinion, girls don't really care about cars or what a guy owns. Me, as a girl, care about the guy's personality and character. You seem to be too hard on yourself. A girl won't find you interesting if you don't find yourself interesting. You're still young, there's still alot of time for relationships. Right now, you should be having fun hanging with your friends.

[RedSunsFC]

wow ... you seem to care a lot about what other people think about you. get a job. buy a car. that will answer all your problems.

Which means I'll have to wait again. By that time the girl will be gone. I already missed out on so many girls. I talked to that one girl because I didn't want to lose this one like the others I couldn't talk to and I am failing again. =( haha

[papabear]

Because I am lonely and feel like I'm missing out on these things. When will it be my turn to spend time with girls that are interested in me as much as I am interested in them? I just want to have fun too and I feel like I am incapable of these doing these things. So I want to prove to myself that I can do it. I want a girl I can hug and kiss...not just be friends.

You may be able to find a girl who doesn't know what she wants, and have some sort of 'relationship' with her. But you're only 20--I think you still have some time to grow, and you aren't really missing that much, nothing that has the potential to become permanent. I think your concern for having something to show for yourself is right, so long as you see it in the right way, and not about having things or mere status. You could look for some sort of short-term solutions for the sake of being able to date now (or to give and get some physical affection), or you can wait it out, give yourself time to grow as a person, develop your friendships with other people and your other relationships, finish up school so you can get a job, and take things seriously when you are ready in just more than one way. It depends on what ideal you adopt for yourself, and how you want to achieve it.

[o8dOObOO8o]

yo. don't feel so down because you've never gone to a party or dated a girl.
i'm turning 20 soon, and i've never dated, and i've never gone to a party. so in a way, i'm kind of like you. ^ ^ doesn't bother me that much though.
i'm sure, if you had confidence, you'd be able to get tons of girls. no actually, don't do that because the girls would hate you. anyways. i think that girl you talked to was interested in you. you should talk to her more. even if she's standing far away or something, if you go up to her and talk to her, then she'd feel that you care about her and that you went out of your way to strike a conversation with her. you don't have to date her right there and then. try being friends first. or friendly, at least.
anddd....
oh right. get over the car issue. it sounded like you were using the car too much. you don't need a car to date. and honestly, it seemed like you were using the car as an excuse to run away from talking to girls. or using it as a reason for being a loser and not having a girl. you'd be a loser if you didn't try at all.
but if you can get a girl without the help of a bmw next to you, it would show how much better you are as a guy as opposed to someone who dates a girl that looks at his car instead of him.
you can go to local places, like cafes, to date. it doesn't have to be that expensive fancy restaurant downtown, or some sort of expensive designer's bag for the girl. if that's what the girl wants, find a better girl that isn't a golddigger.

and yes, get a job, if you want to have pocket money to spend on the girl without getting money from your parents who would probably ask you why you need it.

[RedSunsFC]

You may be able to find a girl who doesn't know what she wants, and have some sort of 'relationship' with her. But you're only 20--I think you still have some time to grow, and you aren't really missing that much, nothing that has the potential to become permanent. I think your concern for having something to show for yourself is right, so long as you see it in the right way, and not about having things or mere status. You could look for some sort of short-term solutions for the sake of being able to date now (or to give and get some physical affection), or you can wait it out, give yourself time to grow as a person, develop your friendships with other people and your other relationships, finish up school so you can get a job, and take things seriously when you are ready in just more than one way. It depends on what ideal you adopt for yourself, and how you want to achieve it.

This really opened my eyes on some things. How old are you seem very smart. I think I have a path I can follow and I can worry about girls later. I'm gonna miss out on a lot of hot girls, but I want a good status for myself and then my future girl can have whatever she like =p

yo. don't feel so down because you've never gone to a party or dated a girl.
i'm turning 20 soon, and i've never dated, and i've never gone to a party. so in a way, i'm kind of like you. ^ ^ doesn't bother me that much though.
i'm sure, if you had confidence, you'd be able to get tons of girls. no actually, don't do that because the girls would hate you. anyways. i think that girl you talked to was interested in you. you should talk to her more. even if she's standing far away or something, if you go up to her and talk to her, then she'd feel that you care about her and that you went out of your way to strike a conversation with her. you don't have to date her right there and then. try being friends first. or friendly, at least.
anddd....
oh right. get over the car issue. it sounded like you were using the car too much. you don't need a car to date. and honestly, it seemed like you were using the car as an excuse to run away from talking to girls. or using it as a reason for being a loser and not having a girl. you'd be a loser if you didn't try at all.
but if you can get a girl without the help of a bmw next to you, it would show how much better you are as a guy as opposed to someone who dates a girl that looks at his car instead of him.
you can go to local places, like cafes, to date. it doesn't have to be that expensive fancy restaurant downtown, or some sort of expensive designer's bag for the girl. if that's what the girl wants, find a better girl that isn't a golddigger.

and yes, get a job, if you want to have pocket money to spend on the girl without getting money from your parents who would probably ask you why you need it.

I will try to talk to her, and that made me feel better about the car thing and dates. Thx.

[hkdanceislove]

i suggest you read the game by neil strauss.

[papabear]

This really opened my eyes on some things. How old are you seem very smart. I think I have a path I can follow and I can worry about girls later. I'm gonna miss out on a lot of hot girls, but I want a good status for myself and then my future girl can have whatever she like =p

Old, but not that old. hah. You're welcome. Good luck with things!

Hotness fades, inner beauty (character) lasts. But there will be hot girls later too, I suppose.

[vividified]

less Q_Q more pewpew!

whats wrong with having no car anyways.. it gets a bit in the way in go places but if the girl seriously judges you by that factor that she isn't worth your time.

[RedSunsFC]

Old, but not that old. hah. You're welcome. Good luck with things!

Hotness fades, inner beauty (character) lasts. But there will be hot girls later too, I suppose.

Oh man, I hope so.

less Q_Q more pewpew!

whats wrong with having no car anyways.. it gets a bit in the way in go places but if the girl seriously judges you by that factor that she isn't worth your time.

lol. what do you mean by pewpew. haha is that like a laser gun or what, but yea ur right. this is a lot better than yahoo answers, I'm starting to like soompi...oh noes.

[chicken fly lice]

You think you got problems?

I'm 26 years old, single, still in school, still live at home with the parents. But anyways, I have trouble with the girls. I go to parties, I club, hell I even go to social mixers. Still no luck. I've been single for...I'll keep that to myself. It sucks to be single for like a long ass time.

[RedSunsFC]

You think you got problems?

I'm 26 years old, single, still in school, still live at home with the parents. But anyways, I have trouble with the girls. I go to parties, I club, hell I even go to social mixers. Still no luck. I've been single for...I'll keep that to myself. It sucks to be single for like a long ass time.

oh see ppl i dont want to end up like this. lol jk. i understand, but my story is different. we all got it bad, but i want to fix that. figure out what why u arnt getting anyone and ull know the solution. ur forum name already disgusts me and im not even a girl. no offense.

[foosh]

you just need to break the ice. just pretend you have a question about class or something then flow with it. and be more proud of your dad man

[RedSunsFC]

you just need to break the ice. just pretend you have a question about class or something then flow with it. and be more proud of your dad man

i think my mind will go blank after the question and i guess ill try to be nicer to my dad.

[Aziraphale]

yo. don't feel so down because you've never gone to a party or dated a girl.
i'm turning 20 soon, and i've never dated, and i've never gone to a party. so in a way, i'm kind of like you. ^ ^ doesn't bother me that much though.
i'm sure, if you had confidence, you'd be able to get tons of girls. no actually, don't do that because the girls would hate you. anyways. i think that girl you talked to was interested in you. you should talk to her more. even if she's standing far away or something, if you go up to her and talk to her, then she'd feel that you care about her and that you went out of your way to strike a conversation with her. you don't have to date her right there and then. try being friends first. or friendly, at least.
anddd....
oh right. get over the car issue. it sounded like you were using the car too much. you don't need a car to date. and honestly, it seemed like you were using the car as an excuse to run away from talking to girls. or using it as a reason for being a loser and not having a girl. you'd be a loser if you didn't try at all.
but if you can get a girl without the help of a bmw next to you, it would show how much better you are as a guy as opposed to someone who dates a girl that looks at his car instead of him.
you can go to local places, like cafes, to date. it doesn't have to be that expensive fancy restaurant downtown, or some sort of expensive designer's bag for the girl. if that's what the girl wants, find a better girl that isn't a golddigger.

and yes, get a job, if you want to have pocket money to spend on the girl without getting money from your parents who would probably ask you why you need it.

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Don't post here until you turn 20.

And topic starter, USE the pinned L&R thread.