[Valnity]

Is it just me whose mother judges my looks ALL the time? My mother always say I'm fat, ugly, I have the ugliest nose and that I should consider getting rhinoplasty, and that my chest is too big even though it's only B cup and I'm 4'11. She tells me to lose weight, and etc. Then today I asked her if I could get circle lenses to replace my contacts, and I showed her the before and afters of people who have them. She was pointing out at how the ulzzangs were so pretty and that I'm so fugly. It hurts!!!! It makes me want to cry! Especially coming from my BIOLOGICAL mother.

[lvff_]

hmm i have no idea but thats really sadd..i guess your mom is just a very up front person..next time you should say something..i dont know what to suggest because idk how close you and your mom are but im sure if you told her, she would change, because she loves you.

[Namine]

You shouldn't generalize it in the topic.

My mom only wants me to get like breast reduction surgery, because my chest is really big. (: (BUT I LIKE IT SO KEKEKEKH I'm keeping it sorry mom)

At the same time ----
My mom may judge me on looks, but EVERYONE judges EVERYONE on looks ! (you can't deny that)


But my mom actually :T like um.
Is worried if I suggest getting surgery.

Your mom is harsh, but omg.

[joyina]

Tell her it hurts.

But what makes you think she's saying it because she's Asian? o_o People from other races do it too.
If that's any comfort. :/

[sushisimo]

i guess its tough love... she doesnt wanna spoil you.. then you'd be a spoiled brat.. this way, your humble.. and you'll be stronger if someone saids something bad about you.. cuz your used to it?

You shouldnt think too much of what she saids.. tell her to F* off. lol.

[kai-milk]

my mom always makes fun of my big asian nose
and also critiques my skin and weight and stuff D:
idk tough love haha

[musicsmylife]

my mom usually just make comments about drinking milk :X so i can be taller and wut not
and my weight. but im like wutevs about it. cuz it's me and i already accepted wut i look like
so she shud just deal with it.

[pocketsoul]

It's always something to remember that just because she is your mother doesn't mean she is always right about everything. She can say the wrong things and do the wrong things just like everyone else.

The best thing you can do is ask for a moment of her time and explain your feelings to her. It's probably going to be really, really hard but will be well worth the effort.

[JazzyMina]

Awww Thats ho cham on u if ur Mam Says tht about u =O
If My mam ever said tht bot me, id slap her XD!!

If i was in ur postion, i would explain to ur Mam how ur feeling etc. Cuz i mean nobody really deserves tht kinda critisim, esp frm their own Mum O.O
Im sure if u let her no ur hurt, im sure shel realise and stop.
Keke Anyways good luck on wat hapens lah ~

Oh i just realised sumfing, dont we get our features from our parents? Aka Genes, so watever nose uve got etc, u probly got it from her init xD so next tym she mentions it, use tht agnst her 8)

[Mana Wannabe]

Is she also very insecure about her own looks? Does she spend a lot of time and money primping herself? If so, it seems the problem is on her side. She is projecting her criticism of herself on you as well. IMO parents should not be concerned about how their children look, unless it is getting into the way of the childrens' lives (eg sloppy dresser or obesity). If your mom is so concerned about your looks, she might be subconsciously treating you like a doll to be paraded around or something. Have a talk with her if you can.

[mint★candy]

maybe your mum is using reverse psychology?
thats what my parents do hahah. XD

they will always say that my marks are bad and i'm stupid in math but outside they brag about how i'm so smart. LMAO
i think your mum cares about you but doesn't show it as openly?
my dad never complements me but my mom tells me that he told her that i'm "(insert semi-compliment here)" but told my mom not to tell me.

i know some people whose parents think they are the most amazing child in the world.
even though they are average looking and don't get the best grades and just don't have many talents, their parents think they are the most beautiful/smart/talented/etc. child ever.
these people grow up to be really concieted and snobby because they've been raised to believe they are so great when in reality, are really average.
maybe your parents are trying to prevent you from getting too big headed, since it's good to be humble? (:

so don't worry too much about the things your mum says!
you could always just confront her and tell her that you're really hurt by her comments

[cerys]

I think your mother needs a slap in the face.

Okay, nono I'm kidding, please don't take offense ):

It's just that these sort of parents really pisses me off.

If I were you I'd be criticizing her looks as well. (Because I'm a rebellious sort of person that can't stand these sorta things)

Just try to ignore her comments, or reply by saying something good about yourself or of your features - smirk at her, show that you DON'T care what she thinks about your looks so maybe she'll stop it?

Actually, ask her why she would say that sort of thing to her own daughter.

Did you show her the before pictures of the net idols/ulzzangs before makeup ;D?

[cpnoodle]

My parents are the same way, they are very up front and tell the truth. Our parents generation many parents are like that. They are not sensitive to our feelings. Parents just don't understand. My parents do it in a playful way.

[AgentDNA]

Tell her that you can't help but taking after her, however "ugly" you are. You're her daughter after all. (j/k)

[superhumanchichi]

You shouldn't generalize it in the topic.

My mom only wants me to get like breast reduction surgery, because my chest is really big. (:

^ "Only?" Wow you sure take things lightly, Namine. And in that case I think she has a right to generalize in the topic. >.> And yeah, I'm Asian and my mom is the same way.

Anyway, Valnity - your mother really shouldn't tell you that you're ugly. I'm really sure that you're not. I have this really pretty friend (and I'm not just saying this because she's my friend) whose parents call her ugly, but honestly I think they only do that so that she won't be promiscuous...? I don't know, that's just my take on it. Either that or your mother is this beauty queen with high standards of beauty o_o
You should try telling her how you feel. I wish you the best of luck~

[-- CRYSTAL.]

you should tell her that you get your qualities from her. maybe that'll shut her up. it makes my mom stop talking and laugh hysterically.

[Lee-lin]

what the hell is up with mothers and every stupid urban myth they tell you to make you more beautiful

talk to her about how her comments lower your self esteem and hurt you, and that you want her to stop. if she gets defensive, ask her how it'd feel if she got insulted by her mother for her looks all the time... and if she did, ask her why she wants to torture her child in the same way

[_ATELIER]

bleh, just suck it up. doesn't matter how she feels about you,
even if she is your mother, as long as you're comfortable with yourself.
my mums pointed out some things about me, i dont take it to the heart.
one ... pwah, she made me. whatever i have that she doesn't like,
i can blame her for passing on such great genes
and two.. confidence is the key =P

[r i s a c h u]

you should tell her that you get your qualities from her. maybe that'll shut her up. it makes my mom stop talking and laugh hysterically.

HAHA that's what I say to her lmao!

sometimes she's like "ugh you're so...idk not so pretty"

then somedays she's saying like "you should be thankful to me for your beautiful genes"

and i'm like

Me: "yeah I should thank Dad."

lmao
burnnn

[k25]

lol my mom tells me stuff like that all the time. I can't help it but laugh, because I know I look good.