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ok so today my best friend (who's a girl) confessed to me her feelings and said that she knew even if i didn't like her back, we'd stay friends.

well, i returned the feelings, i just couldn't stop myself from falling for her and we were officially together today.

problem is, someone else likes me and apparently she cries to herself everynight cause i don't like her back and i spend so much time with this girl. i told her and everyone else who asked that were just GOOD FRIENDS and nothing more. so I'm afraid people will hate us lol....

but she's just an amazing girl that I can't let up
and she deserves it.

i really don't see a breakup in the future but if we do, do you think we'll still be close?

any tips from you experienced people? x] she's my first and i'm 15.

okay would like to hear what you guys th ink!
thanks!

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Don't mind the other girl. Just because she cries doesn't mean you have to show pity. She can't always get her way and has to realize that you have your own love life. If she's smart, she'd learn to get over it eventually.

But aside from that, congratulations and have fun with your new girl!

[chitah]

so i dont really know ur question. but if you like this girl, you shouldnt let this other girl who cant control her emotion ruin it for you. and if people dont approve of ur relationship with this girl because some other likes you, then tell to to **** OFF!. xP
just kidding, but really, they're bad friends if they hate you for not liking that other chick >_>

[huong]

that other girl needs to stop acting like she's in kindergarten. you do not need to go out with her cause she cried. if you like your best friend, then keep going out with her. and dont mind what other people will think about you two best friends are going out. best friends who start a bf/gf relationships are normal. I'm one of them. my best friend and I went out for almost 4 years...we're on a break sorta (its a long story, nothing bad happen to cause the break up but we're just not bf/gf anymore) but we are still best friends and we still love each other...so not every break up or hiatus is bad or become ex-friends...it can be a good relationship, so you're not gonna loose anything in the end. go for it!! and be in love, its fun!!

[CakeIsALie]

ok so today my best friend (who's a girl) confessed to me her feelings and said that she knew even if i didn't like her back, we'd stay friends.

well, i returned the feelings, i just couldn't stop myself from falling for her and we were officially together today.

problem is, someone else likes me and apparently she cries to herself everynight cause i don't like her back and i spend so much time with this girl. i told her and everyone else who asked that were just GOOD FRIENDS and nothing more. so I'm afraid people will hate us lol....

but she's just an amazing girl that I can't let up
and she deserves it.

i really don't see a breakup in the future but if we do, do you think we'll still be close?

any tips from you experienced people? x] she's my first and i'm 15.

okay would like to hear what you guys th ink!
thanks!

There's a first time for everything. Here's my honest piece of advice.
Pardon me for being blunt but you're both still quite young so don't expect this relationship to last.
You asked if you guys will still be close should there be a break up in the future. The answer is no. There's
no such thing as being close after a break up. You won't talk to each other and the pain
you will feel afterward will be ungodly. Believe it. However, time will heal you. Keep that in mind.
She's your first girlfriend and she's also your best friend. She could be your first love as well.
If this is what you really want then make the best out of it. You will never forget your first relationship.
Good luck.

[Dedicate*]

^

I went out with my bestfriend. After we broke up, yes we did stop talking. Everything between us did go awkward. Life goes on, we both moved on. A few months down the track, we started talking again. And things were just like how we were before everything happened between us. Actually, I think we might even be closer than before. So it is possible to stay close to your best friend if you guys do break up. I don't regret going out with him, it was wonderful while it lasted. A really good experience too.

[FusionGT2]

Bad move in my opinion. Going out with a friend is bad enough cuz of the high risk of losing that friendship. But a best friend? Wow thats like playing russian roulette. I dont know, u better hope it works out cuz if it doesnt, it wont be pretty. But then again you are so young. 15? Yeah you got a world ahead of you. Whatever happens, just take it as a learning experience. GL

[kuroimisa]

Ignore that friend.

It happened to me (only I wasn't the best friend, she was).

She COMPLAINED SO MUCH!! Even my boyfriend started rubbing it onto me and felt miserable. It felt like she was on a mission to make our relationship miserable because she was the one who got "cheated" or whatever (she thought she was totally in the running and #1 on the list).

Basically I told him to stop telling me off and start telling her off for a change. She was being immature and an attention seeker. She was trying to get him to pity her and act all cute.

I know I sound harsh, but because I'm a girl too, I really don't buy into that junk.

Problem solved, he told her off.

Bottom line is:

Don't let someone ruin your relationship. You just started - so keep at it. It only takes 3 months to tell if someone is right for you or not.

Your friend is only being immature and seeking attention. Don't neglect her, but don't be too nice or you can ruin your relationship.


As for dating a best friend... I don't see anything wrong with that. Don't be scared of losing any friendship. If she wasn't a true friend and only wanted you as a boyfriend or whatever, and broke off contact asap she probably wasn't a really good best friend after all.

[._.]

thanks for the input guys

and yeah, if we DO break up, i'm pretty sure it'll be mutual and not the nasty way.

i also liked her a while back, and when i confessed she kindly turned me down since she liked someone else. but we soon became best friends. she said she started to grow feelings for me while i was trying my best to find someone else to like. but.. in the end we just had each other :]

also when she confessed she said she's taking the chance because she knows that we will still be good friends even if i didn't like her back. that means she was ready for rejection. so I know that a breakup won't ruin our friendship unless it's like in an incredibly nasty way ><;;

[gisbiz]

lol....



sorry.

[ALYSSA]

You'll never know. Speaking for experiences, I married my bestfriend a couple of years ago.

We started out as bestfriend and then dated. After we broke up, we did not talk to eachother for half a year. But the feelings was always there, just wrong place worng time. And now, we're married with a son.

I never thought in one hundred years that I will be married to my bestfriend. I didn't expect nething. The first relationship was so messed up, I never thought I'll see this day. Just live your life day by day. You're too young to see the future.

[sweetiexpixelzzz]

Don't worry about the other girl. You shouldn't let what other people say stop you guys from being together.
However... if things go well then great. If not, it might just ruin the friendship. As much as people say "we'll still be friends" it makes things awkward and it'll probably take a long time to tie the friendship back together.

[bri2cu]

well im a girl and my friend just asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday- we aren't official yet but even if things didnt work out i know we would still be good friends. so i would say the same goes with you and your girlfriend. the crying girl is out of the picture- stay close with your friend cause you already know she likes you no matter what.