[JoycexGuo]

Ok, so basically, I've been dating a guy for a few months before we mutually decided to end our relationship.

We decided to become friends, close friends.

Welllllll.... that didn't turn out so well. We hung out maybe once a week, and that was all the communication I had with him. Basically, he said he couldn't talk to me everyday because he had 3 AP classes, and still had stuff for college, etc, etc...

At first, I called him maybe a few times a day (2 or 3) and whenever he answered the phone, he would become hostile. Then I remember one day when I took a day off from school, he IM'd me and told me to stop talking to him, and to stop bothering him and how it would be better if I wasn't in his life at all because he was busy all the time and I bothered him too much. (I called him maybe once a day. Now, I know homework takes up a lot of time in a seniors life, especially AP, but come on!)

I was so confused and didn't understand what caused this reaction from him. But THEN, a day later, he talks to a girl I'm "acquainted with" (We aren't really friends) at school, who's also his ex-girlfriend. I remember him talking about how much he hated this girl and how much of a liar and player she was. During class, I overheard her and her friends talking about how he asked her out to the movies and kept calling her nonstop.

Now this confuses me... you don't have any time to hang out, but at the same time you can call your exgirlfriend up nonstop?

So now, I'm kind of with a different guy, but we're taking things slow. Anywho, I remember one night when I was over at his house, we.... got intimate and all I could think about was my ex. It wasn't even only then, I keep thinking about him all the time... I feel as if I still have feelings for him, and friends just tell me that she's the rebound girl. What should I do? Get over him or still try to mend our relationship?

P.S... I know it's his choice of what to do, and you guys'll probably tell me that I'm just not over him, but I should move on, but I find it extremely difficult when I still want to be with him and even think about him when I'm with my new boyfriend.

[kmusic47]

first of all do you have feelings for your new boyfriend? how deep is it or are you just in strong like? just because you think constantly about your ex doesnt necessarily mean that you still have feelings for him. you could be feeling this way due to the conversation that you heard about you ex non calling to his ex girl that he was talking badly about and this could be bothering you, like why is he calling her when he said he didnt like her and why when you both decided to be friends, is he telling you to stop calling.....i just had a friend who is in fact in the same situation, and i just told her that she needs to stop calling him, y are you calling someone who doesnt even want to talk to you, you are just making it harder on you, and i also told her that she needs to find herself and not think about anybody, and that she needs to sort out her feelings. well she listened to me and is doing much better than how is were before hand. now its the other way around, her ex is calling her.........

[babigurl]

of course you are going to have feelings for your ex
because after all, that's why you dated him in the first place!
if he was an a$$hole to you like that
I don't think he is a good guy to date.
Obviously, if he was talking sh*t about his ex to you
he is probably saying the same thing about you to some other girl.

I think it's natural to have feelings for your ex
I still do after 3 years of break up.
but i am not going back to him, cuz I don't wanna repeat my mistake again- getting hurt

I'd say just stay neutral about your ex
and move on with your new guy
and created new memories!

[PoooBear]

Um I think the question would be, do you think it's gonna work out in the future? if you guys broke up anyways? I mean you did break up for a reason (even mutually, I would think that you BOTH wanted to end this relationship, not one-sided), why waste each others time when you could find other people.
Your ex sounds like my ex >:/ (freakin' stupid, not worth it)
I beat him about his own game in the end he just doesn't know it but he will eventually.

[JoycexGuo]

first of all do you have feelings for your new boyfriend? how deep is it or are you just in strong like? just because you think constantly about your ex doesnt necessarily mean that you still have feelings for him. you could be feeling this way due to the conversation that you heard about you ex non calling to his ex girl that he was talking badly about and this could be bothering you, like why is he calling her when he said he didnt like her and why when you both decided to be friends, is he telling you to stop calling.....i just had a friend who is in fact in the same situation, and i just told her that she needs to stop calling him, y are you calling someone who doesnt even want to talk to you, you are just making it harder on you, and i also told her that she needs to find herself and not think about anybody, and that she needs to sort out her feelings. well she listened to me and is doing much better than how is were before hand. now its the other way around, her ex is calling her.........

Haha, her ex is calling her? What an ironic twist.
And I LIKE the guy I'm with now... but we're not official or anything; we're just dating.

of course you are going to have feelings for your ex
because after all, that's why you dated him in the first place!
if he was an a$$hole to you like that
I don't think he is a good guy to date.
Obviously, if he was talking sh*t about his ex to you
he is probably saying the same thing about you to some other girl.

I think it's natural to have feelings for your ex
I still do after 3 years of break up.
but i am not going back to him, cuz I don't wanna repeat my mistake again- getting hurt

I'd say just stay neutral about your ex
and move on with your new guy
and created new memories!

Yeah, maybe you're right. I think I'm having feelings for my ex just because I was attracted to him when we were dating, and I'm only reminiscing about the good times, not the bad.