[mintchoco]

Sorry if this is going to be a long read but I'm in a pickle and I would just like some opinions/advice! ><;;
In celebration of my friend's birthday, two of my friends and I went to a nightclub on Sunday.
This is my first time clubbing and technically I'm not legal until a month later (I used my friend's ID)

So we just hit the dancefloor and threw our coats and purses on the floor (lol there was no coatcheck)
A few minutes later these 2 guys come up and start dancing with us
I was a little taken aback since I've never danced with a guy before (a sheltered life, I know) and they were good looking.

So one guy, let's call him John, pulls me over and starts twirling me and we danced with each other the whole night.
Later on, he positioned his face really close to me and I didn't know what he was doing at first and it was until he did it the third time that I realized he wanted a kiss...
So at one point, I look up, and BAM!
He kissed me and then he started to french me ><;;;

I didn't know what to do and I caught myself thinking "Drat! How do they do this in the movies?!" (LOL naive I know)
And so halfway during the french I pull back and bury my face in his chest since I didn't really have the guts to face him :-P
This happened a few more times until he had to leave but not without first getting my number :-P

So all in all I thought he seemed like a nice guy but I found myself thinking about how much of a skank I felt afterwards...
I lost my first kiss because of my bad streak for fun!!
I found myself unable to stop thinking about him and I waited for him to call, half-expecting to never hear from him again.

To my surprise he called the next night and we chatted for a little bit.
He said he had to go to New Jersey (we live in Toronto) on a business trip and that he wouldn't be back until a week and a half later.
He told me until then, that we had to do it again sometime and that we have to keep in contact.
I felt really giddy and took his word for it.
So today, I texted him an hour ago out of impulse and now I'm really anxious...

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So right now I just want some general advice as to what I should do now and to have some questions answered...

What did it mean when he called me back the next day?
How long should I wait until I hear from him again?...what should I do after?
Was texting him the right thing to do?

Thanks for reading, guys! ><;;!!



Edit: Thanks for the support and advice everyone!!
I greatly appreciate everyone's input and it helped me think a bit more rationally.
I think some posters are right and that the only reason I'm obsessing over him is most likely because he stole my first kiss.
But other than that, he might not even be the person I've been idealizing in my mind.

I guess it's because even though to some it was just a kiss, to me it symbolized alot more than that.
It's no use crying over spilled milk now but I romanticized the idea of my first kiss even though I know it's probably not very realistic in doing so.

But, I think I'll continue to keep in contact with him if he replies though I will not be expecting anything.
(And no, I won't "do the do" with him :-P)
Because even though I met him at a club, I want to have faith that I might have found a good person, as a friend or otherwise.



......And for those wondering, I turn 19 next month. ><;;

[Torento <3]

You're underage, does he even know?

That's pretty slack, you leading him on and he doesn't even know. You expect to go and play in the big adult world but don't expect these things to happen? Wow...

It's a kiss, who cares?

[Rainie]

Yeah...meeting up with a random guy in a club who is really in to you for one night isn't such a good sign. What they say is true...girls go to clubs to have fun with their girl friends, guys go to clubs to pick up girls. You might want to rethink how many girls he has picked up. Don't expect to get a serious or long-term relationship out of it. Of course, if you're not looking for one, and just wanna have some fun, then there's nothing stopping you.

[ailannguyen]

Wow.. In this state, I wouldn't even know what to do!

[Blu_Velvet_Sea]

don't look into it too much

I think most guys you'll meet from clubs just want some fun and nothing serious. So take it easy, unless your on the same page as he is Don't get too giddy, get me? lol

p.s. I was clubbin' in t.o sun! Republik sucked Lot332 was good.

[Torento <3]

Exactly.

Going to clubbing to meet people on the opposite gender usually means - Looking for sex.

If you want to find guys, find them in a safer and perhaps a more suitable location.

[Nerdy]

High five to that guy, lol

You must've had that 'deer in the headlights' look on your face when it happened

Don't expect to much of him. Enjoy the moment. Not all girls can have that fairytale first kiss, but you still liked it, right?

[D_K]

High five to that guy, lol

You must've had that 'deer in the headlights' look on your face when it happened

Don't expect to much of him. Enjoy the moment. Not all girls can have that fairytale first kiss, but you still liked it, right?

Exactly what I was going to say.

On another note, you're a gifted writer. I thoroughly enjoyed your story.

Thanks.

[ShadowMax76]

-pats- you bad lil girl you ;] LOl
hi five.

o_O' just.. don't dramatise the 'first kiss' thing.

i heard that "my first REAL kiss" thing go around to excuse girls from feeling like 'skanks'

_ if it doesn't work out, don't feel used. you enjoyed it didn't you? :3
find some other guy to play with. lol. - as much as it isn't advised-

[Migumii_]

Legally he can't touch minors but I'm sure he didn't know that
still I wouldn't expect anything out of it unless you want to be
friends with benefits haha

[Torento <3]

Yeah, friends with benefits are fun. But it gets boring very quickly to be honest.

Toronto is nearly my name in Japanese. Torento

[PhuongNguyen]

Not many girls first kiss will be the "firework exploding and sitting on a beach during sunset" kind of thing. Of course, there's nothing wrong with wanting that, but sometimes, the situation just happens.

With that being said, meeting some guy at a nightclub, and letting him kiss you, kind of gives me that red flag. Honestly, I find it rather dangerous and disgusting. You never know... most people who goes clubbing, go there to look for a quick laid. Not all; but most.

[Torento <3]

You better go get tested for herpes, it's on the mouth too!

Seriously, it's not a big deal. But at least wait until you're old enough to go clubbing, you obviously can't handle it.

[kwok]

On another note, you're a gifted writer. I thoroughly enjoyed your story.

Thanks.

+1! I enjoyed reading it too

[smiile]

hes interested--but hes just a guy u met clubbing.
i wouldn't take him too seriously.

[SillyyJenn]

you should be expecting these things considering the location ><
just take it easy and it'll work itself out? LOL x]

[babigurl]

yea..... this guys just doesn't sound.......... dateable...
i mean.. what he did was kinda shallow.. and WTF?
i would have slapped him if he did that to me...

usually people like that go for fun and hook-ups..
not serious relationships...

so i would just forget about him
and don't expect too much from him...
i know it's you first kiss.. but what's done is done.. you can't change it..

maybe he will want more than just making-out from you next time
so be aware and be safe!

[nubbie]

your first kiss was probably better than mine, i'll tell you that. lol


just be a friend to him and get to know him before anything. just cause he called doesn't mean you two will date later on

[Ringo.]

Actually, my best friend met her boyfriend at a club. So don't be discouraged.

But of course, still look at things with an open and cautious mind.

[babikaori]

well first of all, wtf!!! u let him french you...
you should be lucky he didn't ask for or do more to you

second, he probably wants to get to know u more so he can get a lil more action from you

sooooo......... don't trust him!!

you will find a better guy later on, and realized that club guys are not meant to be trusted