[Kirosuke]

My girlfriend, well I should say ex, recently broke up with me.
We were having a lot of problems, arguments, mainly about small things.
But we really liked each other, and we still do.
We talked and both agreed that we still want to work things out to a point at which we can both be happy
and there won't be stupid arguments everyday.
The thing is, there's another girl now, but I would rather have my ex.
I even ditched the other girl twice yesterday to hang out with my ex.
What bothers me though is that although we're set on fixing things and working things out
so that we can be together again, what she does sorta shows the opposite.
When we hang out with a group of friends, she still messes around and talks to our friends more
than with me. She says I don't talk to her, when she doesn't talk to me either.
I bluntly told her that she seems happier without me and she seems to not mean what she says,
but she denied that. She says she loves having me around. But eh..

I'm not even sure how I'm suppose to act now.
Because most of her friends know we've broken up, my friends know we've broken up, and
we're pretty much "just friends" in public, but when we're alone, we become like boyfriend/girlfriend
and everything seems perfectly fine. We both agreed that this "break-up" or "break" makes us
think of each other more, but what bothers me is that she only gets intimate when we're alone.
I mean, I'd understand if she was kind of shy about it, I know she's shy about PDA.
I'm not even sure what to think.
I'm sure that we both like each other, but what am I suppose to do?
Make moves? Not do anything?

I talked to the other girl and we've made it clear that we're going to be just friends, but I'm not too sure
how that's going to work out. I have a feeling we're going to end up not talking to each other ever again.

And to get off topic a little, this is all making me break out a lot on top of stressing over school and college
applications.


I think this became more of a rant.
But girls--and guys, if you've had the same experience--what should I do to get her back?

[7thprincess]

So why do you want her back? Move on. Its hella iffy that she is ignoring you in front of your friends and then all lovey-dovey alone. Give her an ultimatum. Get back together or stop seeing each other, privately.

[Eijiro]

You need to step up to the plate and tell her straight what you want. Otherwise you're just wrapped around her finger.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

i know you still have strong feelings for her
and i know she feels the same way.

but she is playing the denial game because she's scared.
just be there and support her.
be patient with her
don't pressure her back into the relationship
always be there if she calls

she'll know you love her.

[tjpnoii]

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When we hang out with a group of friends, she still messes around and talks to our friends more
than with me. She says I don't talk to her, when she doesn't talk to me either.
I bluntly told her that she seems happier without me and she seems to not mean what she says,
but she denied that. She says she loves having me around. But eh..

Well whether that part was when you guys are together, you should be giving her attention.
You seem insecure about whether or not she's enjoying your company when you're not alone. If she's happy talking, then make her happier to talk to you.

As for what you should do, do what makes you happy. If you like being with her, show her you care. If you think she's never going to be comfortable in public with you then don't bother. No need to hide.