[elvenazn]

Well, recently I've been seeing this trend within myself. Of coruse, when a guy likes a girl, it could range from "I like her because she is hot, cool etc." or at least what one views as "Wow...I really like this girl!". Well I've had that feeling about 4 girls throughout my life. I say 4 because I had that same punch in the gut feeling when I first saw them. Obviously, this isn't love, but I would say it leads to it right?

So my problem is, so far, the last two girls I've liked at this level have had other guys after them. First of the two, a person I lived with (also close friend) liked her too. I noticed, and backed off after a while. And later this year I figured out that they actually had a secret relationship. I was like "OMG REALLY?!" when I found out. Pretty crazy for me anyway but yeah.

The 2nd girl actually has ties to my friends from high school (college boy issoyo). So I was surprised. The first time I saw her, she looked pretty cool (Not in the COOL way, but, really chill), just a tad familiar, and had a peculiarly interesting personality. The next time I saw her, wow. I felt like taking a seat before saying hi! Again, I feel like I'm running into the same problem. This time, however, I see about 3-4 guys who I know (might be more who I don't know I could just be thinking about this WAYY too much) seem to like her. Now, I really like her. I think she likes me too but she is pretty much showing mixed signs. Sometimes it says yes, and sometimes no.

Right now, I'm considering if I should again back down and try not to feel that sting of losing a girl to some other guy and just stay friends with her. Or, I can confess!! (I don't think this is the right approach though) But, either way, I will be friends with her!

Should I just go for it? Do you have any suggestions as to why I do this? Am I scared of losing or just don't like the girl enough?! I've never had an actual, official girlfriend so I wouldn't know how the other person feels in a direct way.

Any ideas? =)

[Eijiro]

Because you're not man enough, too insecure and afraid of rejection.

[abercrombie]

REJECTION

Get over it.
You might lose something really good.
And plus even if you get rejected.That's the worst thing that could possibly happen/

[ShadowMax76]

^ heh.

maybe a more romantic excuse would be

" i love her too much , let someone better take care of her "

[Eijiro]

^ heh.

maybe a more romantic excuse would be

" i love her too much , let someone better take care of her "

Yeah, except that's not true. And it just sounds really insecure. Bad attitude to have.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

maybe cuz you think you want the girl to come to you willingly

but you have to fight for her first, so she even has that option.

show her why she even wants to be with you.

as a girl, if a man is not man enough to want to be with me.........then how is he going to protect me? how is he going to protect us?

the girl plays her part in the relationship too but it takes the guy to take a bigger step.

but before you do, you have to make sure is there a chance that she's even a least bit interested in you?
and is she having deep feelings with the other guy?

[ShadowMax76]

^ bad attitudes come from loneliness and a lack of experience. o_O' so i 'spose he needs some 'experience'

and the easiest would be a female friend. >>' he just has to restrain from falling for her, and she can't be afraid of being too close.

[love990024501]

i think it has a lot to do with your self-esteem issues.
you believe you're less deserving, so just work on
the self-esteem issue, i suppose.

[ShadowMax76]

okay. i'll take this seriously now. xD

0.5. Find some female friends. Learn what not to do with girls. [..you'll know when you do it.]

1. do not expect her to be head over heels for you. she's probably just an unconsciously flirty type, or you're reading too much into her kindness/character

2. just treat her as a special female friend. be comfortable talking to each other about personal stuff like love.

3. if you still wanna play the game, go for gold. LOL.

* n00b manual. not to be taken religiously.

[._.]

Rejection isn't always bad.

I confessed to this girl and sadly she didn't return feelings for me.
A month later, turns out she developed feelings for me after we became friends and now we're going out :]

[BakaPrincess]

You're too much of the nice guy. You need to step up your game, mister!
Besides, don't just think of what will happen, but the fact that you took your chances without backing down.
Life's all about taking chances. You don't want to regret, do ya?

[mimii]

go for it. competition is great, don't be afraid of it.

[xAzumi]

Do not settle for second best.

Work hard and get your dream girl.

Do not let that chance go away.

So work hard how you can improve your self, your personality, your lines, and how you put yourself together.

Are you someone that is funny?

Are you good at sports?


Choose something that you are good at. Everyone has a talent or a special ability that make them an individual. Use this talent to make girls fall in love with you.

Rejection is a life learning experience. If your reject, move on to a next girl who would appreciate you.

[Nerdy]

I'm thinking of a movie title...NEVER BACK DOWN

Go for it, dude. You already know what happens when you do nothing, so try something this time around. If you shelter yourself from enjoyable experiences, what will you have to look back on?

[vietboy90]

live is full of surprises and you should be excited to see what it is. you know, you can just talk to her as just a friend, even though you like, talk to her but act like you dont like her even though you know you do. if she doesn't notice you, make yourself interesting

[Kiribati]

If you're not first, you're last.

[cheerydumdum]

if you're always scared of rejection, how are you ever going to get a girlfriend unless they get the guts to ask you out first instead? just go and try to win her heart. you'll regret it if you don't try. cuz maybe you're the one she likes out of all those other dudes.

[ymt]

as what the above posters have said, i think it's your self-esteem issues. You're probably afraid of losing, so you just not try at all. But the thing is, if you like something (or someone in this case), you have to fight for it! Otherwise, you'll never get anywhere.

Good luck =)

[sayuri43]

just doooooo itttttttttttttt
be a man! do the right thing

[elvenazn]

Hahaha Thanks to all who replied. I guess it could be some combination of all of these. I just don't no how to approach if I do want to see what happens. Should I just directly ask her? or should I just be "close" and see what happens? Or just wait?! hahha so many questions I'd have to ask myself xD. Anyway Thanks again! I should be at least somewhat direct and take up a challenge if it is something I care about.