[michikosashimi]

okay, this is a new problem that came up O: i like this boy, he's really kind and sweet. today, i found out he got suspended from school because the teacher caught him smoking with his friend :9. his friends said that he was peer pressured into it, but i have no idea whats the truth. if this happened to you would you still like that person?? O_O

[wr3ck3dd]

I think you should reserve your judgment about him until you get to know him better as a person and to find a way to verify the truth of his claim of being forced to smoke...

Good luck!

[ShadowMax76]

Smoking:
if you decide to do it, you're doing self-harm. which is ignorantly effects others.
if you are forced to do it, you're just stupid and will follow anyone who's cool.

then again. peer pressure is grown out of.
oO' smoking... lol. you COULD make him quit 'for you' ;]

_ but... i would stay away from knowing 'those' kind of guys...

[heyitzthatfc]

okay, this is a new problem that came up O: i like this boy, he's really kind and sweet. today, i found out he got suspended from school because the teacher caught him smoking with his friend :9. his friends said that he was peer pressured into it, but i have no idea whats the truth. if this happened to you would you still like that person?? O_O

What's so bad about smoking? Well, it's definitely bad, but I don't think you should judge him by something like that. My parents smoke and I still love them.

Maybe the thing about getting suspended for smoking is a bad thing, depending on he got peer pressured or not.

[l1lvi3tqt]

that something up to you .you need to think about it. can you be with someone that smokes??

for me i cant. no matter how good he is but smoker is a BIG turn off to me.

[michikosashimi]

I think you should reserve your judgment about him until you get to know him better as a person and to find a way to verify the truth of his claim of being forced to smoke...

Good luck!

thanks for the advice
i've been wondering for the truth.

[rachilde]

Well this seems more like a trust issue than a smoking issue; it seems what you're really asking us is, "can I trust him when he says he's a good guy?" Frankly, there is no appropriate answer we can give based on the small amount of information you have provided; in addition, I firmly believe trust is an irrational feeling that is highly personal. People choose who they want to trust regardless of objective reasons (I certainly trust people other people do not trust, for example) and other people have to respect that.

[abusegirl]

...he smokes....not murders.

smoking doesn't make you a bad person. now if you lie about it...that makes you a liar. being a liar makes you a bad person. smoking still doesn't.

[I.like.foood]

I'd just be really shocked and ask about it :S
but yeah, yesterday my I came back from camp and hung around my bff
we had a campfire going in the morning so i smelled kinda like smoke when you sniff my clothes xD
so i was like "geez, i smell like smoke :S"
and he froze and was like "WHAT"
he took it the wrong way -__-

goshh, smoking's a really big issue when it comes to relationships and that isn't it =___=

[eximius]

Smoking isn't that big of a deal, unless it's just not a trait you'd like in your boyfriend or..crush, whatever.
My boyfriend smokes, he's not a terrible person... not all the time.

[Torento <3]

Yeah, it is only smoking. I mean, if it were any other drugs, I would be inclined to stay away from the person. However, if I had a partner that smoked, I would tell her that I don`t want her to smoke when I`m with her (particularly due to my asthma and sinus problems)

[jimsayskabloh]

LOL, this happened with a friend of mine a few weeks ago, except he was drinking.
i got mad at first, but later i just let it slide.
if you know that he's a good person inside, even if he did something bad, that's what really matters.
anyways, he's young, he wants to try stupid things like that jsut out of curiousity.
but if this develops into addiction, you may wanna distance yourself from him...

[pocketsoul]

Can you really justify smoking with peer pressure? ...Because that's how the nearly every smoker starts which kind of makes that little fact insignificant. I couldn't possibly imagine dating a smoker just because smoking disgusts me, but that might not necessarily be the same for you. If this is the only incident that you have been off put by this guy, then maybe you shouldn't discard him so quickly, but it also may say that you need to know him a little better. See if you his other qualities are more important to you then his smoking habits, and then decide. Random posters on a forum shouldn't decide if this guy is worthy of a relationship with you, you should decide that for yourself.

[lovecubedlee]

uh
i think smoking is hot
but if he was peer pressured into doing it,
that means hes really insecure and cares too much about what other people think of him
slash really immature.
even if you think smoking is gross,
i think if he just smokes regularly..its better than having been peer pressured
cuz...the motives reveal something completely different about the person.
he smokes regularly: k...that sucks...hes still the same person.
he was peer pressured: not mature enough to be in a relationship (k maybe im exaggerating but ive run out of ways to say hes immature)

[superjenny]

haha you must really hate smokers.
i don't know where you're coming from, but i'm used to guys smoking....... not that i like it but >_<
i mean, although i'd be pretty disappointed if i found out that a guy i liked smoke, i wouldn't be utterly shocked.
and even though i dislike smokers, i don't hate it THAT much in order to make me stop liking the guy i like.

and you could be the nicest guy in the world and do drugs.
no one ever knows haha.