[ShadowMax76]

i know what it's like.. to suddenly have no care for someone.
the reason probably is that i haven't talked to that person in ages ,
and our past is something that neither of us want to bring up. [i think]

she even msg'd me about her almost being attacked again.. i didn't feel a thing.
perhaps i felt she was just trying to grab my attention..

_ there's no intentions to bring up a hate thread towards myself, i just want to know if anyone else feels
'indifferent'
to people they were so close with once.

is it natural?
a matter of contact with each other..
how many scars there are in a relationship
or just a sense of justice.. from undone business.. ?


_ i don't ask because of that.. since i've said i don't feel a thing towards her..

it's because someone else couldn't care less about me now.

selfish and honest,
it's how the world works ..

maybe there's only so many emotions friends can feel for each other
then it's all over..?

_ or i just screwed up again. insensitively acting randomly happy when she's going through hell in hopes she'd smile the tiniest bit.

>>" okay.. that all mostly didn't make sense.

Question: have you ever felt indifference towards someone you were so close with once? and why do you think that happened?

[Kawakji]

Yeah, I don't talk to my old best friend anymore. Ever since high school finished, I could care less if he got run over by a semi.

Probably because he forced himself on a friend of mine in junior year D:<

Bastard. >_>

[ShadowMax76]

^ o_o'

eeash... @_@

[eximius]

I don't care for a lot of people I used to care for.
I won't bother to post in-depth details... but the majority of them either took on huge immature personas, or made alcohol and drugs into a hobby.
It happened simply because they're refarted, and I have, really, no tolerance for immaturity and substance abuse (been there, done that, BIG mistake).

[fabrications.]

I'm actually feeling this way right now. Heh. Sometimes I think I'm being too petty, but other times I think, "These people don't even give a crap about me, so why should I?" I have always been the one who always initiate conversations and etc. So I don't talk to many of my close friends/family anymore, and they don't really try talking to me either. So I just figured that if I was actually imporant, they'd make the effort to try to talk to me.

I pretty much have a long story too. lol.

[ohemffgee]

to me it was the distance, the time when you move from primary school to high school. i lost contact with most of my friends only on msn did i started getting pplz adding me and i realised they were from my primary school. i havent even spoken to them even once and mainly because of our different social groups.

sometimes its also teh past you had wit them.

this one guy, i wasnt particularly close to, but we were still friends, he started calling me a wh*re and after that i immediately cut him out of my life. my friends also dogged him to some extent that he rarely RARELY comes to my group. LOl call me slack but bleh, he knows so many pplz he'll live

[speak without my voice]

The past??
Well, I felt misunderstood and we just drifted away from one another. It doesn't bother me caz we just gradually drifted apart and it was a long time ago.

The other one... actually I still do care, so I guess that's not answering your question, but we were sort of dating and then he lost interest, and we haven't talked since then. It feels like we're not even friends anymore. It feels like he is indifferent to us not speaking anymore.

[Linnsterr]

i know how you feels.
im in the same position.
my close girl is always trying to get people attention
through out our friendship, its always a competition about who gets
the hotter guy.
sometime its really annoying, cause when i talk to a guy she wanna talk to him too.
when she was in the hospital, i didnt even feel sympathy towards her.
i guess cause im tired of listening to her my happy poopoo, i might sound selfish right there
but sometime i need to think about myself before her

actually as of right now, we not friends anymore
i cant take her bulls.hits anymore

[misturrho]

i just went through that recently... someone i didn't want to let go for so long. we met through mutual friends and we're both close to those boys.. so we go really close. our interests... EVERYTHING we were like twins, the guys we somewhat look alike and we turned to "sisters". ever since she moved to opposite direction, we try to visit her... everything was still going great until we hit college. she went to beauty school and i'm just at community college. she met people that do weed and other drugs... so she went back to weed and stuff, both of us used to blaze but i quit. 2 years pass by... we talked less and less and my friend (her 4 and 1/2 years boyfriend) called me randomly and said she broke up with him. they were known as the perfect couple, no arguments ANYTHING, everyone thought they were gonna get married cuz they were doing so well! he was all upset and i tried to talk to her to see what's going on she said nothing i just lost interest.. and i found out she had feelings for this HIGH SCHOOL KID at her work (i got her the job, so i feel f.uckin bad) then whatever she stopped talkin to me. i had a friend/co worker at work and he would ask me if i'm going to go see her later, im like she's here? EVEN I DIDNT KNOW ABOUT IT AND MY FRIENDS DO. and so on it repeats she stopped talking to me and everything and i told her ex, i tried so hard to keep in touch and be there for her like i always did no matter what. he told me to give it another try, so i tried... i asked her to hang out 3 times within... 2 months and she bailed them all. so i'm like you know what? screw you, everytime something's wrong you tell me nothing and i find out you're gettin worse and worse each time AND you don't talk to me but you talk to my friends. i dont talk to her anymore, i dont care what she does and everything. recently her ex called me and asked if i heard from her, im like LOL YOU KNOW YOU'RE ASKING THE WRONG PERSON WHY DON'T YOU ASK ______. i literally gave up on her and i don't care about her anymore, even if she's on her knees crying to me. i tried so hard to keep this friendship but you don't even meet me half way...

[jobenLOL]

yes ive felt this way before. this happened to me with alot of my friends during the first 2 years of high school.
like i had this friend that i met in 7th grade. we were heckaaaaaa close like id be able to tell her almost anything.
but up untill 10th grade she became a different person in a way? she started partying way to much, she drank and smoked almost everyweek, & she told me she wanted to get pregnant. and yeah, she says that she stays away from drama too but in reality i really do think she loves the drama. so yeah, i was just tired of her complaining about some girl wanting to fight her, her boyfriend breaking up with her & other stupid stuff. so now, idk. we never talk anymore? ever we see each other at school but i act as if she doesnt even exist. she was just waste of my time xD the awkward thing is, i share a locker with her x____x.
so yeah, i guess people change. even if its for the better or change for the worse.

[sus]

yea i hate people who are users
and onli are friends to benefit themselves..

people who put not effort into the relationship..
people that take u for granted...

lucki for me onli 1.5 (the other wasnt as bad as the first) person has been like that to me...

[`LANE]

my ex boyfriend & i were really good friends even after the breakup. but couple months back we got into stupid arguments, and haven't talked for 2 months. started talking again last month, and are now friends. but now i'm starting to feel indifferent towards him. i feel like i made such a bad decision in becoming friends with him again, and that all i ever do is become mad at him and just want to distance myself away. we click still.. but its just, he has his own life and i have my own. you just don't have the time for each other like before. and the past always gets in the way

[prisonerzero]

Yeah, I'm kinda going through it right now, actually. I had this friend since eighth grade (I'm a senior now) and she was all, "We'll always be best friends," blah blah blah. She'd always have me as number on on MySpace and promised I'd always be there, blah blah blah. She wanted us to go to prom together and I went with her, but I was the third wheel basically since she also brought another friend with her. She also started getting more and more ignorant and I couldn't stand being around her. She used to call me quite a lot but now she doesn't. She has called maybe three times in the past two weeks and I don't bother going to the phone anymore (then again, I didn't do much of it before). I'm actually sort of talking with her on MySpace now, but only because she messaged me first.

[SillyyJenn]

i have this one friend.
we met through the internet, then phoned for 3+ hours each day, and met in person for less than 10 days but i feel like she's the one who knows me best.
i took her for granted and said things that i should have.
we still talk once in a while but i guess we aren't close anymore because some things from the past.

[huyen2501]

i had to turn away from a friend because i felt very.....alone and used in our relationship. i would do almost anything for him...can't say he would for me. he seemed to care more about his coworkers, especially in the past year or so. i never felt like he appreciated me. i realized i knew very little about him as this year passed by. i do know he cared about what others thought about him. i am not the most beautiful friend you'll ever have, but i have a good heart and i am worth keeping around. i've wasted so much time and effort on someone who didn't know how to love me for me. i've always wanted a close friend i could talk and do whatever with......wishful thinking i suppose. i envy those who have a close friend.

so since i started to hate the way i was being treated, i started to say less and less. i let it out one day in june (not all of it) and he had nothing to say so i left it at that. do i regret it? sure i do. simply because i've become so attached to him. in the beginning of our friendship, i was so happy i had someone there for me. i wish i could go back to that time but since i can't.....i really do need the time to heal now. i owe it to my heart.

maybe one day, we could be friends again.....but that may also be wishful thinking....

[Humilious]

My best friend and I started drifting away because another girl clung onto her for dear life.

Then my best friend moved away for abour 3 years, and she's back, but she's changed. I used to like her for being an individual and not caring so much about what everyone thinks of her. Now she's just totally the opposite.

[RADcore]

Me and this girl grew up together, we're practically cousins.
I've known her since i was 3ish. haha. but we were so close, never had any fights leading up til last year (when i was 14 and she was 15), well we'd always tell each other everything, sleep over each others house every weekend, met the same people, practically did everything together.
Story goes.. well she was dating my best friend, and she was a total b**ch towards him, they'd always have arguments etc. me and him are really close, and then when he finally broke up with her. she started getting all jealouse about me, because of our closeness and then started talking behind my back, telling him things that wasn't true. she even said "....SORRY YOU LOVE LINDA" (linda being me) after all this happened, i stopped going to family partys, never even spoke to her again... but it's not only that. you see, she's ALWAYS been the prettier one and all our aunties would always compliment her and say bad things about me. because of the way i dress and stuff, and im usually hanging around boys and stuff so they think im a s**t (boys, being my brothers and his friends). she even dogged me on many occasions just to be with boys, my birthday, her birthday, heaps ! (she's a player, whilst dating someone, at that time she was seeing my best friend) that's when it hit me. i found out all the lies she's been telling me. and now she can't even look me in the eye....blhablahblah long and really complicated.

[popolala]

yeh i have feel indifferent around my once a best friend.. reason was because i changed! .. he even recognise that when i tried to hide it.. but his dicernment is good! even chattin to him on msn.. he could sense i sound diffferent! ..

i changed bcoz of something personal! ... which changed my whole personality! All the friends who knew me well said ive changed! ..and i seriously have! i dont sound the same no more! i actually sound rather depressing!

[ShadowMax76]

m...

i'm hearing:
"they changed. I disapproved of them"
"i messed up"
"they messed up. i disapproved of them"
" i changed. "

" i felt used and lonely"

and the drifting away thing.. how worlds grow apart. just after school. i'm guessin'.


m.. yeah. i just wanted to bump this depressing topic to get people thinking. :/

[seryberry]

i dont have any friends cause most of my former bff's only used me to benefit themselves...my former best friend only called me when she and her man fought. after they made up, she'd be gone until they fought again...