[Tarik]

Update: http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?s=&...&p=11445257

There is this girl, I liked her for almost 1 year now.
Allthough I never confessed to her, she stated that she wants us to be friends, no more. I didn't want to hurt her, because she's already lost a friends who had unrequited feelings for her, so I decided to stay friends, even if it hurt me all the time.
But basically I was fine, because we got so close to each other and stuff.. I thought she might have developed some feelings for me. She was really raising my hopes.
But suddenly.. BOOM! She told me she likes another guy, but is yet kinda unsure.
That really killed me.
I mean.. officially we were just friends.. but it was undeniable that we already acted like couple. (f.e. all of our friends thought we were a couple)
I gave all my best to please her and to make her feel good. She would always write me a message or call me if she felt bad and I would always cheer her up. (Once, we didn't talk to each other for 2 days.. and she messaged me at 1 AM that she felt really bad because of that and that we need to talk again, she said she couldn't endure it anymore without me... WTH!?)
Now she's telling me she likes that other guy.. I'm feeling really exploited and useless now.
Of course, I could have known that there might be another one.. but with all those things she said about us, I could never really believe it.
I think I'm gonna meet her and tell her how I feel.
Let's see how she will feel when I go out of her life.

Thanks for reading. I feel better now.

[la folie]

maybe she's just saying that she likes someone else because she's trying not to like you? and she doesn't want your friendship with her to end up like the one before?

[visuelz]

She sounds like a user. If she does indeed like someone else, then it will suck really badly. It hates to be used.

[Slug]

Take a chance, son. You never know until you try.

[nancy_vang]

hmmm.. quite good...... haha ur story is kinda like a romance manga book! aww! anyways yeah i think that she's afraid about what might happen to u like what happened to her friend . But u should go and tell her how u feel and if it don't work out cuz it might be too late to tell her how u feel and u guys won't make progress!

[rokky123]

Its kinda like me and my best friend

SOme girls are just like that,I used to do all the couple ish stuff with my best friend
but ive NEVER seen him in any other way but as the best friend

Doesnt mean im a user orwhatever

[ShadowMax76]

wow.
sounds familiar.

laddertheory.com
lol. i reckon it's true. >>'
get enlightened.

_ i reckon you just need to find a girl who'll want you.
then you can cut off the strings to your 'friend' one by one until you really don't feel anything for her anymore.

rebound? meh. some chicks out there are desperate too. they won't mind if they're a rebound. >>" they probably are usin' you as a rebound as well. LOl.

. anyways. o_O' i salute your maturity .

Its kinda like me and my best friend

SOme girls are just like that,I used to do all the couple ish stuff with my best friend
but ive NEVER seen him in any other way but as the best friend

Doesnt mean im a user orwhatever

my first reaction: "pft. denial~ "
second? to write it down.
third.. my laddertheory.com inspired thought process
, me saying to you:

guys don't have that 'friends' zone _ it's either he likes you or he has someone better.

[koarla]

Thanks for reading. I feel better now.

aw. (:



Some girls just need to feel needed.
They'll have boys who they "crush" on, but it's more infatuation than "love"
But they'll usually have one very special boy who is their rock, who she knows she can fall back on every single time because he'll catch her. She's always, always going to be there for him, and she hopes that he'll always be there for her. She probably liked him at one point but got over it and convinced herself that they were just going to be best friends forever
Because best friendships are better than bf/gf relationships
because even though her bf might leave her, her best friend/almost-brother never will

and that's important for a girl to know--that someone will always be there for her


It doesn't mean user/abuser
It just means you make her feel secure, and she never wants to lose you or that subconscious feeling of being loved.



but please please don't ever drop her
you'll break her and she'll cry and that's the only thing she's ever going to think about

(unless you're a sadist)




It's a lot to ask for, I know
to sacrifice your own feelings or whatever for her sake
but I mean... isn't it much better knowing that you'll always have her no matter what, even through your future girlfriends and your future breakups?



haha you probably guessed,
speaking from my own experience




edit

I don't think it's as superficial as that
Well some girls yes, but I don't think MOST girls are like that
like they just use boys as toys ... especially if theyre going to go crazy after not speaking to him for only 2 days ?
V

[L.FOR.LOVE]

soem mgrisl feel as if, they want someone, to act like a couple with ?
it`s like, makrs you fel godo about yourself O_o"
then when you find someone you really like, you become the problem person to turn to (;
thats my opinion of whats she`s doing to you right now

[visuelz]

I'm telling you. Those girls will change once they get their boyfriend. You won't mean as much to them. No hugs, no late night chats. After a while, they won't even speak to you anymore. I know this first hand. Don't be the nice guy.

[bbyxwinnie]

Let's see how she will feel when I go out of her life.

1.) you sound REALLY selfish here. it's like you already stated that she wouldn't know what to do without you. and yet you're saying that. she probably sees you as a really important friend and it's not against the law to like another guy. just because you have feelings for her and you two 'supposedly' acts like a couple does not mean you own her feelings.

yes. i know i sound like a pinkberry right now. ;o

[visuelz]

1.) you sound REALLY selfish here. it's like you already stated that she wouldn't know what to do without you. and yet you're saying that. she probably sees you as a really important friend and it's not against the law to like another guy. just because you have feelings for her and you two 'supposedly' acts like a couple does not mean you own her feelings.

yes. i know i sound like a pinkberry right now. ;o

And it's not against the law to be selfish in times like these. Selfishness is human nature. We will not go without a fight.

[Tarik]

Hey guys,
thanks for all your replies!!

So today I confessed to her.
We were at Starbucks. I told her we'd have to talk. So after I bought us 2 Frappucinos we sat down..
After ~5 minutes of silence.. I finally made it to tell her that I'm in love with her..
She rejected me (kinda harshly). She said I've never been more than just a friend.
I asked her why she did all the "couple stuff" with me then. She said that's just the way she treats her close friends.
But she told me that things with me were much deeper than with any other friend.
From the beginning I was just a friend to her.
Then I asked her about the other guy. She said they don't get along well when they're alone..
And what hurt me the most was.. she made out (i hope that's the right term.. i'm german) with that guy.. like.. 4 months ago.
But they didn't get into a relationship.
Somehow, I feel like she has cheated on me.. It hurts to think of that guy and her making out..
I said we will still be friends, even if it'll hurt me a lot.
So yea.. that's all for now.. I don't feel like writing more, I feel really rather infelicitous. That guy.. I hate him..
Oh yeah, tonight she's going to hang out with friends (including that guy).

Btw: she was about to cry when we were talking (she held her tears back)... and she told me that it was my fault too. I should have told her right from the beginning about my feelings...

[zgnoud]

Hey guys,
thanks for all your replies!!

So today I confessed to her.
We were at Starbucks. I told her we'd have to talk. So after I bought us 2 Frappucinos we sat down..
After ~5 minutes of silence.. I finally made it to tell her that I'm in love with her..
She rejected me (kinda harshly). She said I've never been more than just a friend.
I asked her why she did all the "couple stuff" with me then. She said that's just the way she treats her close friends.
But she told me that things with me were much deeper than with any other friend.
From the beginning I was just a friend to her.
Then I asked her about the other guy. She said they don't get along well when they're alone..
And what hurt me the most was.. she made out (i hope that's the right term.. i'm german) with that guy.. like.. 4 months ago.
But they didn't get into a relationship.
Somehow, I feel like she has cheated on me.. It hurts to think of that guy and her making out..
I said we will still be friends, even if it'll hurt me a lot.
So yea.. that's all for now.. I don't feel like writing more, I feel really rather infelicitous. That guy.. I hate him..
Oh yeah, tonight she's going to hang out with friends (including that guy).

Btw: she was about to cry when we were talking (she held her tears back)... and she told me that it was my fault too. I should have told her right from the beginning about my feelings...

You did good mate, dont worry bud. You confessed, thats more ballsy than most chickenmini coopers... and if she dont want you, then thats bad luck for her. Now that its all out of your system, im sure tomrrow will be a better day.

[eternal.happiness]

At least you were able to confess to her, kudos to you for that much.
but that girl should see the boundary of just friends and being in a relationship.
If anything try to maintain the friendship level.
Because there's no point in getting hurt all over again,
if she ends up going out with some other guy.
BEST advice would be to find ways to get over her (feeling wise).

[Deafz]

Rofl...just be another guy. Good luck.