[xxnoodlez]

Ahhh...where should I begin? Is it possible for someone who is shy and lacking self-confidence to grow out of their shell? I don't know if there are any other people out there like me but I feel so abnormal. I'm a girl, 16, but I have never experienced a love or even a middle school "relationship". Sure I have had crushes but I've never made any moves. At high school, I feel so constricted and self-conscious that I've only made a limited amount of friends, and none of them are guys! It's like I'm scared or afraid to even talk to the opposite sex! Is there any hope for me? I know I'm only 16 but I've always had this silly thought that I might live the other half of my life by myself. Haha...this really sucks. Not only do i have so little friends, the possibility of even having one boyfriend is sooo low maybe even non-existent. I wanna live LIFE! any hope at all left????

[sh1neweare]

well you're only 16 you have your whole life to live, and as you grow older, you'd likely to become more outgoing especially in college. a lot of guys will dig ya don't worry bout it

[Prot]

Don't change you as a person, for the sake of getting into a relationship. You do need to get over your fear of speaking to the opposite sex however. Why should you be afraid to speak in the first place? If you don't meet guys and you don't talk to them and you don't get to know them, how will you be able to even make a male friend? If you find someone you are interested in, speak to them, get to know them. You can't jump from stranger to married (well you can but then divorces occur).

[x0_saturn_0x]

I suggest joining clubs or teams to make new friends.
It'll help you develop your social skills better and you'll be able to relate to people around you which will make it easier to strike up conversations.
Eventually you'll build up more confidence to talk to anyone! Guys especially =]
Just take some small steps first just to get comfortable in approaching people.
Good luck!

[f0reveralways]

i never really made any guy friends until i was 17.


there's still hope! lol.


for me, the friends started rolling in high school senior year. dunno why. just did.

[Dragonlove]

aww listen to what the other people have said!! Youre still young!!!! This is NORMAL!! this stuff honestly isn't that important and you aren't missing out at much i promise you WILL find someone just don't stress about it and it will come to you. But in the mean time you could try to be more social? If you have problems talking to guys then maybe you can ask your girl friends to introduce you to some of THEIR guy friends and start hanging out in groups with guys and girls. there's nothing wrong with being shy don't be so hard on yourself.

[miika]

Speaking out of experience,
I was just like you.
In grades 8, 9, and 10 I was shy, had low self-esteem, and didn't talk to guys much.
I didn't have my first boyfriend until gr 12.
But I changed a lot since gr 10 til now.
People post as if being outgoing is easy, but it's not...
I had to force myself to come out of my shell.
And if I hadn't, I think I still would have been like before.
If you really want it, you can be whoever you want.
Don't care what other people think.
Be whoever you want to be!
Guys aren't the enemy.
If you lack self-esteem, find out why..
Do you not think you're pretty enough?
Well I wasn't pretty, that's for sure.
A few guys bullied me in grade 8 =__= Calling me names like ugly and stuff.
But I did whatever I could to boost my confidence,
and changed my looks,
A LOT of guys hit on me now,
cause...
It's all about CONFIDENCE.
How you present yourself.
If you don't think you're good enough, others won't either.
LOL don't worry, you have plenty of time =)

[Dragonlove]

hm I like Miika's advice!! If you really want to change than you must find it in yourself and be determined. confidence is definitely everything

[小甜密]

You're not 80. So don't worry about living by yourself with 1342049812094 other cats. while yelling at random kids off the streets.

[jN x3 sK]

You are still young, I say that you have nothing to worry about. There are a lot of people who are just like you. I was like you at one point, bit then I eventually grew out of my shell. Don't give up hope you still have a long road ahead of you.

[Torento <3]

You're 16, it's normal. Believe me, it's SO MUCH better than being the opposite.

[xxnoodlez]

reading all your replies and advices bring so much encouragement for me! i totally agree with the fact that i do need to push myself out of my shell. it's soo hard to build up ones self-confidence. haha..whenever i start to speak i start getting nervous and didn't even make me point across! it's like i don't even know how to speak normally!! whenever some ppl start with a convo i couldn't even keep up either because of the topic or because i'm just not that caught on with the current slang or events. i'm totally viewing things from the outside rather than being a part of it!

[x_MiSSANN]

Gee you have a long way to go... And i have a some what a similar problem to you. Most of my friends are guys, there for im one of the "guys". So having too many guys friends isn't necessary good either. Plus my guy friends call me manly and predict that i will live with 10 dogs when i get older all the time. So no big deal. I'm pretty sure like me, you'll find someone out there for you sooner or later.

[sus]

ur just 16
theres so much time for u to grow up
i was like u too

all u need to do is get out of ur comfort zone.. n ull see everything will be ok

ull slowly experience things over time n u WILL get a bf

[kelvin6]

I'm a guy and it took me till college before I got any luck with the ladies... . Its different for everyone.

[xl0v3juicy]

To be brutally honest, if you continue acting the way you are now, you most likely have no hope. If you don't talk to / know any guys, the chances of you getting a boyfriend are practically zero.

However, since you realize that you do need to change and come out of your shell, there is definitely hope . Just try meeting guys through your friends and try talking to guys in class. You'll be surprised at how much easier it is to talk to them. Honestly, I find that guys are somewhat easier to talk to than girls.

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