[chiluvskk]

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[Poop-Shoop-A-Loop]

Oh gosh I went through the same exact thing last year.

I didn't feel the butterflies or excitement in seeing him but I still look forward to seeing him. Other days I would avoid him altogether. and whenever the 'bf' subject or 'crush' subject came up.. he would automatically pop into my mind even though it felt like I didn't like him.

I was sooooooo freaking confused lol. Cause while I was battling with myself.. he confessed to me which made me more confused x_x~

TUrns out I didn't like the guy.

But don't think that just 'cause you don't have butterflies, it means you don't like them. It could be you're just comfortable with them or some other reason.

I can't really help you sorry. Haha.

oh wait, here's a thread i created about my predicament. the replies might help you?

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=186956

[CeeTeeYaoowww]

Yaow

i know how you feel and stuff... I know how this sounds... but only -you- would know the truth. i know that doesnt help at all... but lemme try to explain

From what you said it sounds liek you like him...
-Liking somebody is basically just.... having somebody that you really enjoy being around, somebody you can talk to whenever you like, somebody who makes you laugh, makes you feel special, somebody you can be yourself around, BASICALLY you could spend like a week with him and not be sick of him, not get enough of him. So from what you say it sounds like you like the guy ^^ Even if your heart doesnt race or you dont get butterflies when youre with him... that might be a -good- thing. Cuz it means that you are -that- used to him and -that- comfortable around him that your heart and mind are used to him.... kinda liek he is ... already part of you ^^ stuck onto you kinda =]
SO YEA ^^ if you know what i mean

BUT from experience
-Sometimes... your mind tells you that you like him... cuz you think.... that you might. and you kinda want a boyfriend, the feeling/fact of having one is something that you want or the fact that they like you... makes you feel special. so you trick yourself into liking him... BUT in reality you dont. It usually ends up bad if you are REALLY unsure about it and keep getting insecure.

People always -think- that you will know INSTANTLY if you like somebody... but sometimes you just dont know yano? and you kinda have to sit down and listen to your heart.... Kinda... THINK how you would react... if he just happened to dissappear out of your life.. or if... he went out with another girl... youll know ^^

Sorry... i dont know you xD... so i cant really help

[torrentgray]

I think... I'm having this problem too. I mean I really liked this guy right.. but after a while.. even though he SEEMS to have developed "feelings" for me (I'm assuming), i feel like.. i dont like his AS MUCH anymore O_O Well, when I see him, i cant stop staring at him.. and i thnk about him and what not.. and i know i like him... but sometimes... i just feel like there's just so much more to life then him.. and i forget him momentarily. but it makes me so confused! and sometimes i get scared i wont like him anymore. but hopefully im just crazy.

[naito]

I don't think you really like him.

Speaking from experience, if you're unsure that you like them, then you probably don't. If you want it to work, you have to be really sure. What especially makes me think you don't really like him is when you describe feeling "yuck" about him.

If you feel like you don't want to see him because of that "yuck" feeling, I don't think it's worth pursuing. In the end, you might try to force yourself to completely like him, or lie to yourself, which is just going to make it harder for you later on to be happy.

[arianna90]

dont go for it if you have doubts. nuff said.

[yellowchocolate]

dont go for it if you have doubts. nuff said. smile.gif

agreed.

i went through a similar dilema... a few weeks ago, lol
i made a thread on soompi too.

and i think the best advice on it was that it takes two to "row a boat", and if your not committed your boat wont "go anywhere" just like your relationship.
[the pro analogy is here http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=253594] xD

hope it works out for you, but if your not sure about it, then even if you do like him, i dont think its enough to go out with him?
you should be sure you like someone before you go out with them =]

[Kira_Hyuu]

Well i mean people always say there are signs and like when u sleep u'll think about then...i think thats all a load of like crap....Look if u think u like someone just go out with them and everything will become clear....u've got nothing to lose so why not get things over with right away instead of stuck in ur head...

[Poop-Shoop-A-Loop]

Well i mean people always say there are signs and like when u sleep u'll think about then...i think thats all a load of like crap....Look if u think u like someone just go out with them and everything will become clear....u've got nothing to lose so why not get things over with right away instead of stuck in ur head...

Right, go out with the guy because you've got nothing to lose. It doesn't matter how he feels at all after you decide to dump him cause you realize you don't like him

[Dreamss]

umm im kinda having the same problem too haha
theres this guy that asked me out, in a way and i dont really even know him
but hes so darn cute and he keeps coming in my mind and everythingg ARGH
but i was just thinkin bout askingg him if he still likes me and if we go out then we go out
i mite regret it if i dont ask so i think you should just give him a shot? (:

[P a p e r_C l i p]

Usually I figure it out whenn:
i find myself thinking about him a lot
or when we're in the same area/class i want to be near him or in his group for an activity or something o.o
i deliberately don't pay attention to him while watching him out of the corner of my eye xD

[shiddoni]

If you like him to a certain extent, give the poor guy a chance... You have no idea how hard it is for a guy to confess his feelings....

[chiluvskk]

I just don't want to go out with him when i'm not sure i like him or not yet, and hurt him if i do find out i don't like him ><
i don't want our friendship be broken because of this argghh!!!
another thing is, i think i know what the problem might be. I think i'm emotionally attracted to him because he has an awesome personality, but sometimes i don't feel physically attracted to him? at times i can imagine holding hands with him and stuff, but at others time i feel bleh at the thought of it. Perhaps that's what's holding me back from really liking him?

u know how they say relationships needs emotional and physical aspects...


Thanks for all the responses guys!

[AigoBoy!]

Give it some thought. He might be able to wait for your response. Me personally, I'll wait for her exact response before having contact with her.

[-LoVe-]

I just don't want to go out with him when i'm not sure i like him or not yet, and hurt him if i do find out i don't like him ><
i don't want our friendship be broken because of this argghh!!!
another thing is, i think i know what the problem might be. I think i'm emotionally attracted to him because he has an awesome personality, but sometimes i don't feel physically attracted to him? at times i can imagine holding hands with him and stuff, but at others time i feel bleh at the thought of it. Perhaps that's what's holding me back from really liking him?

u know how they say relationships needs emotional and physical aspects...


Thanks for all the responses guys!

Well I'm sure a lot of peoples' have experienced this even me :]! Like i liked this guy and like it's weird that i don't have like butterflies in my stomache whenever i see or talk to him. I just feel very comfortable with him and he is soo nice! But to me i think you just don't like him, but you like his personality? Like i like someone that has the BEST personality, but it's not like as in a boyfried like. Did i make sense? hehes. ^-^;
I thought i liked this guy because i use to like him, but no butterflies and there is another guy that i think i like and when i see him my heart just beats madd fast. so this is how i could tell if i like someone. I hope this helps in a way? >o< But i'm sure that if you he has an awesome personality and you feel doubts about giving him a chance, i think you shouldn't be together because you might have doubts till the end and i would never want to lose a good friend.