[msPAHUA]

Okay, so I was reading this post by this girl about her boyfriend not giving her enough time.

Similar, I have a situation like that as well. Although, my boyfriend might not be that big of jerk as her, he has his downfalls. We're a long-distance relationship for about 1.2 years now.

I guess this problem has always been an issue. When we first started dating, I felt like his friends were always a priority over me. Whenever, we talked about it - we would fight and he'd promise to come back to it the next day, but than we just kind of act like nothing happened the previous night. Getting tired of that, I threatened to break up with him a couple of times - saying that I understood that he needed time with his friends, but because we're also far apart physically - I at least deserve the same amount of time. He said he would try and eventually things got better. But now, it started up again. At first, it was because he had to work earlier than usual. He would wake up at 4am and be at work by 5am til 3:30pm. So I understood. But what I didn't understand was that even on those nights he was hang out with his friends all day till like tenish and come home to me and only talk for like a half an hour maybe even less. It constantly happened. Throughout the day, we only talk for a big during his lunch break and a little bit when he gets off work than he is always around his friends till night fall. So annoyed, whenever he told me he was tired only a couple of minutes into our conversation, I would just hang-up upset. I know that he works. I know that he wants time to hang out with his friends - but why can't it all be balance? I know he knows - because whenever I did that he would text me and apologize and say he would try to make time for us. I took the bait for a couple of times. But soon, it happened again and again. His excuse were, I was tired. I fell asleep. That kind of annoying excuse.

I'm just getting soo freakin' tired of being patient for him. The next day, when I'm waiting for a sorry at least - he doesn't say anything. When I ask him to apologize - he says he didn't do anything wrong. That just pisses me off.

Don't get me wrong guys, I know that JERKS want time for themselves and their friends and such. But when is it too much to be considered inconsiderate and unthoughtful? You know, though I know this JERK always does this, I wait up for him. When he doesn't apologize, I somehow programmed myself to just forget about it? And, I'm soo tired of it. I'm soo tired of him always doing this to me. I love him soo much and this JERK can never see it. He just never seems to understand how difficult it is to be with someone like him.

I know he loves me. He came to visit me this past weekend, and the love was there. I felt soo happy next to him and he made me feel so loved. But what I don't understand about him is that when we're apart, how can he make me feel like that? Because we're long-distance - there should be more effort. And how he make me feel physically being there and not being there shouldn't be different right?

Gosh, I hate him so much right now.

[Gofishus]

You can't say that someone is a 'Jerk' because they are not in the same situation you are and doesn't see the way you see things...so I'm not surprised when he said he didn't do anything wrong..because if I were in his situation I wouldn't know about this and probably say the same thing. And don't be so quick to hate people...you will regret it if he breaks up with you due to some misunderstanding and you decide you shouldn't have hated him.

[l1lvi3tqt]

you telling me he hang out with his friends everyday???? how old is he again?

i thinki would be mad too. esp when you guys are LD> my bf and I are LD also, so i know how you feel. sometime my bf goes out till 4 - 5 AM but only once in awhile. not every night.

what there to see his frriends all the times????

[sugarjeong]

that's one of the biggest problems with long distance, you neeed a HELLA amount of trust to keep the relationship going.

This problem may not seem as big . if you step outside of it
Just do what he's doing GO OUT AND HAVE FUN. you have friends too

[idiotsucks]

long distance relationship..
the only piece of advice for you is
be 101% patient than any other girls
= /
you gotta hang on if you want the relationship to last

[eternal.happiness]

when you're in a long distance relationship, you can't expect them to talk to you 24/7.
because where they are, they also have a life.

yes its hard to be in a long distance relationship;
but this is your choice. && if you love him enough you'll talk with him about it.
and if anything, be more patient/understanding.

[billthegreat]

i suggest to broke up. your too scared to move out of your comfortable spot and rebuild that kinda relationship you want to have and feel secure. Every day your meeting a lot of man, and in those man some are single, and some of those single person might be the one.