[hanaholic]

I mean, I love my parents but my mother has a thing with me being something "professional" later on in the future.
I explained to her when I was 10 years old,"I want to be a painter!"
She only glared at me, knowing I can't go anywhere in life by doing that.
She said to aim for being a lawyer, a doctor, or a professor.
It makes me so ANGRY guys!
I kinda strived to become a fashion designer back then, but my mom only shook her head and sternly told me "You have no support at all from me."

Of course, if I wanted to be a doctor for example, she would nod her head, giving me her full support.

Any of you guys in a simalar situation?

[onewaylove]

Yup yup... when i said 'i want to be an artist!' when i was little my 'rents were like... you're not going to get anywhere with that crushed my dreams haha

now i'm a sophomore in high school and i dont have the slightest clue what i wanna do with my life. and my parents act like i'm stupid, that i should know by now

[soulremix.]

My parents and family are like that.
My mom and grandma want me to be a doctor.
My dad wants me to be a lawyer or something.
Those are things I don't really want to do.

I really want to be a photographer though. Or something like that.
I asked my dad to buy me a DSLR camera and he asked me why.
It was to try out some photography, but I didn't tell him that.

I guess I don't want them to make fun of me for doing that and get mad 'cause
it's not what they expect me to do.
And I don't want them to tell me that that job won't get me anywhere.
It would crush my dreams, lol.

Anyways, I don't think I'd make a good doctor though. When I was little, I wanted to be one.
But as I got older, I changed my mind.

Idk, I guess I get a little angry and annoyed that they'd rather have me do what they want me to do
& not let me make my own choices.
So yeahh

[K-PopFighting]

I noticed many parents want their daughters/sons to be nurses/doctors all the time.
WHYYY?! its getting so annoying so that we can go abroad?! geeeeeez.

[Pol2ns7al2]

most asian families are overly pragmatic
can't really blame them though, they lived a rather infelicitous life before they moved here
if you fulfill your parent's dreams you're gonna become self-loathing
the only reason i haven't declared as a voice major yet is because i'm still open to more reliable high paying work fields
i still don't know what the hell i wanna be other than a poet/music artist

[Daiquiri]

In the end it should be what makes you happy. This is a career you are going to have for 30+ years. If it's a job you hate or have no passion for, imagine doing that career (you absolutely hate) for that span of time. You're parents might not be happy about it but if it makes you happy in the end, then that's all that should matter.

[Poop-Shoop-A-Loop]

I've always wanted to be a teacher.. ^^ my parents said no.
That's like my .. dream job lol but realistically I wouldn't go for it (I dont mind the pay but there are other reasons I ended up not taking that path)

My parents were dead set on me becoming a doctor or a nurse. They soon realized it wasn't an option as I got older. I cannot handle blood at all. They had to accept that I wouldn't do well in that field XD. Funny thing, just a couple weeks ago my uncle was giving me a lecture on how I had to become a doctor and my dad actually scoffed at the idea. Haha. He was like, she'd faint. xD. My parents said they would support me in whatever career I choose, as long as it was something that brought in a substancial amount of income .___."

[huyen2501]

my mom expected me to be a pharmacist. but i started leaning towards teaching since i loved working with kids my senior year in high school. uhh she went psycho on me. she cried and yelled at me...literally nagged at me everyday. it took her a long while to realize her nagging wasn't gonna change my major. haha i had some problems come up at my uni so i changed my major. i was gonna do psychology but my dad started nagging. first it was mom and now him. they finally backed off when i said i'd go for nursing.

if i had a choice to do whatever i wanted, i'd be a photographer.

[torrentgray]

^ yeah, my mom expects me to be a pharmacist too. but the more she wants me to be one.. i think the more i hate it. I mean, yes it makes money. but i'll hate myself for the rest of my life. (and i dont think im smart enough, or DETERMINED enough to go into that field.)

I'd MUCH rather be... the crew working behind a tv drama, or anything to do with music, whether if its composer, or piano teacher. I LOVE MUSIC.

[yunshin_*]

LMAO, my mom expected me to go into either law, accounting, med, or pharmacy. When I told her what I really wanted to major in in college, she totally flipped rofl. But she supports me because she liked how I planned things out and as long as I earn enough to buy her a house within a few years of working she doesn't mind. Too bad, there won't be a house for her in the near future hurhur. It's even funnier when she expected me to go to Harvard like any other Asian parent except she thought Harvard was in Florida LOL.

[chitah]

I feel like all Asian parents are like this. I know mine are. It's either law or medical school

[flipxsideee]

my parents seriously want me to go into medicine, law or science. even though its not my thing right now.

[winteryskys]

yeahhh. my mum (not so much my dad) wanted me to be a doctor or phamacist. when i was young i wanted to be a music teacher.
well im in uni now majoring in accoutning and finance.

[twinkle_l0ve]

I think you'll find a lot of people relating to this considering soompi is predominantly Asian
My parents were like that when I was young "You'd be a great doctor!... so you better become one "
Now, they've given up on me becoming a doctor/lawyer/anything that Asian parents love, and are letting me do what I wanna do (as long as I'm still in school etc.)

[princessjimyung]

My parents have supported my dreams 100%, but they pressure me so much of being the best that I can be.
I have been a 4.0 student since God knows when, but they expect so much more from me.
While my sister gets away with a 2.0 every quarter, I am expected to be the best and get a scholarship.
Not only that they just pressure me into being a doctor. I've alwyas wanted to be a pediatrician, but they want me to become a surgeon.
But I dunno. lol. I guess I am lucky that they usually support me.

[J'adore]

I told my dad (cause he's more of the person who cares about what I become in the future more).

I told him I don't have the potential to be a doctor or something overly achieving in life. I'm just a simple average girl with my own goals....I mean sure I'm trying to graduate from university as an Engineer...but I am heck scared I won't be good enough to get a job easily. I do want to be rich, not because I'm superficial, but I know life would be easier especially when starting a family. I just know I can't be the best of the best and get head hunted though I wish I could.

Though he reminds me everyday I can't fail and I have to try to get good grades. But he knows I will never be a doctor.

[ShadowMax76]

myself, having learned that sacrifices are absolutely necessary to get somewhere in life..
as well as now walking past massive houses and wishing i could have them..

i want to go to uni and get some awesome job..

@_@ but. my brain rotted. blame the social tragedies of my life hitting my senior years. >.>'

my parents don't really push me. my dad was encouraged to become a doctor- he's now doin' manual labor.
obviously he and i know that i'm not meant for that kind of job.. so he thought i would easily become some accountant sort of thing.
lately i learned that those kind of jobs are nightmares for us kids.. repetitive and w/e.
a picture of our gf to remind us what we're working for..


Our parents are trying to be realistic and safe.
But what i find wrong in our parents.. is that they believe they have experienced life, so they stop learning- and stop accepting new values.. and push their ones onto us.
>>' their gullibility or over-reaction in believing sensationalised news and stories from other family friends.. makes them take the irrationally 'safest' choice by locking us up or something..

If you want your parents to open their eyes.. [Lol, yes] introduce them with your friends' families. who have more open minded fathers+mothers.
-shrugs- other than that, i'm done rambling.

btw_ my plan is to sneak into uni via an arts course.. :] to be in an INTELLECTUAL environment. Lol. >.>' maybe my brain will come back to life then..
_ and yes.. i'll spend a lot of my free time chasing some creative hobbies.. photography [like many people have said already.. ], music... etc.
x-x' as much as i'd like to do those for a living.. something has gotta pay the bills until i become famous...xDD

[arianna90]

ive always wanted to become interior designer, now im studying to become a pharmacist/doctor. 2 totally different careers.eventually, i grew fond of chemistry and biology. i guess im one of those lucky ones. LOL

[Flicksityy]

I feel un-asian here =="

My parents let me do whatever I want, they support me in whatever lousy occupation i feel like studying for in the future.

Even if they try to control me, they know that I'm a girl who doesn't succeed in things that I hate ROFL

[PhuongNguyen]

Parents always thinks that they know what's best for you, when they don't realize that by pushing you to be something that you don't want to be; just makes your life miserable.

I can't exactly tell you from my personal experience because my parents had always been supportive toward my decisions, as long as I don't regret it. Their only concern is that I must be completely in love with the job. Income doesn't matter to them because they realized that when they were young, they had dreams also... but because they had to support the family (and move to America), they couldn't achieve those dreams, and they don't want me to have to go through that same thing. They work at a computer factory for 15 years now, and they dread every minute of it.