[cal023]

My sister told me recently

"Make sure your bf doesn't take you for granted"

I'm a little confused as to what she meant.

What do you soompiers think it means to take someone for granted??

[calculus]

That he doesn't fully acknowledge you as a gf and he assumes that you'll be his gf for as long as it may be. But I'm sure he does I think your sister is just looking out for you.

[WildSevenGirl]

What she meant was don't let him take advantage of you being his girlfriend. Make sure he wants you there because of YOU and nothing else. That's all, lol.

[insanelyCRAZY]

OHHHHHHHHHHHH.
i get it now..i was like you too...i didnt understand what that meant...

i understand what it means when my exbf took me for granted...sigh-

[♥ intoxicating]

I'm guessing she means to say that he better appreciate you for who you are, and acknowledge the fact that you're there not just because you suddenly have the title of being his "girlfriend."
It's kind of somewhat like that saying "You don't know what you have til it's gone." ?

[scatter_me]

If he takes you for granted, he'll not love you as much as he would. He won't be afraid of losing you and he won't care as much as he could, as much as he shoulddd. Ya :]

[terrorist]

pretty much don't treat him useless and unworthy, using him for just money, etc etc. or like don't expect to much from him.

[ShadowMax76]

when they think

"i'll talk to them tomorrow.. there's other things/people i'd like to get to right now, and it's not like we're going to leave each other over one night."

..or something like that.


nehh.. i'm not all that experienced in the social life. but. i have realised when i took people for granted. there's this sudden feeling of fear..guilt and desperation..

>.>' i still haven't figured out how to balance that feeling to constantly show how much i care for them.. since i keep thinking people take each other for granted all the time. @_@ what with the inevitable promises to be in each other's lives 'forever' [seriously, i'm never going to use that word again. it's a jinx..]


Prioritise things.. discuss them. and openly communicate things that trouble you.. @_@ i think that's how it should be tackled..
>>' even if the drama is taken out of things.. it's 'mature' .

[Kira_Hyuu]

Yesh yesh that is possibly the worst thing you can do in a relationship...see relationships all tend to start out well because both members are not taking each other for granted like we make and effort to get the others attention...but later on when the relationship starts getting stable the "effort" sort of disappears.

Like i had a friend who worked really hard and got himself a gf....he'd always come by and ask like me how he should do things and like wats really special...like time to time he'd give her like a little surprise and yeah both of them were totally luving it....However once the two started like going out for more than like a month; the love was still there, but my friend wouldn't make an effort to do those surprises he'd used to do...because he thought well she loves my now so i don't really need to do things like that.....or she knows i love her so yeah don't need to do stuff like that......their relationship completely died...

So yea my view has been that in a relationship u take each other for granted....a bit of doubt here and there helps spark "effort"....

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

when you're always the one giving and he's usually taking

giving as in time, effort and emotions. money and material are only what seems to be an obvious measure but in depth wise it's those three factors.

oh and if he doesn't appreciate your time effort and emotions by gratitude and reciprocation.

[xvi3txl0v1ngx]

I agree with LUVSSOURCREAM completly. Money don't count once you break up. the time, effort, emotions really hurt you when you end it.

[Rekidai]

my bf took me for granted and now he regrets it; we're sorta back together but like we have sorta a promise, if its broken we're going to be through. im kind of tired though so im not sure what to do. But it means that he thinks no matter what happens he'll have you no matter what, even if he ditches you all the time, and like if you do something for him he'll expect it all the time and not take his time to thank you and stuff.

[小甜密]

Generally speaking, sex (taking your body for granted, that is). Money. Your undying feelings for him.