[ShadowMax76]

i'm just curious..

typically, the girl puts more in.
perhaps the guy puts more less thoughtful things in.. like time, money, transport . [ >.>'i reckon other guys can agree that having a girl as a FRIEND is expensive enough..]

but. aside from stinginess.

o_O' i feel that girls are more capable of putting into the relationship... _ ability/capable ..
for guys. it feels unnatural to do thoughtful stuff.. typically..
puppy love. yeah. it's easier. but.. relationship..? we tend to take things for granted.. [btw_ anyone found a cure for that?

@_@ maybe we need to make morning breakfast + roses + coffee a habit...? -m... continues living in a cave to work on life's questions/answers-

[i'm avoiding the word 'i/me'...if you haven't noticed. ]


Then. there's the question of what a relationship is really about. :3 is it really about diamonds for se... -sni gger- >P


>.>' hopefully that wasn't as confusing as i usually am.

1. are girls more capable of putting into the relationship?
2. is this fair?
3. is this a problem for girls? [ your answer: as long as he proves he loves me.. (?) >.>' lol. or maybe the : as long as he on bottom LOL ]

x-x' personally... poems/words are my strong suit_ i wish i could do more.. and i'm working on it. [tolerating a girl's emotional vents.., preparing presents specific for them, arrange days out together somewhere, >.>' work on my happy side in public~ LOL ]

[sushiwhore]

i dont get what yoreu sayign but i feel at the moment i give way mroe than my bf in all aspects =(

[Harbl]

I think you'll find the guy puts most in.

[Eijiro]

I think you'll find the guy puts most in.

You got in before I could haha.

Seriously, though, it should be a give & take affair and equally balanced. It's usually better just not to think about it though, it can make you feel worried and insecure over nothing at all.

[koneee]

Any relationship should be 50/50. Noone should do more or else, it's just unfair if someone loves you more than you love them and vice versa.

[__daanii.]

Just coming in here to give you a quote, hopefully it is somewhat related.
"Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you want them to,
doesn't mean that they don't love you with all that they have."
Coming from my very wise friend Frannie. RIP.

[abusegirl]

you rarely get what you give and never what you expect.


expecting people to love you the way you see fit is showing the lack of heart you have. just let it go and love to the best of your abilities. if that person doesn't love you...oh well. if they do, you'll never know as long as you're clouded by a desire for 'gimme gimme gimme'.

[kuroimisa]

In my relationship I give him most of the presents and other things when HE should be spoiling me rofl.

He puts in a lot emotionally though, and probably more than me because I have a lot on my plate.

But yeah... want to be spoiled at times though lol >_>

[ashunbaby12]

Usually guys give in MUCH MORE. And to those who say 50/50... I would hate it if my bf would ask me for something in return every single time he does something for me. Of course i give stuff to him in return but I dont deliberately return him a gift every time. I think most girls would hate a give-and-take relationship. It sounds sooo crude.
Im not saying girls should do nothing but usually guys make the opening...they initiate most things.

[ShadowMax76]

Just coming in here to give you a quote, hopefully it is somewhat related.
"Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you want them to,
doesn't mean that they don't love you with all that they have."
Coming from my very wise friend Frannie. RIP.

+

Usually guys give in MUCH MORE. And to those who say 50/50... I would hate it if my bf would ask me for something in return every single time he does something for me. Of course i give stuff to him in return but I dont deliberately return him a gift every time. I think most girls would hate a give-and-take relationship. It sounds sooo crude.
Im not saying girls should do nothing but usually guys make the opening...they initiate most things.

woot. insight.

:]

[BubbleFish]

For me, I feel like I put into the relationship more than he does. I always send him sweet text messages, calling him, doing little small special things, but he does less or none. I know he cares and loves me alot and all..but it's just nice to have things like that! But, it's all good. =]

[miyouri]

That's one sided perspective. There are some boys who gave their all as their girlfriends spend all of their money and toys with his mind. It really depends on who. However, I won't disagree that there are some girls who does a lot more for the guy. SOME.

[Flicksityy]

It really depends on who asked the other out first, or who is more in love in the relationship.

[GOOMBA]

always been 80/20 for me
kinda sucks, but whatever
it`s what happens when you date boys and not men.

[L.FOR.LOVE]

im consuded about your post but yeah i get it

in term of like calling/txting --> m\been me altely becaueas his phone kind of died
in term of being able to meet each other --> he travel like 1.5 hours to see me once/twice a eek like 10 times ish while i've only did it once ._."
in term os buying gift his bought more for me

[rawr_sheila]

anyone can put a lot of effort in a relationship.

it depends how much you love that person.


i watch a lot of asian dramas

[schadenfreud1c]

from my perspective of my own relationship:

him:me ratio would be 70:30 effort

He goes out of his way to make sure I'm always taken care of. He says all I have to worry about is to love him :3

[Kira_Hyuu]

Well technically the best is where both parties put in 50-50 but like seriously lets be realistic it never happens....so yeah everyone's different - me and my gf it's like a 60-40 sometimes i put more in then her and sometimes she does more than me....depends on the mood...

[myxo]

It's hard to tell as we're all ego-centric and would like to think that we put more into the relationship.

I think as relationships progress, there's always different stages where individuals put in varying amounts of effort. For instance, with my ex, at the start of our relationship he was the one doing everything to gain my attention/affection/etc (ie. driving, calling, texting, showing signs of affection, paying). However, as the relationship progressed past the initial stage, it started to level off and gotten to the point where he no longer did as much. It ended with me doing nothing and him doing a tad bit more than nothing but still not significant enough to make it work anymore.

[flyxme.]

guys buy the stuff, they make sure shes not upset or sad,
and they make sure she gets a ride to and back, etc.
i thnk the him:her ratio would be like 80:20