[joongielove]

This is gonna be a fairly long read, so I apoligize in advance. ^___^;

I live in a dorm with 2 girls. One girl I'm fine with, seeing as how she's almost never here and when she is, we're both really nice to each other. The other girl is one of my best friends, but she's been driving me up the wall. She's messy as opposed to me, and she does all sort of tiny things that bother me. At first I thought it was my PMS but it's really not.

The other night (Friday) I was up talking to my boyfriend, and she said she had to turn in early. So I agreed, and said I'd turn off all the lights except the one I use to go on the computer and she was fine with it. So it's all good, I'm talking to my boy, and after an hour, she gets down (top bunk) and flips out at me, saying how she's been trying for an hour to go to bed and for me to turn the light off. I tried compromising and said I'd go onto my bunk. And she asked if I'd turn my bedside lamp on, and I said obviously. She wasn't happy with it. So she asked me to go to the common room, which is down the hall by the elevators. I didn't want to start anything that night, so I just complied. I went into the common room at about....2 A.M. At about 5:30..I lost internet. (grrr you college internet.) so I came back into the room and didn't turn the light on or anything, just was talking to him with the light of my computer on. And I finally went to bed at 8 A.M.

She went home for the weekend, and came back this morning. She thought I was still awake so my other roomate asked her what was going on and if she was still mad at me. She said she was. I'm thinking..."if anyone has a right to be mad, it's me." Later on she starts talking to me, and she says she wants to turn in early from now on and wants me to comply. I don't want to, because night time is the only time I talk to my boyfriend that much. Other than for maybe an hour at most on the phone every other day, we talk online at night. (It's gonna kill my sleeping schedule lol ) She asked me why I didn't want to, and I told her because I don't feel obligated to turn in whenever she does. She acts like she's the most important person in the dorm and I can't handle that. She comes from a town (I don't mean to sound stereotypical, but another one of my friends agrees with me.) where everyone is wealthy and it's like a snobby town. So she has a tendency to talk down to people without even realizing it. And she loves kids, so that's all she talks about. It gets old after a while. If I have to listen to my music (DBSK ftw <3) I put in earphones and don't bother her. She asked me why, and I told her, and she said that if she didn't feel like using her eye mask that she just bought from home, that I'd have to turn in early. I told her no. I paid for this dorm, I'm not being kicked out of it at 2 A.M because little miss Princess can't sleep and needs her beauty rest. No. F-ing. Way.


So tell me, your opinions?

[calculus]

Try to look from her perspective as well. I'm sure she paid for the dorm to sleep at the time she wants to. 2am is pretty late already :S. I'm sure your talking would keep her up at night as well. Why not talk outside the dorm room with your bf so you wont affect her and you can talk to your bf in privacy as well.

[joongielove]

Try to look from her perspective as well. I'm sure she paid for the dorm to sleep at the time she wants to. 2am is pretty late already :S. I'm sure your talking would keep her up at night as well. Why not talk outside the dorm room with your bf so you wont affect her and you can talk to your bf in privacy as well.

2 A.M is not late compared to some of the times we slept before. I wasn't talking to him like, talking talking. It was over IM. And I even tried to compromise with her, saying I'd turn off allthe lights except for the one I needed.

[Torento <3]

You share a room, human bodies are designed to be asleep at 2am.

If she has problems sleeping because of your selfish needs, I can see her argument. If I wanted to sleep, and someone was keeping me awake typing away or from the light or whatever, and there was an area in which you could utilize to carry out those tasks, I would ask the person to go to that area to do that as you're disturbing my personal peace.

It's not like it's 8pm.

[JazzyMina]

As much as ur Roomates a pain in ur bum, she has got a ryt to sleep in peace and i guess u talking late in night doesnt really help. U could do wat ^ they said ^ just talk in a seprate room like go outside from ur dorm if it really annoys ur best friend.

Tehee ~ =]]

[prisonerzero]

The girl has a right to sleep in peace and the other also has a right to be in the room and talk with her boyfriend. You two will just need to talk and come up with some sort of agreement.

[joongielove]

I had one light on, it wasn't that bright, and it was 2 in the morning. I prefer to be in my room at 2 A.M.

And Torento<3 my needs are not selfish. I don't get to talk to him that much and she knows that. I even tried to compromise by saying I'll go on my bunk, which is under hers, and have my small bedside lamp on, but she wanted complete darkness. I compromise too, it's not a one person dorm, just the fact that she acted so stuck-up and expects me to go to bed whenever she does is ridiculous, and I'm not gonna be banished from my own room, that I paid for.

[Torento <3]

The girl has a right to sleep in peace and the other also has a right to be in the room and talk with her boyfriend. You two will just need to talk and come up with some sort of agreement.

Yeah, but sleep is kind of a necessity to life, whereas chatting to your boyfriend comes second place. She can rearrange her chatting to her boyfriend so that it can be done some other time or less frequently.

I had one light on, it wasn't that bright, and it was 2 in the morning. I prefer to be in my room at 2 A.M.

And Torento<3 my needs are not selfish. I don't get to talk to him that much and she knows that. I even tried to compromise by saying I'll go on my bunk, which is under hers, and have my small bedside lamp on, but she wanted complete darkness. I compromise too, it's not a one person dorm, just the fact that she acted so stuck-up and expects me to go to bed whenever she does is ridiculous, and I'm not gonna be banished from my own room, that I paid for.

One light is enough to illuminate a small dormitory room.

Well guess what? I don't get to talk to my girlfriend all that much too, you think you're the only one? Just because you're not hearing what you want doesn't give you reason to get so defensive. You asked for our opinions. Take them as they are.

It's not your room, it's the property of the college you're currently residing at. Furthermore, CHANCES are your parents paid for the partial rent of the room, not you. And you only have 1/3 of the rights of the room, and I believe basic human necessities overall any personal habits or anything as well...

Lastly, wanting sleep is not stuck up. For some people it is difficult to get to sleep, and she is not dictating as to when you have to go to bed. You can lay awake on the floor if you want, or stay awake outside of the room, she just doesn't want you to disturb her.

I believe they keep those rooms open at those hours of the night for a reason to. So if you happen to take it to the authorities, chances are, you'll lose. Which may explain as to why you've posted here, previously being aware of that fact. Or not, I don't know.

[joongielove]

Yeah, but sleep is kind of a necessity to life, whereas chatting to your boyfriend comes second place. She can rearrange her chatting to her boyfriend so that it can be done some other time or less frequently.



One light is enough to illuminate a small dormitory room.

Well guess what? I don't get to talk to my girlfriend all that much too, you think you're the only one? Just because you're not hearing what you want doesn't give you reason to get so defensive. You asked for our opinions. Take them as they are.

It's not your room, it's the property of the college you're currently residing at. Furthermore, CHANCES are your parents paid for the partial rent of the room, not you. And you only have 1/3 of the rights of the room, and I believe basic human necessities overall any personal habits or anything as well...

Lastly, wanting sleep is not stuck up. For some people it is difficult to get to sleep, and she is not dictating as to when you have to go to bed. You can lay awake on the floor if you want, or stay awake outside of the room, she just doesn't want you to disturb her.

I believe they keep those rooms open at those hours of the night for a reason to. So if you happen to take it to the authorities, chances are, you'll lose. Which may explain as to why you've posted here, previously being aware of that fact. Or not, I don't know.

I did ask for your opinion, and I'm very glad that you're telling me it, so thank you, I appreciate that. =] However, the things she has been doing lately have been bothering me and I quite frankly don't want to deal with it, yet at the same time I don't want to hurt her feelings by getting a roomate change. It was stuck up the way she said it, and I know she told my other roomate before when she was talking on the phone to go somewhere else too. It just seems that she's a little controlling when it comes to this issue.

And I don't see my boyfriend that often, and we have a very weird situation, not letting us talk to each other a lot, so when we do, we talk for a long time.

She has kept me up all night too, I just tried to suck it up and deal with it and not complain, because I know it's a dormitory. I just hate how she expects everyone to attend to her needs without thinking about other people when she's keeping them up.

[Torento <3]

Well, you could get a single dorm or change your room to other partners or something. Or everyone can continue bickering until it further escalates.

It seems compromising won't work.

Those are the only logical responses I can come up with now.