[~Tropical.Mists]

So... I'm in my second year and I've just started living in a rented apartment with my bestfriend and 2 other guys.
We live off campus and basically the house is REALLY decently nice for the location and price =) So I'm really happy about that...

The thing is, my bestfriend and I have known each other for like... almost 10+ years! We're totally tight and would never lie to each other.
Unfortunately one of the guys we live with... I'll call him Bob, is also our high school friend.
We thought we knew him until we moved in with him.

He is a PIG!! HUGE PIG!!
I don't know how to even DESCRIBE how messy, irresponsible and DISRESPECTFUL he is.
I can't deal with him anymore and I don't know how to TELL HIM cuz everytime I try to be BLUNT and HONEST, he doesn't listen and just brushes me off.
He can't cook but always leaves a mess in the kitchen.
He eats almost 75% of our food and then complains about how there's no food.
Never cleans up (dishes included.)
Never takes out the garbage.
ALWAYS pays for the bills late, making ME pay for him first.
Doesn't even go to class.

I really need help on this. I can't DEAL with his behaviour anymore and it really pisses me off. My friend and I have tried EVERYTHING to get him to listen and he just DOESN'T >_< any solutions?

--xoxo.
TM

P.S. To put into perspective how DISGUSTING he is, we have two washrooms (girls and guys), we once found out he took a GIANT dump in our washroom and we had to CLEAN our toilet which had his poo-stains on the toilet seat >_< EWwwwwwwwww!!

[miyouri]

Ewwwww~!!!!!!!
First of all I just want to say I'm so sorry that you two have to go through all that. Dirty people seriously have mental issues because they don't worry about their bad hygiene habits at all. The poo stains are seriously the worst ever.

Honestly if you two tried "everything" and it still doesn't work out then I'd recommend you two to tell him to move out and find another roomie.

Nobody would want someone like him as a roommate because that is just gross. Even boys wouldn't want to room with him.

If that doesn't work out then buy a mini fridge inside your rooms and keep those food you two need. Let him starve himself and gripe by himself.
Give him silent treatment and also get a lock for your doors so that he won't dig through your fridge.

If you want to take serious action then I would throw all the trash inside his room because that his mess. I'm mean but honestly the guy doesn't respect you two and isn't a friend. He's just a baby who needs a mom.

[eximius]

Have your other roommates tried to confront him about his issues?
Maybe if all three of you tell him then he'll understand how much of a slob he is.

[natsurei]

Get the other guy roommate, who I'm guessing is cleaner to confront him.
Guys - guys. Or if that guy has a girlfriend, ask her?
LMFAO. Or don't feed him.

Arrange an organizer of tasks? If he fails, throw him out..or move out.
He needs to learn responsibility seriously =_=;;

[xkrn4lyfx]

ahh first advice, don't try to ignore it. it will never go away and will always get worse (personal experience)

not really sure how to make a dirty person clean. it's pure habit. wellz besides saying u should have known if he was dirty or not before moving in, confront him about how serious a problem it is. not just confront, confront with consequences, such as you'll have him thrown out and replaced. although i don't think that's possible if he's on the contract, if he not on the contract, throw him out, if he is, just seriously discuss it with him, not in a negative tone tho and not all 3 of you guys ganging up on him cuz then he'll get all defensive and might get worse. calmly but firmly tell him that there's a problem and any reasonable person should give in and at least clean up after themselves

[~Tropical.Mists]

Thanks guys =)

I think the major problem though is that he always locks himself up in his room and doesn't really listen.
I was really thinking of kicking him out, but we're on a lease for a year so I can't do that >_<

About the other guy,
The thing is, he's rarely home and he always sleeps at his gf's house anyways.
He knows there's a problem at home but since he's never there, it doesn't bother him as much =( I'll try and get him to talk but it'll be hard.

--xoxo.
TM

[Meenuh]

what the hell. how the heck do you get poo on the toilet SEAT? dude .. kick him out. he doesn't deserve to live in a house.

[Seraphyx]

If all your other roommates feel the same as you do, then I suggest having a good old fashioned intervention. Everyone needs to sit down and tell him that what he is doing is unacceptable etc.. I have a roommate like that and he does the following: Pees on the toilet seat, drinks our juice, eats my rice (eating someone's rice should be a crime), makes a mess every morning in the kitchen, leaves pee on the floor. I can go on, but it would just be a huge list of grievances. Anyways just sit down and talk to him as a group, that's what my roommates did.

[PhuongNguyen]

Make a schedule and force him to follow it. Don't deal with that my happy poopoo; you're not his mother.

If he's late on the bill, it'll be on his part... so DON'T pay for it and just let him get kick out.

Seeing as he's not even going to class, I'm sure he'll fail and get his ass back home sooner or later. His incompetent mama can wait on him hand and feet instead.

Anyways, what I think is you shouldn't even bother to communicate. People like him will never learn; just wait till next month and don't pay for his bills. He'll get evicted sooner or later

[Yuenie]

Get your other two housemates together and confront him on this issue.
Straight out tell him he needs to fix these habits or you'll throw all his stuff outside when he's out and change the locks - friends or not.
Personally, I'd rather kick him out and pay his part of the rent myself just so I wouldn't have to deal with messes like that.

For the food problem... how about buy your own mini fridge and keep it in your room with the door locked?
He can't eat 75% of the food if there's no food left in the shared main fridge.

[xiwang]

that is so disgusting...

are you guys on separate leases or do you share a contract? because if it's the first one, just stop paying for him and let him get himself kicked out. it's his own fault. shudder. i don't mind sharing food with my roommates, but yours sounds like he has no hygiene whatsoever.

[scatter_me]

Ugh, just throw him out.

[nanshi]

Is his name on the lease? Talk to your landlord and find someone else and kick him out. If you can't kick him out, you'll have to do an intervention.

I feel terribly sorry for you but, the realism of the problem is there really isn't much you can do if he won't listen. And you'll probably have to put up with it for the next year. But next time you'll know. And to ask for references, no matter HOW well you think you know each other.

It's like what they say. You never really know a person until you live with him/her.

[Stevent]

Me and Calvin (FusionGT) live with 2 other guys. Whenever they cook or finished eating, they just leave the dishes, pots, and pans there for weeks on end. Whenever we need it, we have to wash it

[Left_King]

Awwwww...poor u...!!

Unfortunately this world is full of those kinda guys...girls too...
Thats y instead of moving/living with my classmates i decided to live on my own....lived on my own for 1yr...now living with bro n sis...

I really hate messy, dirty stuff....and ppl who dont respect others...

Ermmm...what i think u could do is....talk to him about the situation...U hv to make him aware of the trouble his putting u in.... Then if he keeps doin it.... tell him that if he continues like that....u'll report it to the landlord... If he doesnt stop...then u should really consider reporting it to the landlord...
If the landlord doesnt do or isnt able to do anything about it....then i guess u'll hv to suffer until u can move out... but lets hope he changes...

Wish u all the best...!!

[smiile]

you guys should come up with a system where each people have jobs, and if one doesnt do their job, they have to pay more rent than the other roomies.

i hate people like that, and living together he needs to learn how to respect others and clean after himself.

[jbigdog123]

If he doesn't want to listen then you have two choices, either kick him out or live with his nasty habits.

[Sasha100]

E freaking w.

I'm actually having my own problems and I talked to my cousin the other day, and she said that keep on acting the way you are, if not a bit nicer, so the person realizes what they're doing. Like when that person makes a mess, clean it up INFRONT of him, again and again, so the person feels embarrased and sees like what hes doing is really nasty...or you could kick his ass out:/

[xdaglpreetx]

Well I dont think him not going to his classes should matter but.. tell him to start cleaning and doing his part. Let a week pass and if he doesnt improve.. tell him to pack his bags.

[~Tropical.Mists]

Is his name on the lease? Talk to your landlord and find someone else and kick him out. If you can't kick him out, you'll have to do an intervention.

I feel terribly sorry for you but, the realism of the problem is there really isn't much you can do if he won't listen. And you'll probably have to put up with it for the next year. But next time you'll know. And to ask for references, no matter HOW well you think you know each other.

It's like what they say. You never really know a person until you live with him/her.

Well our leases are separate but everything else is under the same name >_<

For the people that told me to just stop paying for him...
I can't really do that cuz all the utilities and food bills are under my Visa or name >_> so if I don't pay, they're just going to charge ME interest -___-'
I didn't think it'd be such a big problem since we're friends and all right?
I mean he can't just NOT pay a friend that he owes $150 to X____X

GAH! So I tried talking to him today and he totally just left the room.
He has major attitude problems =( wow I feel like nothing works haha! He's definitely not the typical person that listens.

--xoxo.
TM