[YummiYummi]

So recently I've been talking to these guy "friends" of mine and I don't know what impression it is that I give them, but they seem to be really open asking me these questions or really stupid perverted jokes. (Keep in mind, I never joked with them about sex or flirted). And I don't know what to say because I don't want to come off "overreacting". It makes me feel like a "wh0re" or "sl*t" in a way even though I'm not. Sometimes I try to keep my cool and just "lol" it off and sometimes I just want to give them a awkward response so they can feel stupid. I wish these kinds of people can see me as more reserved and closeminded so I get the respect I deserve as a lady. So now I feel stupid for not knowing what to do in this situation and the fact that I have to ask for opinions, but this has been bugging me for the longest time. And I know it's stupid to ask these kind of questions, but I'm actually serious. So......

Girls: How do you react when a guy talks to you really pervertedly or asks you really "open" questions. Do you keep your cool and answer politely or do you get offended and tell them to piss off ..........or do you play along ?

Ok you can post, be nice please=]


EDIT: Also.. another problem I have is when guys touch me out of no where, like my shoulders, hands, thighs, etc. It makes me feel SO GROSS AND DIRTY. It makes me feel like asking sometimes, "what do you take me for??". Like seriously, what do you do in these situations though?? I don't want to make it awkward and go like "DON'T TOUCH ME!" or something LOL........

[Seraphyx]

Asking the girls only? Well nobody seems to be responding so I'll answer your question. I've only seen girls react in two ways to perversion, laughter or anger paired with a "Quit it" and maybe a few light slaps to the shoulder. Guys will tease you about being "those slanderous terms" if you are the only girl in the group. Why don't you just tell them you don't like it?

[bebeETOILE]

Sometimes guys asks me really "open" questions, this is how I always reply like im weirded out but not offended. Like:
"Ummm.. why are you asking me this? lol?"

[YummiYummi]

Asking the girls only? Well nobody seems to be responding so I'll answer your question. I've only seen girls react in two ways to perversion, laughter or anger paired with a "Quit it" and maybe a few light slaps to the shoulder. Guys will tease you about being "those slanderous terms" if you are the only girl in the group. Why don't you just tell them you don't like it?

Well I'm kind of sick of just laughing it off, cos it's really NOT that funny. It makes me feel weird and "easy" to them. I don't know why I feel like that, I just do because of how they talk to me. I want them to know it's not okay to talk like that to a girl especially if you don't know them that well.

Well other than saying "I don't like it", because that seems like I'm coming out way too hard. LOL. Because their jokes/comments aren't the straight up kind of perverted jokes/comments, they're more like inside perverted jokes/comments, if you know what I mean. For example, the things they would come up.. I know I could probably be overreacting and these sound like normal questions, but I hate it and it makes me feel like a serious rainbow. And yes these are real comments.

Personal Question: "What else do you have pierced other than your current piercings now *winks*?" or "Do you watch porn" or "Do you touch yourself" or "What's your favorite sex position"

Comment: "I'm coming down to town, maybe we should hook up *does the stupid winking emoticon*" or "I have no where to stay when I come down, maybe we could stay together *stupid winking emoticon again" or "I don't know why, but I just had a dream about us having sex"

Joke: "I know you miss me" or "Come, lets get drunk together" or "Sleep over my house".


I know some of these are normal questions and they ARE guys, but when I answer them, I feel like they kind of get carried away and ask more personal questions or make more stupid perverted remarks. I am open-minded, but not to the point where it seems like we have something going on..

[derrek]

Please, respect yourself enough to not let people make you feel uncomfortable. If they're your friends, they will respect that. It's a simple as being outward and honest... I know it's hard, but it's the best and easiest way. Just say "Don't you guys know how to act around a lady?" or something haha!

[jbigdog123]

Why can't you just tell them that you don't find those jokes funny and is offensive to you and that you would appreciate it if they stop telling those silly jokes?

Same with touching, tell whoever is doing it to stop.

If you keep your mouth shut, they will never know their jokes are offensive.

[._.]

Him : *personal question here*
you: chill, can't we talk about something else?
-change subject-
him : *keeps on persisting*
you: ok bye im going then

show them the attitude and they will stop.

and if someone tries to touch you
*slap arm*
stop touching me. FIRM VOICE!
if he keeps on persisting, grab his arm and look into his eyes and say STOP.

[JazzyMina]

Try and change the subjecT? XDD If u dont find the jokes funny and find them uncomfortable, just tel them straight on.

But, Wat i do is, Just laff =P or go " LOL " if i dont find it funny, but my usual response is, " LOL U PERV " or sumfing like that AND joke that their a dirty bumhole. I dont join in =.="

Tehee and with the boys touching u part. Errrrrrr

Slap them or hit them HAHA XD tht or wenever tht persons about to touch yu, slap their hand away.

Or tel them to stop perving on u

[Meenuh]

If this is really that big of a problem for you, you need to start by standing up for yourself. TELL them that it bothers you and they shouldn't be touching you. PERIOD. If that doesn't stop, then don't hang out with guys like that. They need to learn that it is not okay to just touch girls wherever and whenever they want.

If you don't tell them, they won't know. You'd think it'd be common sense but they probably think YOU like it since you're always laughing and you just keep letting them do it.

[thumperrr]

^ I agree with meenuh.



I've been called a b!tch soo many times because I'm soo brutally honest about my feelings.
What ever comes to my mind I say it.
If I don't like what your doing I'll tell you straight up.
It's the only way you can really stop them.
If they start touching...that's a different story.
I'll cut your hands off if you touch me without MY permission.
ahahaha. not literally, but you get the point.
You can't be nice about EVERYTHING.

[KOGEPANN;)]

My guy friends went through that faze with me at one point,
they asked me perverted questions, about periods etc. but you gotta let them know if it makes you uncomfortable or pisses you off, I mean how would they know unless you tell them.
Most of my guy friends are straightforward so if they had a question they wouldn't beat around the bush,
be more straight forward with them. You can do it

[linny]

If they're asking you those kinds of questions, you have a right to tell them you don't want to answer and that they should stop asking because (1) these are private matters that they have no right to know, (2) it's inappropriate for them to ask, and (3) it makes you uncomfortable. Even if it's awkward for a little bit, these guys aren't going to know what they're doing makes you feel uncomfortable unless you tell them. So, next time a guy says something like that, just say "I'm not going to talk about this stuff with you, and please stop asking me."

As for the touching you thing, just move away or take his hand off you. If he's offended, so what? At least in the future he will know not to do that.

[greenana]

if a guy touches me in any way, I'll be piss and curse at him. and if guys say dirty things to me. I'll tell them off and ignore them.



If you don't like them(the guys) doing that to you, you should tell them to stop.

[sweetea77]

If they're asking me serious questions, I usually answer truthfully. But if they just want to get horny, I call them out. Cuz that's nasty.

One time, I was talking to my friend's boyfriend on the phone and he started asking me inappropriate questions. I just handed the phone to his girlfriend because she was sitting right next to me. (they're over now, thank God). It just made me feel uncomfortable.

They're just being horny. I guess you could just do something very unattractive and they'll stop. XD

[chitah]

i tend in incorporate lots of sexual innuendos into my conversations for the hell of it. so when guys say perverted thigns or ask me stuff. i'm react as if t were any other question. but when guys ask me questions that just ends up sounding very degrading towards women, i tell them to SDOFIUDSF OFF! cuz thats wrong >_>
as for touching, i hate being touched...PERIOD. so i tell them to SKDFHSEF OFF! no jk, i just dont smile, which shows i'm do not appreciate their touchings. and give them a pissed off look lol

[night]

If you don't like them touching you and talking like that...y are u still hanging out with them?
You're making yourself an 'easy target' if you keep pretending u like what they do and talk about.

I tell sleazy guys off, i don't even bother to be friends with them.
It's an insult to me, if they think they can touch me or talk to me in any manner they want.

[chopstick^^]

People respect certain people depending on the vibe they let out to them.. U laughing means u don't mind.. and it will give them the impression u like the joke! ..

If u seriously hate it, then put a serious face...

If i was u honestly i would put a blank face .. and walk off... and they know your serious! If you dont like something, learn to say 'No' in every way u can think possible!!

If they your friend, and they know u dont like it.. they will respect u.. and talk about other things!!
If they get upset over this.. then they not worth being a friend with..

whats wrong with saying 'dont touch me'? .. if u never gonna b brave n say stuff like that.. then ur not gonna do anything about it! ..

There was this guy who was sayin something perverted as a joke.. and my friend laughed .. and i ignored him with a blank face.. and u know what my friend said 'why dont u laugh, its a joke' ... well u know thats her!! I dont want to laugh! .. Why dont u just do wot u want! They not your boss!

[moniquecanfly]

I love perverted jokes, and silly jokes. I find them really funny, well the ones my friends tell. It's like, you hang out these people for fun, why not have some fun? But when it comes to touching & whatnot, that's a different story.

And some guys actually go to me and ask serious, sex questions. Because, hell. If you can actually find someone to talk to it about, isn't that better? You're saving lives! Haha. :3. I'm actually pretty open to these sorta topics, but i know how to keep private things, private. Always a limit to everything.

[piggyx3]

i give them a disgusted look and roll my eyes :] it makes them feel stupid ^^;;

[Rylise]

Give them a disgusted, annoyed look ( The 'Are you Stupid' look can work too )
or sometimes if they're asking personal questions, just say 'I'm not telling' or 'Why should I tell you?'

And the touching thing... just give them a cold stare and say 'Don't touch me...'

I'm not sure how you act around these guy 'friends' but I'll keep my distance,
if they really make you feel uncomfortable and just don't be over friendly,
in a sense that would invite these kind of questions, I know you say you don't flirt
with these guys, but these guys may have interpreted your actions, etc wrongly...

I'm just saying cos one of my friends...complains about guys doing the same to her,
and she says she doesn't flirt with them etc, but seeing her behavior, she does
kind of invite these guys to act like that around her, she was kind of weak in protesting...

So, don't be weak and just speak your mind, if they are making you uncomfortable.