[._.]

well i'm a guy, and i have a girlfriend.
so she has a BEST BEST close friend that she truly loves and we used to often hang out with her. so it was me, my girlfriend, and her best friend. us 3.

then my girlfriend and i were both friends with this 1 guy and we thought he'd be great for her bestfriend. they seemed like they would look good together. so we got them to meet each other and what do you know, they hit off great and after a few dates they were going out.

problem is, they go to the same school, but my girlfriend and i don't although we see each other every day of the weekend. (3 days out of 7) my girlfriend HATES being the third wheel, whereas the best friend didn't really mind at all. the bestfriend and her boyfriend keeps asking my girlfriend to tag along with them and hangout with them and she said it just annoys her to death since they're basically like taunting her doing cutesy stuff like holding hands, kissing, etc. every day while she only sees me 3times a week. she says it annoys her so much cause they completely ignore her and do their own thing and when she says she wants to go home cause of boredom they beg her to stay.
like what is she going to do? watch them kiss and stuff? when her bestfriend hung out with us, we actually included her and talked to her and didn't do those kind of things except when alone -__- cause we wanted the bestfriend to have a good time as well and she did.

at first we were happy we hooked those 2 up but now they are getting on my girlfriend's nerves and i'm worried. she's been moody whenever she's around them and calls me and i can hear that she's really pissed off. (not at me, but still it's not pleasant)

what can i do to soothe her nerves?
i just try to keep her company on the phone and make her laugh but only has a temporary effect... she goes back to being moody after her friends keep begging her to stay.

she's at the point where she runs away from them now

those 2 are the type of people who you can get pissed off at, slam the door in their face, and they will cheer up and forgive you right away and go back to talking to you. so... they're really persistent.

help!

[angelicXD]

lol she needs to persistently refused them and if they become persistent she become the more persistent....tell them they're annoying her too to get it out of her system before she walk off. lol She should just run out. lol

wow they seems to be overly lovely lol

[linny]

They just started dating, so its understandable if they're very PDA. They probably don't realize that they're making her feel uncomfortable. I'd suggest having your gf talk to her best friend about this honestly. And if that doesn't work, I'd suggest she finds other friends to hang out with or other things to do, so she doesn't get roped into hanging out with them. It's a lot easier to say no when you have legitimate stuff you have to go to or get done.

In general though, this is a problem you gf should resolve on her own. I think what you're currently doing right now (talking to her on the phone, trying to cheer her up) is the best you can do without crossing some kind of line.

[7thprincess]

Well you can have your gf tell them: "Why dont we hang out when my bf is available. It would be more fun."

[chitah]

ur gf is way too nice. tell her to be more agressive! she should ask them if they wanted to hang out or make out? "
oh, as for soothing her....man there is no soothing her. i'd be pretty damn pissed off if i were her.

[PhuongNguyen]

Well, I think it's rather unreasonable for your girlfriend to be "piss" off at them when it's her fault that she cannot tell them no. If it bothers her that much, just say no. I don't understand why she choose to go with them (knowing that she'll be annoyed), then actually getting piss about it afterward?

Just tell her to tell her friends that she feels uncomfortble around them and prefer not to go. They're probably just trying to be a good friend by including her, but once they realize she rather not go, they'll stop.

[heheimawesome]

I didn't read your whole post.. but have you ever thought of going with your girlfriend?
so it's like two couples?

[night]

Just don't hang out with them then!

I don't care if it's you're best friend...if u don't want to go, no one can make u go.
It's called saying "NO", and doing what YOU want to do. Why is she blaming them for making out when she knows that they will make out. She should only be angry at herself for not standing up for herself.

[._.]

I didn't read your whole post.. but have you ever thought of going with your girlfriend?
so it's like two couples?

only on weekends.

i can't meet her on weekdays, we live in different towns 20 minutes away driving (i can't drive) + we're busy with school

this usually just happens shortly after school since they hang out for an hour or so then go back home to do homework

[Angxizzle]

simple answer: tell her to say no, she doesnt have to say it rudely just say no i cant go . better yet maybe she should tell her friend str8 up, i mean me & my best friend are pretty blunt to each other.

[Swtess]

Your gf should tell them no. It's her fault for being a softy and of course they would want her to hang since they're bestest of best friends.
They can't help it if they're being intimate at times

[anna12125]

LOL if your gf is best friends with that girl, she should be able to talk about it maturely right? It's great that you're worried about it but yeh, it's your gf's problem if she isn't able to talk about it and say 'no'. Her friend should be able to understand about it or else she isn't worthy being her best friend. That's what i think anyways but goodluck!

[~Tropical.Mists]

Haha! Sounds like a similar situation I used to be in XP
I had a friend who hooked up with this guy in gr. 10 and they were REALLY close and I was really happy for them, but it was REALLY awkward whenever they invited me a long to be the third wheel -___-'

At first I thought it was ok too since they were both my friends and I love them =)
But then after they got closer, they'd basically cut me off from their "date"... it was horrible and I just got tired of it =S so eventually I told them that I didn't wanna be a third wheel anymore haha!
It was up to the point that I actually said "no thanks... i feel awkward... o_O" and then they'd be like "oh..." and they got the message ^^''
Didn't ruin the friendship, but they just stopped inviting me to things that were just the two of them haha!

I think your gf, should just tell them "no" and just move on with life... no point in running and saying yes just to be nice XP

--xoxo.
TM

[sodaniechea]

She should say that she's busy

[sugarjeong]

lol she should either talk to them about it or hang out with other ppl

[Ayuu~]

i think they're trying to be good friendz to her cause they really value her friendship!
so they tr to include her in everything.. except they just probably dont realise they're making her feel annoyed..
i think she just needz to talk to them about it thatz all...
or u can talk to them about it...
itz not as big of a problem as she putz it..

[fortyone.]

why's she hanging out with them if she doesn't like it? o_o
just tell them straightforward and to consider her during their outings? :3

[<3 Kim]

That must suck to be our gf :/ Tell her if they keep begging just refuse. I would've done that. It's rude to just continuously do couply stuff in front of friends, show some respect for others

[Kira_Hyuu]

Lol just talk to ur friends that their pissing off ur gf i mean hey it can't be that hard...