[heavenlyfrozen]

What do you do.......

when you are madly in love with a guy and he's madly in love with and you two want to be together, BUT your father won't allow you to date.
Your mom is reasonable but your dad wants to kill every guy who chases after you...

What do you do?

[JASON;]

not tell him.

lie about it. who cares?

[kevykevvv]

Most teenagers, young adults who are in relationships keep them from their parents, just because of reasons like school... and traditional things.

However, my British Literature teacher, always at random times during class, brings up his definitions for things. His definition for true love, is when you're so madly in love with someone, that you'd go behind your parents back and love him, and even if you know it wont work out, you still fall for him and risk being hurt just because they make you happy for those moments.

[._.]

Most teenagers, young adults who are in relationships keep them from their parents, just because of reasons like school... and traditional things.

However, my British Literature teacher, always at random times during class, brings up his definitions for things. His definition for true love, is when you're so madly in love with someone, that you'd go behind your parents back and love him, and even if you know it wont work out, you still fall for him and risk being hurt just because they make you happy for those moments.

lol for me its different

you'd tell your parents and take that risk, hoping for the best since you cant just stand the thought of being broken apart by parents.

[thumperrr]

I think I'd rather tell my parents.


What's your dad going to do really?
Ban you from going to school so you won't see him?
Lock you up in your bedroom so you wont be able to go out at all?
Take your phone away so you wont be able to call him?
beat him up with a stick?
Like can he do that? I don't think so.

Honesty is the best policy.
If you can openly admit that you're dating someone,
you'll gain the trust that you deserve. Specially from your parents.
Cause if you hide it...then you just kinda disappoints them :/
Mind you but I hate disappointing my parents the most.

[Namine]

and how old are you ?

well if you hide it
make sure you wont get caught

[<3 Kim]

My dad didn't want me to date either. He found out one day though, but he was fine with it later. Both my bf and I explained to him in person how much we wanted to be with eachother

[latina]

how old are you??? because i had the same situation as you but i'm already 20.
i know eh? my mom didnt allow me to have a boyfriend even though im 20 and i found it unfair.
so what i did was i kept it from her.. but eventually, i started to drop hints that some guy likes me..
she was really mad when she knew that i already have a boyfriend (she secretly read my text msgs from him)
this is where COMPROMISING comes to play... and make sure you know how to keep your word.
i promised her that I wont neglect my studies.
i always ask permission if ever me and my bf will go on a date and make sure i get home ON TIME.
if ever your dad slowly accepts your situation, introduce your s.o. to him.

that's what i did.. and now, my bf and my mom are in good terms.

TBH, our relationship got better when all the hiding and sneaking stopped.

[Nine]

tell your dad you're growing up and you've fallen in love
he can't stop you from falling in love, it's part of life and he has to deal with it sooner or later lol

[xBLiSSFUL]

My dad didn't want me to date either. He found out one day though, but he was fine with it later. Both my bf and I explained to him in person how much we wanted to be with eachother

awwwwwwww, i would be so scared to talk to my partner's parents if i never met them, especially saying " i wanna date your son, let us be together pleaseeeeeee "

[prisonerzero]

I'm allowed to date, I guess (my parents and I actually never talked about it, really), but I'm always the one that probably wouldn't even tell them if I was open with them. ^^;

[blue_wishesx3]

my parents dont allow me to date either..
just dont tell them ><

if sneaking around gets stressful then tell them the truth .

[maharu.]

Just tell him honestly.
So even if the relationship doesn't work out, he'll be by your side supporting you.
Depends on the parent but yeah...parents are parents.

Good parents care about their child's happiness the most.


But I remember when I was a baby, my dad was like "I can't let her get a bf!!!" and holding onto me lol.
My mom was like, "...what are you going to do when she gets one?"

[MNLV27]

at first i was scared to tell my mom about my s/o and i but when i did tell her she was accepting...
his parents knew right away when we became official, so i guess both our parents are open with us dating,
it felt like a big load just came off of my shoulder when i told my mom..im glad too, that way i didnt have
to be all secretive...

just tell your parents...even if they wont allow it, just be persistent and show them that getting a bf wont change anything...
eventually when they see that you are happy, they'll just let it be...parents are all talk, they wont actually do anything horrible...

[WildSevenGirl]

Don't let your dad know.
Or let your dad know.
He can't control your life.
So let him see that.

[hAppynote]

it's better to tell or else when he finds out uve been lying, he'll freak out about every little thing u do and accuse u of things u haven't done and ur bf will become the scapegoat. just plan the right way to tell

[heavenlyfrozen]

Thank you everyone for your great advice ^^
as for my age...i rather not say but im in high school haha

[forgottenmemories]

I know this is not good advice, but just date the guy behind your dad's back. What's he going to do when he finds out? Disown you? Just do it and see how it goes.

[bebeSO-viet]

Hm I'm kind of in the same situation.
Although my parents have never said I cannot date, but they say stuff like "Focus on your studies, worry about a boyfriend after you finish school"
I just haven't told them.
I guess just wait for them to ask, then be honest if you feel like that's what you want to do.