[.:precious:.]

im 17... just in case this will help and hes 17 as well...

okay so ive been with this guy for just a little over a month, but we have liked each other for a year anddddd were finally together...
So I didnt want to go behind my parents back and so I told them that im dating this guy...And they didnt agree with it because hes not the same religion as me...They have been giving me so much stress, they make me come home right after school. They have told me that they dont agree with him because he doesnt share our religious beliefs and that everything may seem happy now, but in the future this will become an issue for me. I am very involved in my religion and i dont want to give it up...I dont feel that dating a guy that doesnt share my religious views will affect me.

The amount of pressure that we have both been facing from my parents lately is crazy. so we havent really been happy for the past week, and they are sort of killing it...Im thinking about breaking up with this guy...because I wonder if I could really be happy with someone that my parents wont even talk to and they dont want to get to know. Plus the fact that were so young and I dont think that we should be going through all these issues...What would you do in my situation?

I feel happy with him...but im getting all this pressure from my family...and if im not with him, im doing what they want (they have a lot of dreams for me regarding my eduaction as well and they feel that he is a distraction)...but i feel so lonely and i dont wanna give him up...

Is anyone in my sort of situation? what did you choose to do? should I give it time?
Or what would you do if you were in my situation?

[rawr_sheila]

do you know what type of guy you are looking for?
he should have the same or similar beliefs as you.

you may not see the differences now, but you will feel it later if you keep on dating him.

i've never dated, but i've experienced it with friends.

some of my friends have dated guys with different beliefs, things dont turn out well.

besides that, you should date a guy that your parents like.

they know whats best for you.

how much do you like that guy?

[donporkuloin]

I say keep dating the guy. You never know it may work out. If it doesn't? Then this will be a good learning experience for you.

[jbigdog123]

I don't have any problems with people being involved with a religion but I don't think it should dominate one's life.

So I don't get people who cannot be with some one just because of different religious beliefs.

[hunterheart]

I broke up with my bf because of our religious belief differences. You just have to figure out that your priorities are and don't let parents get in the way of your decision. You choose either your commitment to your religion or your bf. It's not what your parents want, its what you want to put first in your life.

[Joisushi]

I broke up with my bf because of our religious belief differences. You just have to figure out that your priorities are and don't let parents get in the way of your decision. You choose either your commitment to your religion or your bf. It's not what your parents want, its what you want to put first in your life.

I'm pretty sure you could do both....O_O;;;

[tessa-becc]

I don't have any problems with people being involved with a religion but I don't think it should dominate one's life.

So I don't get people who cannot be with some one just because of different religious beliefs.

Yes, you hit the jackpot there.

If you really love another person, you try to make it work, no matter what.

I am an atheist and my bf is a spiritist, but we have been together for many years now without any major clashes, because we have learned to accept and respect one another.

We have also agreed to try to influence eventual children as little as possible and let them choose their own direction as they grow up...

Good luck!

Tessa

[abusegirl]

things are only as difficult as one makes them. if two people can come together and say "this is my religion, that is yours, i do not agree with yours but i respect it because i respect you. do not try to convert me and i will not try to convert you." things can be extremely easy. it's when other people get involved that issues arise.

of course people having this much common sense is hard to come by. i've dated many people of several different religious backgrounds. most have tried to convert me and get angry when i'm not interested. the ones who respected me and my decision were the ones who lasted a long time. i personally dont give a damn who or what you worship...just dont try to make me do the same.

talk to the guy and ask where he stands and if he can commit to the this is my religion mini cooper i said before. also discuss if the both of you are strong enough to face the opposition of parents. that seems to be your only issue now.

point is people rarely care about another persons religion until one tries to force it on them. it leaves a bad taste in a persons mouth. and from what i remember all religions preach an acceptance of all peoples no matter their background. so wtf....what's all the hate and lack of acceptance about?!

[angelcadex]

I just really hate the fact that your parents are breathing down your neck.
That's my only issue.
My boyfriend is Agnostic and I'm Catholic...sooo yeahhh lol

I mean you haven't even been dating for that long I think right now you should just be going with the flow and shouldn't have to deal with 'omg what's are relationship gonna be like in the future?!'

[hunterheart]

OMG LOL! Hazel... O_O this is your thread? I didn't read who's the topic starter.

I'm pretty sure you could do both....O_O;;;

Maybe. Maybe not. It depends how strong your faith is.

[<3 Kim]

May I ask what religions are you both of you following?

My bf is Buddhist. But he's not really religious, only his parents are.
I'm Catholic, I go to church every week and i'm quite religious. My mum is a strong Catholic, however my dad isn't.

My parents have never said anything about religion with my bf. I have told my bf my beliefs and values, and he respects that. Religion differences have never affected our relationship before. Maybe tell your parents that your bf respects your values? Or maybe try to get him to meet your parents? :/