[GloomyPookie]

I don't know what to do... Maybe I'm just seeing things that "aren't there".
I have the feeling that my BF is starting to like a gf of his (who's in his band) and who he's known longer than me.

But I'm not sure because maybe I'm just trying to look for a fault? Because I'm quite insecure... and that's because most of his
friends have already cheated on their gf/bf (including that girl) without their gf/bf knowing. And since I know about that
I'm really cautious and suspicious...

And when we are somewhere (for example at a show of theirs) I sometimes look at my bf... and have the feeling that
he's going to stand near her or sit near her and not next to me and that he's sometimes checking her out??
But of course it could just be that his intentions are not like that... I just don't know.

And she's a sneaky flirter... she's an "innocent" one, looks innocent while she's not...
When I walk next to my bf then she always know a way to somehow walk in the middle of us, it annoys me.
And when she walks past him always touches him quickly. You know, while walking past very quickly put a hand on his
shoulder as though she can't pass him any other way because there "is no space" left even though there is space to just
normally walk by.

Yeah... she is kind of starting to annoy me. And making me insecure, I just recently noticed this.

I don't know what to think?? Because my bf is really sweet and definitely a good guy.
And I don't want to ask him if he is starting to like her because I might make him realise something he didn't see before?
And I don't want that.

Though I also don't want to keep on feeling suspicious... Today when I also thought about it I got a really really
nasty feeling in my stomach...

What do you think?
Especially guys.

[belarus*]

i hate those kind of girls.
confront your bf about it.
you cant just sit back and watch because you're afraid that your bf might realize something he didn't before. If he liked her from the beginning he'll know that its time to end it with you or if he just didn't realize his actions were coming off that way, now he knows, and he will shape up.

dont think you're paranoid. if your intuition tells you so, you're more likely to be right than wrong.

[flyxxaway]

Tell him how you feel.

If it's true it's better to know sooner than later. If it's not true then...well that's good.

[ANYOTHERDAY]

Omfg that girl sounds like a pinkberry.

Anyways, suss your boyfriend out, make sure he ain't just with you for the sake of it?

[derrek]

What if they're just really good friends? It's ok for your boyfriend to have a close female friend, as long as he's loyal to you. And until he does something to prove he doesn't deserve your trust, you have to trust him. My ex had tons of male friends, she even went out dancing with them... it didn't bother me, because I knew she didn't love / sleep with anyone else. Don't let jealousy make you feel terrible! Is he doing anything he wouldn't with a close male friend?

[GloomyPookie]

Yes, you're right, he is allowed to have close female friends. It's just that this didn't sat with me right (mainly because of her)... But yes he's not doing anything that he wouldn't do with a close male friend. That's why I was doubting about if it might just only be because of my insecurity.

But good news! About an hour/half an hour ago I talked to him about it. I just couldn't keep it to myself.
He told me that he doesn't like her. And he asked why I thought that and for how long I've been thinking that and I explained to him why I thought that. And we talked about it really good. And he was really sincere and honest.

I'm glad he and I talked about it. Now it won't be nagging in the back of my mind. The instant we talked about it I felt a weight get off my shoulder.

Thank you all for replying and your insights!

[derrek]

Glad things worked out :]

[GloomyPookie]

Glad things worked out :]

Thanks! Me too haha. xD

[grainsofrain]

well, for me, you could talk to him about it.
but then if i feel like a girl can easily take him away from me just by flirting.. well, i don't think it would work out in the end.
being able to feel confident that your bf wouldnt like someone else is a biggy for me.

[marcelohjj]

u should work on the trust level of your relationship
its all about trust...ur bf is WITH you not her.
i dont know what type of guy ur bf so i cant really comment

[LiizziieN]

Though you should trust your bf.
If you feel this strongly insecure; DO talk to your bf about this.

This should get the weight of your shoulder or get your head straight. o.o Either one hopefully

[Co-coLove]

ooomg, I hate those kind of girls.
I think that's best for you to do is confront your boyfriend.
If you don't let him know sooner than later, things will happen.
Who knows, they could be already dating behind your back.. IF they're actually dating, and you're going to sit back and pretend that you don't notice anything, then they would have nothing to worry about.