[&LETitgo]

After a break-up, do you think it matters how long before you/they get a new s/o?

This came across my mind after discussing with a friend about this guy I met at a party who flipped my world upside down,
and already, I'm looking forward to the next party we're at.
My ex broke up with me a month ago, and me being the breakee, everyone comforted me.
But I got over him quicker than I thought.

Anyway, my friend said that I could get labeled stuff that isn't true;; you know;; and that I could be
But my other friend clearly stated that "dating is about getting to know people and start relationships, so labels shouldn't matter. If you're over him, you're over him, if you want a new guy, you want him."

Which do you believe more?

[des monstres]

i think it depends on the terms of the break up.
does that make sense?

[sus]

if the relationship was serious
then at least 2 months.. if not more..
i reckon 1/2 a year ? maybe more

i take long to bounce bak!

[kireisnowtenshi]

I think it depends on how long you were with that person.

If your with a guy for like a year and then not even 2 days after he's gone your already with someone then there is a problem haha.

But if you were together not more than 5 months and a month later your with another...then pssssshhh screw what everyone else says...you had a month to get over him lol...or her...it doesnt matter.

[Duey]

wow already going into another relationship. how do you do that. im so tired from it i need a longgg break for myself hehe

[tokidokimiki]

i always think people should take it slow after getting out of a relationship.

there's always that idea that your ex will get of something like "she's trying to make me jealous" or something along those lines,
its in the human nature to think that way

[jbigdog123]

Man, there is no time table. People get over their previous relationship differently and in different time period.

If you meet some one after the break up, regardless of time frame, and that person becomes interesting, I'd say go for it.

[Left_King]

There is no definate answer....

Sometimes when u break up, emotions go tru ur mind...and it can affect ur judgements/decision....
To date someone, personally, i think u should know that person inside out...its not because he was comforting u and treating u well Post Break-Up...and because he's cute, that u'll consider goin out with him... In order for a relationship to be sucessful u need to accept ur partner's 'weakness' ...so i really think u should know the person really well...

So i guess....u should take ur time...cuz if he's the one...he'll be the one... No matter how long u wait...!!

DId i answer ur question...!?!

[Stevent]

There's no time frame where you have to wait until getting into another relationship. It's all about whether you're ready to be thrust into another relationship or not. If you like someone, go for it.

[MNLV27]

thats hard to say when i's the right time,
but if you feel like you are ready to move on then move on,
whatever people say about you, just ignore it because they're
just outsiders making judgments on something they dont
even know the whole truth to...

[Hakiri]

I think it depends how you feel about a relationship.
I know someone who feels mega-super-depressed when she's not in one,
so she's always with a guy at some point, and moves on pretty quickly after
a breakup.
Although I did move on quickly after my first ex, it was more because
we broke up on really bad terms and I was on the rebound -__-;;
But now I'd have to think really hard about getting into a relationship again
because I'd rather have more time to myself and my friends for the moment
after the first guy pushed nearly all of them away from me, and said I shouldn't
hang out with them because they were secretly trying to break us up o_O

[mikomi]

I think it's limited to the time it takes for you to get over him/her. If the relationship has been going downhill and you just pushed breaking up off, then when you finally do break-up you didnt really need time get over him/her. As long as you're not being unfair with your feelings anything goes! Just don't cheat.

[jho]

It doesn`t matter. Don`t sweat it, there are rarely any black and white in relationships. Just go with what your heart and brain tell you to do : )

[princessleenie]

I thought it would have took atleast like 4 months or more to start a new relationship but i guess im wrong because right after me and my ex broke up, i mean literally like right after these two guys started talking to me already. I feel like such a bad person but i tried to use one guy to get over my ex but after a month i figured it didnt work. We werent dating or anything but i guess he considered us seeing each other? After the that i started talking to this totally different guy who im still talking to now. It kinda helped me let go or start to atleast and its screwed up now cause my ex figured he still wants to be with me. Well obviously im not over my ex completely yet

[pocketsoul]

It's hard to say, but I think that if you've fully acknowledged that you're over your ex and you have no feelings left then you're okay. You don't want to go put yourself in a new relationship when you have unresolved feelings for your last one.

[Juli~<3]

it depends how you broke up.
it kinda sounds like a rebound though.

[donporkuloin]

It all depends on the person. When you're ready to find someone new is when you're ready.

[insanelyCRAZY]

i believe in what your friend says. no labels. and its either you like the guy or you dont.
it just depends on whether or not you realize what you're feeling and if you can accept it and everything else that might come along with it.

understandable? Lol.