[chinkboye22]

imma picky guy and i like it because i know what i want in a girl as in looks and personality, i'm really picky on looks and it comes first for me, and then personality

call me narrow minded or shallow but it is what i want, im not asking for a super model and what i want is realistic but it becomes more hard to find that special someone, yea theres a lot of pretty girls out there but there are a very few girls that just grasp me by the collar, i always fall for really cute Christian girls that good girls, really goodlooking but dresses modest, and always seem upbeat and happy, friendly etc..somewhat like Natalie Portman, she's pretty but doesn't flaunt it like others

but getting off topic, theres not many girls like that, and when i finally find that ideal girl i want to pursue her but i can never get her, can't even be friends cuz well, the situation doesn't call for it, i mean i do try but it always ends up in her finding someone better than myself or just rejection, like i'd love to get to know her so i can show her what i can offer and who i really am but it never ends up that way, i'd be even ok with being friends..but nope, can't do crap

but then there are people who fall so easily for people, OH she's kinda cute~!, i'd do her! or OMG her personality is so sweet! I'm falling in love with her! or oh dang her boobies big and butt is big, I'd hit it!
yea i know dating is just dating, and yes i know everyone has different preferences, morals, and tastes, i just can't be that kinda of person even when im desperate

like girls that i wouldn't sleep with or wouldn't want to kiss but have a great personality, i put them in my friend category even if they do make me happy when i see them, but other guys would be like OMG im falling in love w/ her blah blhab

well whatever, im 21 and about to graduate, and finding girls at this age is harder, u ain't at uni or hs where u have options open, your in the real world etc...but i do feel desperate...but i won't lower my standards cuz it won't make me happy, so would u guys lower your standards? if u can't find that special someone?

[sohothot]

i believe that you have the right to be picky if you're 7 or above scale.

there are people out there that are mad ugly try to be picky and they end up with someone thats ugly as well. haha.

[aznfishyfart]

dont do it!!!!
someone will come eventually!!!
otherwise in the end ull be like ewwww y did i do it

[babysunshine]

I have pretty high standards too. i know exactly what i want and i wont settle for less. But things like love dont always turn out tha way you expect it to. it can be someone who meets everything you want but it turns out bad. i lowered my standards a little when i got together with my bf. & ive been together with him for over 2 years now. If u already dated around and came to tha conclusion that what can truly make you happy is a girl who meets all ur expectations then dont lower your standards. But understand that there's no one perfect in the world. And you're only 21 its not like you're choosing your wife now. you should date around and lower your standards a little, and see what happens. you might find your soulmate, if u believe in soulmates o.o

[MNLV27]

its nice that you have a standard of what your looking for, but then there can never be a girl of your dreams...
there's always something off, i say you should for now maybe lower it a bit and date other girls because you never
know what the outcome may be, maybe she just might be the one that you were actually looking for and not the standard
you wanted for your perfect girl...

[chinkboye22]

lol of course i know somethign will be a little off, im not saying OH she must be this tall! or she must love soccer and appease me 24/7
ok maybe for something i will not tolerate lookwise but yea u get my point

[Sam Sik]

My standards are already so low, I'm just so disappointed that I can't get anyone LOL.

[Gofishus]

Guys need to start thinking with their head and not their p***s.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

It's okay to be picky. But not too picky.

In your case, I can tell you're too picky or setting too high standard.

when i finally find that ideal girl i want to pursue her but i can never get her, can't even be friends cuz well, the situation doesn't call for it, i mean i do try but it always ends up in her finding someone better than myself or just rejection, like i'd love to get to know her so i can show her what i can offer and who i really am but it never ends up that way, i'd be even ok with being friends..but nope, can't do crap

I don't know why you're like that, but that means your standard is too high, you can find a less prettier girl with better personality.
Anyways, most really pretty girls have bad personality. Coz they know many guys want them, and all they do is just wait and act like they're some queen.

Let's take my friend as example, honestly, he knows some pretty girls, but to him, it's not even pretty. Now, Everyone has different taste, but some of his friends are definitely pretty. Now he's setting his standard too high.

Lower it a bit, there must be a pretty girl with a fun personality. You can't expect a really pretty girl. Coz Like I said, they act like a queen, if you can't get closer to them, no way they're gonna close to you, coz they know most guys want them anyway.

good luck

[thirsties]

this is WHY i have been single for over a year lol.

ok i have really high standards when it comes to dating, too. but the weird thing about me is that i tend to have have-assed crushes on people a lot? i never end up acting on it because i know i'm going to regret it (see:exbf situation) but sometimes i can't help but wonder.. right now i'm in one of those situations, too :| and the guy likes me. i'm a little tempted but at the same time i know it would never work out. he's like one big red flag in general lol.

anyway idek what i'm saying, but we have the same dilemma. good luck to both of us haha

[smiile]

lower your standards.
picky guys lose at the end, because the decent girls will be taken, and the girls you want, wont want you.

[shl979]

mm.. i can see you're very picky.. probably want at least a 9/10 girl. but my question to you is.. are you of high standard yourself in terms of looks and personality for the high standard girl??

-goodluck

[manlytoe]

Guys need to start thinking with their head and not their p***s.

i second that, and hopefully i didn't offend you, but back to the lowering your standards thing...
you don't want to regret getting with someone you're not really happy with. regret is the last thing you want.
truthfully, i don't think i would lower my standards either.
and i know that with our picky selves we might not get much, but hopefully we'll eventually get someone right?
anyways, i'm gonna end this with a good luck to you and a good luck to me as well. hahah!

[jincx]

if the girl makes you happy and you're comfortable with her, then it doesn't matter...but high standards, of course, everyone has them, just that some people have different expectations...but yeah, what's the use of lowering your standards if you're not really going to be happy with the person you're seeing...it just makes it all the worse not only for you but for the other person also....so, unless you start realizing that everyone is imperfect in some form, you might take an eternity just waiting....

[twinky81]

I'm the same way in that I don't go after a girl unless they meet certain "criteria". God, I sound so shallow. *sigh* Anyway, and maybe it's just me, after I'm friends with a girl for awhile... I'll be honest, that girl is not that "good-looking", but they are also not ugly. Once I start to get to know them more, and if they're funny and amiable, I end up drawn to them. It's actually messed up some of my friendships with girls in the past, so I've come to the realization that I was not meant to have girls as friends. Too difficult and troublesome for me. Girls are only good for dating, and if you find the right one... marriage. I'll keep waiting...

[ino_tenten]

no offence.... why dont u just find someone your level? If you kinda ugly just make sure you are nice, sweet, loyal and smart. And u can always get a girl who is better then u.

[supasheep]

loL. no reason to lower ur standards bro there are lots of girls that meet ur standards....i guess u'll be lucky 1 day. trust me. my standards are sort of high and sort of low (low compared to my friends standards in terms of looks) and the girls ive all been attracted to ALL HAVE BOYFRIENDS or from another city. lucky me wow whoohoo yay im so lucky~!!! so im still single.....oh wells.... im not gonna go for lower specs stuff for stuff that i dont need right away...i rather just wait and i might find the stuff with the right specifications for me and get it.....if im lucky enuff. hHAA.

[Pogichinoy]

no offence.... why dont u just find someone your level? If you kinda ugly just make sure you are nice, sweet, loyal and smart. And u can always get a girl who is better then u.

Ditto, the tough thing about reality is that maybe the unattractive guy is unable to get the beautiful, perfect girl. But hey, things may swing your way.

Keep trying!

[Flicksityy]

You're 21, I'm 16. I feel so much mature compared to you already.

Like dude we may be called twins by personality but you're seriously the stupid one. Even me, being the girl with the pretty boy addiction understands that I will not be able to date one, nor marry. Sometimes you need to think realistically, even if you find that girl, are you sure that she won't judge you the same way you judge girls? That won't be love. Judging will not bring you the love you want and the relationship you want.

And honestly, as a girl, it's a real put off knowing that a guy 'judges' and has all these standards. Girls dislike cocky guys, like dislike.

You may be the hottest or cutest most handsome guy around, but once a girl knows how cocky and how much you expect in a 'girl', game over.

You better let that standard of yours drop before you stay single all your life dude.

The question is, are you what those pretty girls want? Are you their standard? How good looking would you rate yourself? Your personality? Your education? Etc etc. In order words, are you even worthy of picking such girls?

Maybe you should question why you've been single first. May help.

[xoskwxo]

LOL damn straight Flicksityy!!