SORRY IT'S A LONG ONE. Haha.
Short version at the bottom.
Short version at the bottom.
Well I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years.
It's all right now I guess but he's gotten so used to be (having seeing me every single day ie. hanging at my house) that it's not as.. well, romantic or something on the lines of that?
ANYWAYS, lately for the past few weeks, he's been getting very angry at me at these "little" things. I say "little" things because they're not something I'd get mad at but to him, it matters and gets him mad. He says a lot of things that make me feel bad.
Things that get him mad are like me adding guy CLASSMATES on myspace. I only added them for the sole purpose of getting any assignments I forgot. Note that I added girls, too. He would get pissed and pretend that nothing was wrong but give me an angry/annoyed tone. I would tell him I would delete them but he would be like, "Nooo, you don't have to." I keep telling him that I'll delete them and that I don't like them and that the only reason I added them was to get the assignments I forgot, but he wouldn't let it go.
He would constantly check my mail, sent mail, and trash on myspace as well as my e-mail.
Something related to this is that on Halloween I took my camera to school. I didn't get to take a lot of pictures of myself (boo!) but anyways, I'm in the Fitness class and I'm one of 5 girls in the 50+ student class. All the guys are so stupid, lol, but most of them are friends I knew from last year and such. I DO NOT like any of them.
True that. Anyway, I didn't dress because I had a costume so I was bored and took pictures of some of them doing funny poses. Well later that night I wanted to show my boyfriend a picture of this scary girl I saw dressed up at school. I wanted to skip the pictures of the guys in my Fitness class so that he wouldn't get all mad and stuff but he saw and took my camera and started looking through it himself. I could tell he was getting annoyed. I told him "Oh they took my camera and took those pictures," because I know that he would get really angry if he knew I took them. And he was like, "Oh really? So you wouldn't mind if I delete them right?" Eh, I told him yeah sure because I really didn't care for those pictures but the thought of it you know, it just bugs me. Are other girls boyfriends like that? =/Another thing is that I fall asleep when he's hanging at my house or when I just get home from school. Ugh, getting up at 6 in the morning, having 6 hours of school plus 1 hour of walking home, umm, isn't that reason enough for why I'm tired? =( He would always be like, "Go to sleep then," and be all pissed off.
A similar thing happened today. I was bored and comfy in my bed and was dozing off and he sighs and such and tells me to go to sleep. He said something else that I forgot but I know it was something that made me feel bad. So I got fed up and forced myself to get up. The thing is though, I think he just wanted me awake to keep him from being bored because THE INTERNET WASN'T WORKING. He's on my computer all the time and I'm usually ending up watching TV or doing homework and I won't be able to go on my computer until he leaves at 9 PM. When he's on the computer and I'm asleep, he doesn't really mind.
One last thing, haha. My boyfriend comes to my house everyday. And you know, I have to feed him. I go with my mom to Safeway every month and stock up on food costing +$150 usually. I feel bad because I spend so much on food. @_@ I store all the snacks I bring to school in my room so all the other people in my house won't eat them. Eh, but when my boyfriend gets hungry he just goes through my drawers and its a lot of it. I'm thinking now that it's better to leave all my food outside. I can't just tell him, "Hey I kinda was saving that for school," you know, it's pretty messed up, so I just let him eat it.
Anyway, he eats a crap load of noodles. So much that now when my mom buys the certain brand, she hides it in her own room so I won't be able to take it and make it for my boyfriend. I even get yelled at from my parents for just bringing him over and giving him all our food. Ugh, and I have to cook everything. I get annoyed sometimes because I really don't feel like cooking! But I don't show it because my boyfriend would get mad and say he's not hungry and just sits there in front of my computer and starve. He gets annoyed when there isn't anything good to eat at my house.
I feel really bad because he's the one who comes over my house and aren't I the one who is supposed to feed him or something? =/
Ugh there are so many other things but I don't list every single thing, haha. ^^;;
SO, here's the short version,
Is it normal that my boyfriend:
- gets pissed when I add guy classmates because I forget assignments
- checks all my mail, including myspace and e-mail
- deletes all the pictures of any guy from my school in my camera
- gets mad because I fall asleep when he's with me at his or my house
And is it normal that I get annoyed:
- for cooking him food everyday and letting him eat food that I've been saving for school
- when he doesn't trust me like checking my e-mail and my recent calls
- when he ALWAYS says that he loves me but I don't love him
Ugh, I'm going crazy! It would really help if you guys could tell me what you think. Thanks so much
Oh and there was this big-ol' drama thing that happened between him and I but maybe I'll share that later? We'll see.
EDIT:
Thanks again for the replies but I don't think there's a need for me to comment on them because broke up with me last night..
I was really fed up and didn't even care. I was so damn frustrated.
I told him fine and I would hang up the phone but he would always call me back. He basically made me stay on the phone with him for more than 4 hours listening to him cry.
He yelling, "Why are you doing this to me," "You never loved me," "You fooled me again," and things on the line of that. But when he gets mad he starts to curse and say "I hate you," and says he's going to date a girl at his school.
At first I wanted to try and work it out but I told him that we would have to talk tomorrow because it was late (Maybe 1 or 2 in the morning; I never checked the time).
It's because when I'm sleepy, I would really say things that don't make any sense and because I was so tired I wouldn't even remember what I said. I don't know why, it's been happening for a while when him and I used to sleep on the phone with each other. One time he even accused me of cheating on him just because I wasn't able to remember what I said.
So because of that I didn't want to take the risk of saying things I didn't mean. On the other hand I know it's bad to not solve the issue right there and then. To him it shows that the I don't even care for what's happening. He told me himself.
I really don't know what to do. Last time he threatened to kill himself and last night he said he was going to go somewhere else and never come back.
I asked him if he trusted me before all this. He beated around the bush and basically said that he didn't.
Oh yeah. I forgot mention, this pretty much sucks because he's my best friend's brother.
