[._.]

How important is it to you?

Is it bad if I haven't kissed my girlfriend yet and today is 3weeks marking since we've started to go out?

The farthest we've gotten is hugging. And I think she might be frustrated because of that, i don't know. I feel like she's hinting it cause she tells me that her friend (that just got a boyfriend a week ago) already kissed with him and she also told me a story of how her cousin dumped her boyfriend cause he didnt do anything not even hug/kiss after 2 months but then that she regretted it cause he was a nice guy. (maybe hinting that it's OK if i didn't kiss or anything? O_O)

i dont know, but i just want to know is it really important to you

for me, i want it to come naturally and not force it... at the right time
cause i haven't had those "moments" as of lately since i haven't been able to hang out with her much.

different schools, her parents don't approve of her going out alot so we had to cancel a few plans and we see each other 3times a week but with a group of people, not alone. well its also been a secret relationship until yesterday so that might be a reason why

again, is it important to you?
she's also my first gf so i have no experience thats why i need help ^^

[mikomi]

You know, you're right. The moment has to be right! When you've got enough courage and you think the time is right, ie. if you guys are sitting together in the park somewhere and you have your arm around her, you look at her, smile and stare for a few seconds. Then you quickly kiss her. Really, short but sweet, lip to lip kiss. Then you smile and say, " I'm new at this, kissing thing" or something similar that is cuter. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!!

But yeah, back to the subject. IT IS important. If you take too long to kiss her, you'll confuse her. She'll think she's unattractive or you don't like her, or she'll think you're prude...but you never know. mabe she's the type of person who will just KISS YOU.

There's nothing difficult about kissing. You don't need to be expert tonguer to be a good kisser. I think the best kisses are the ones that are dry. You know, the kind of lip to lip kiss that you used to give to your mom or dad when you were 4 years old, except this time it's more passionate and it's not with a parent.

[randykiyoshi]

Wow, I thought 3 weeks is too quick. I think you should wait at least 3 - 6 months until you do a lip to lip kiss. >_<

I think physical stuff is not really important until at least 3 weeks. The chance of gf/bf staying together forever are super unlikely so don't waste your kissy's!

[._.]

oh yeah she would be my first kiss lol.

im like really sure we'll last long

we had a really good relationship beforehand, she rejected me once and took me as a friend but then regretted the chance we had and turned out my feelings never died for her so we got together :]

[sidney]

don't worry it's been 3 months and bf haven't kiss me yet. The time was never right and plus we only get to see each other once every week or every 2 weeks. Also he's shy as hell. It is important to me but i can wait until the moment is right. Don't wait TOO long though or you'll confuse her.

[Achromatic]

The physical is pretty important to me; I get impatient if it doesn't happen within 3 or 4 dates..so I usually just lean in for it.
Just go with the flow, after hugging her or something just go for it...having no experience is okay. Once you get the hang of it, you'll want to make out all the time

[ljinyoungl]

At first I sortof found physical things were important in a relationship but, after a while I sortof found it not so important. I still find it somewhat important but, not to the point where you would just dump your partner because of it.

Is a relationship really all about physical actions? I don't think it is but, its could be different from others' point of view. I just see "physical things" role is just to show that you two are a couple. Although I don't see it the most important thing, I'm not saying just ignore it but, to encourage it. If you don't show that you're a couple and love each other than how do you call yourself a couple? But, if the relationship is all above physical means than, how can that be called love, when all you care about is looks and physical traits? Pretty much, I'm saying there more to a relationship than just "physical things"

[obs3ssive]

I think you're right, you should wait until you feel it's right time..don't rush things!
She might be getting frustrated just cause she's been kissed before already, and she doesn't feel like it should be a big deal.
But since it is for your, I would want to make my first kiss special too and not feel any type of force or pressure behind doing it ^.~

About the physical things..
I think it is fairly important in a relationship.
I think engaging in physical things (kissing, cuddling, hugging, holding hands etc.) makes you feel closer and more comfortable with one another.

[pocketsoul]

First kisses are something you always remember so you want it to be someone you truly care about, you know? Even if you don't stay with that person, at least you'll be glad you shared that kiss with someone you genuinely had deep feelings for. You shouldn't feel guilty about not getting intimate on a physical level if you aren't comfortable with it yet. Take things slowly, there's no big rush. You're both young and have a lot of time to get into those things later. It's really quite irrelevant to the development of your relationship at this point, and iff she's not going to stay with you because her hormones can't be satisfied, I don't think she's all that worth it anyway.

[CONSTANCE]

its true, the moment has to be right take things slow! dont rush it! you want the kiss to be memorable .. in a GOOD way not in a slobbery wet way lol

[grainsofrain]

those affectionate things matter :b
a lotttt, i think.

[insanelyCRAZY]

i think you should tell your girl gently that..you want your love for eachother to progress slowly and passionately at the right pace fit for the both of you. (:

[xo_hellokitty]

Yaaa girls are really sensitive about that! && of course, it's important.. body language tells a lot about a relationship. & those "physical" things are jus how we show love to each other!

Don't worry about it too much! You're right, it should come naturally ;]]

[Juli~<3]

gosh time doesnt matter, its about the heart and spontaneity

[<3 Kim]

My bf and I didn't kiss till about 3.5 months, so just because you're not doing anything doesn't mean you'll get dumped o_O

[ShadowMax76]

m. . for some reason i'm imagining two lovers who couldn't tell each other how much they loved each other because they can't speak the same language.
:3 then there's plan b. hugs. x3

oO' in relationship... neh. it's nice to hold someone you care about. otherwise you get that prolonged urge to when they're just standing there. which is kinda.. @_@ neh. i never was much of a touchy person before, but now-a-days i pretty much touch anyone.. LOl.

if she isn't going to be touchy then.. i'm sure there's something else i stay around for.

_ back to topic. o_o' eh.. i'd be touchy the moment we're going out. xD

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

every couple is different

but to me......sex is basically one of the SUREST way to know if love is really there between the two of you.

and there aren't a lot of SUREST ways.

people can't lie....they really can't (im sure some people know what im talking about)

[joongielove]

Me and my boyfriend didn't even kiss until...uh...7 months. But after that things have been moving very fast o_o;

Just wait until the time is right, don't force it! I loved the environment that I got my first kiss in

[angelcadex]

It varies.
In my relationship, if we're not showing each other physical affection,
something is damn sure wrong.
We're just an affectionate couple period.

But of course this is now, lots of time has passed.
He's actually my first kiss..and yes I'm so happy it wasn't forced and it was the right moment.
I just get giddy talking about it now

It was one week after we'd started dating...
just a peck but still <3
Again, it depends on the person, we're just like that.