[LilViet]

Well i just broke up with my girlfriend just two days ago. she said she still wanted to be friends and i agreed because she's a great person. i think i still like her but im not really sure. i think i still like her but i don't want things to go back to how they were before we broke up. she said she still liked me and we see each other daily because of school. every time she see's me she looks sad and i think she cried a little today. what should i do? i don't know if i want to get back with her or not... i think i still like her but again i think it's just because we just broke up so i think its just an impulse. im really confused... can anyone help me out?

[donporkuloin]

Why did you two breakup to begin with? Give us something to work with.

[Eijiro]

Simple, take a break. Take some time away from her so you can think about everything and she can as well. A lot of people want to get back together right after a break up out of impulse; you spent a lot of time with this person and now it's very strange not having them around. If you spend a few weeks apart, chances are things will go back to normal and you won't feel the need to be back together.

[LilViet]

Why did you two breakup to begin with? Give us something to work with.

well we broke up because everything was the opposite as it was before (it was the opposite for about a month). like we'd talk all the time and kiss and such but when school started, all of that was gone basically. She'd just leave without saying good bye, we never kissed and it seemed as if she'd rather go talk to someone else than me. i went to her house just two days ago to see if anything was different and it was basically still in the slumps. we use to tickle each other and hold hands and all that stuff then it just all stopped. we were together for a little over 9 months.

[donporkuloin]

well we broke up because everything was the opposite as it was before (it was the opposite for about a month). like we'd talk all the time and kiss and such but when school started, all of that was gone basically. She'd just leave without saying good bye, we never kissed and it seemed as if she'd rather go talk to someone else than me. i went to her house just two days ago to see if anything was different and it was basically still in the slumps. we use to tickle each other and hold hands and all that stuff then it just all stopped. we were together for a little over 9 months.

You should try telling her what you told me, and see what happens?

[LilViet]

You should try telling her what you told me, and see what happens?

well i did and she said she wanted to try to make it work but i didn't answer that question yet... im so confused that i don't know what to do

[Juli~<3]

even if the both of you claim to still like each other, something has obviously been lost
maybe school is stressful or whatever
and you could ask that instead of seeing each other all the time it'd be like arranged times for like breaks or whatever because maybe there'll be less stress and whatnot?

but.. being honest. i just think you've both grown out of each other. you think you still like her, but i think its more of like a routine kinda thing? hard to explain. seeing as the relationship has ended i think its a good time to just reflect on the relationship for a while. give it some space. then if you decide that you really do actually like her still then approach her and tell her.

[LilViet]

even if the both of you claim to still like each other, something has obviously been lost
maybe school is stressful or whatever
and you could ask that instead of seeing each other all the time it'd be like arranged times for like breaks or whatever because maybe there'll be less stress and whatnot?

but.. being honest. i just think you've both grown out of each other. you think you still like her, but i think its more of like a routine kinda thing? hard to explain. seeing as the relationship has ended i think its a good time to just reflect on the relationship for a while. give it some space. then if you decide that you really do actually like her still then approach her and tell her.

Thanks, that gave me something to really ponder about. But its kind of hard to give each other space when you see the other at least 4 times a day. can you or anyone give me some advise about that?

[grainsofrain]

i think it's a natural feeling to feel all this sadness and how they will stand out a lot for now.. but maybe you guys need a break to see how it is... because it could just repeat itself over again.

there's still plenty of chances for love out there, imo.

[LilViet]

i think it's a natural feeling to feel all this sadness and how they will stand out a lot for now.. but maybe you guys need a break to see how it is... because it could just repeat itself over again.

there's still plenty of chances for love out there, imo.

Thanks, but... how long would a break be? 1 week? a couple days? and she still wants to be friend, so is it fine if we talk during this break?

[LilViet]

can anyone answer me this? Bump.

[chopstick^^]

What i dont understand is why do couple who still love each other break up???? I see this alot!! & im so confusee.... they love each other..miss each other..but they decide to break up! & both end up being heart broken..