[Lucky]

please help me figure this out. My friend is stressing like crazyy. and i dont know how I can help.

here's the story:

okay, my friend just recently started to like someone that she somewhat know through friends.
They like always see each other around. and like well after that he started talking to her. and like it
would be through aim. and like he would always im her. and he always want to see her. he then told her
that for some reason he felt so close to her, and that he just got close to her like hecka fast. and they would like for
hours like everyday. and he wants to hang out with her and always seem shy in front of her. now she feels like she's in love with
him or really like him, nut she doesnt want to cuz...

part two:

well the sad thing is he's taken. before he knew my friend, he told his friend that he was losing his feelings for his gf, and that
they always argue and like everything is just so bad for them. and then he recently told his friend that he was starting to like one of his
close "girl friends" and that he shouldnt, and he needs to stop. and he said that he doesnt want to break up with her cuz he doesnt want to hurt her...but yet it seems as if he likes my friend. cuz he did state that he's starting to like one of his close friend and he did told her that she felt close to her and got close to her hella fast, and he said that she's not like the other girls. and everytime he's on aim and talking to her, almost everytime he type something it always end with a happy face..and when they hang out he always try to talk to her and always look at her and get hecka shy..my friend is getting confused..she doesnt know what to do. whether to stop her feelings or what....:\

when the friends would hang out, and my friend doesnt go, he would ask whether she was coming later or whether she would come. and when one of his friend ask "why you want her to come huh" he would say yeahh.

so please help me help her...she's always stressing about this and coming to me for advice...:[

[GreenTeaSparkles]

that sounds a lot like my friend's situation. Except it's even more stressing for her because there's another side to her story. But anyways yah she's stressing out a lot too.

i think if the guy doesn't like his gf anymore, they should just break up. It's useless continuing a relationship if one party doesn't like the other. It hurts the gf more in the end. So yah my advice is to get the guy to break up with his gf, and then he should go for your friend

[Kirei_BoA]

well it doesn't sound like anything your friend needs to do. the guy is taken. your friend can't go on stressing about whether he's gonna break up with his gf or not. she can keep her feelings but she should also look at other prospects. clinging onto a guy that's taken doesn't often lead to anywhere good. i mean she could admit to him that she likes him, but that all depends on if your friend is willing the deal with the fact that the guy might not wanna be friends or be around her anymore. if it were me, it wouldn't matter, bc you always meet new guys or friends. in regards to that guy, i agree he needs to break up with his gf asap, bc if he doesn't like his gf what's the point? he needs to stop playing games and stop worrying about hurting his gf's feelings. in the end, his happiness is what matters most and if he's not happy then he shouldn't be in the relationship. i believe this fact goes for anyone, too. everyone needs to be able to be happy by themselves and in the relationship they're in. hope i helped

[me_me]

my advice is to let him go...if he can cheat on his girlfriend he can cheat on her just the same...don't base anything on feeling because it can change over time

[Left_King]

my advice is to let him go...if he can cheat on his girlfriend he can cheat on her just the same...don't base anything on feeling because it can change over time

AGREE
But like...I recommend her not to try and get into a relationship with him...cuz that's wrong (while he has a gf)...
Whether...stop lovin him is the best option...i think we should leave it to her...she should know what she's doin and what's best...!!
I think its really cheap to 'destroy' others relationship...being the 3rd person... It makes me crazy...!!!
However....there's nth for her to love him...just dont do stuff to make him like ur frd more...

[L.FOR.LOVE]

the guy is taken
if he can lose feeling for his gf WHILE like another girl and stay with his current gf
he could do that to her
it dpends what the guy she likes does
unless she wants to be a third wheel

[Sympathetic]

How long has your friend and that guy known each other for?

He might be confused? Maybe.

And about her, she can't control her feelings anyway; if she likes him, she likes him.
If she's really confident that he likes her back then she should just talk about it to him.

[Lucky]

thanks guys for the advice. it really helped.

but since I'm friends with both. I can see how my friend the girl is trying to not talk to him as much anymore.although she said that its hard. and my friend the guy, seems to be more sad each day. Like today we all hanged out and he was sad the whole entire time, he looked at my friend alot too, with like sorrow, but yet he pretend to smile...:\ She too pretends to smile. When we were all hanging out, his gf called him to go bring her to the store, and it seems as if he didnt want to leave but yet he has to..its sad seeing them both in pain..sigh..

they seen each other around school just never talked, since they started talking, its been quite sometime now. I guess their feelings grew..idk..but yeah..and none of us know his gf..so we dont know how she is, since he never bring her with him to hang out. He's like 19 and my friend is also 19, and his gf is 16.

She said she doesnt want to be the third wheel, thats why she's trying to stop her feelings for him, or at least hid it. but it seems as if he needs her, cuz he talks to her everyday..so idk..She feels that if she stopped talking to him and start staying away, he would be more sad. My friend never flirt with him or anything..and he doesnt flirt with her either..but they are like hecka connected, idk how to explain but yeah.