[bonitagirlx]

okay so whenever im talkign with my friend she randomly points out things she doesnt like about me

like i have a big head, and that i look older than her

its really annoying and i dont know why she keeps doing it...

she recently got her first boyfriend and feels like she is on top of the world..

also, she told me she thinks she is prettier than me too, and that she is skinnier and taller...

i never say anything about her looks... in fact, i often call her pretty and nice looking

however she is always putting me down, and never gives me any compliments...

do you guys ever have the same problem???

whats her deal too?? >_<

she also calls me ugly too...

i know shes kidding, but i feel like if i do the same thing and start nitpicking her on her looks ill just be stooping really low..

[Seraphyx]

I can't say I've ever had this problem where someone makes fun of me for looking good and dressing well. HMM.

Perhaps these are possible reasons for your friend's blatant disregard of your feelings:

1) You really are ugly.

2) Maybe she is just joking, but indirectly trying to help you out.

3) You're ugly.

4) She has low self-esteem.

5) You do have a big head.

6) You really do look older than her.

7) She needs someone to make fun of to make herself feel better.

8) You may in fact be ugly.

[ohbliss]

Maybe you guys are close, but if your friend talks like that to you with no respect, you can do better.
So what if she's prettier? It doesn't give her the right to put down others to that extent.
Yeah, my friends & i joke around about looks, but um...saying, "I'm prettier than you." & actually giving reasons for it just sounds like an ass.

[cardamine]

LOL
you guys are BOTH probably ugly
-.-

[bbyneleh]

HAHAHA at above.



but seriously what kind of friend is she?
if i were you.. i would knocked her out long ago! no matter how ugly i am! it doesnt make her any prettier saying such horrible things TT omg RAGE!!!

[TICKLE ME Jx2]

Tell her about how much it annoys you.
And if she's a decent person, she'll (try to) understand where you're coming from and cut it out.
That doesn't happen to me, I can imagine it'd get pretty annoying.

[tofu plushie]

Maybe she feels that you are close enough as friends that she can say those kind of things? Anyway, you should probably talk her and tell her how it makes you feel uncomfortable when she says those things. If she doesn't stop well, she not a very good or considerate friend than.

[fantasian]

depends if she really means what she's saying. i mean if you say it bluntly like that, chances are she's just kidding.

my girl friends tease each other about being fatties all the time (though they're not fat at all)

But yeh if its making you feel uncomfortable tell her, if you're best friends, you should be able to communicate anything.

[simply korean]

okay so whenever im talkign with my friend she randomly points out things she doesnt like about me

like i have a big head, and that i look older than her

its really annoying and i dont know why she keeps doing it...

she recently got her first boyfriend and feels like she is on top of the world..

also, she told me she thinks she is prettier than me too, and that she is skinnier and taller...

i never say anything about her looks... in fact, i often call her pretty and nice looking

however she is always putting me down, and never gives me any compliments...

do you guys ever have the same problem???

whats her deal too?? >_<

she also calls me ugly too...

i know shes kidding, but i feel like if i do the same thing and start nitpicking her on her looks ill just be stooping really low..

wow, you're a really nice person for dealing with that.

if she's kidding like "you're ugly, just kidding" you should do the same, there has to be SOMETHING wrong with her or something seh's insecure about. do the same thing. maybe she'll stop

just say "ldjf ladsfjsl fj... just kidding" see how she feels.

if my friend did that to me ... i wouldn't just let it happen.

her problem: she just puts ppl down so she feels better about herself. thats how i see it

[mojomunkeez]

Maybe you really are ugly. Ever thought of that?

[joogrlpekaun]

Maybe you really are ugly. Ever thought of that?

And so what even if she is? Does that mean it's OK for her friend to tell her she's ugly all the time? I mean, she doesn't have to lie and say she's really pretty if she's not, but I really don't think it's cool of a "friend" to talk like that all the time. If it's just an occasional joke and obviously just a joke then fine, but this doesn't really sound like it's that type of situation to me.

If it were me, I'd tell her it's not cool and to keep it to herself from now on. Or actually, like someone else said, next time she does it, reciprocate with something about her. Like if she says your head is too big and you don't think she's just playing around in a way that you're comfortable with, then tell her SHE'S the one with the bigger head, metaphorically speaking, since she thinks she's so much better. If you're not comfortable with it then stop putting up with it when she says things that hurt you! You're letting her roll right over you if you do and she'll think it's ok.

[bbyneleh]

Maybe you really are ugly. Ever thought of that?

thats so mean what kind of advise is that?

[I_Love_Roses]

I agree with joogrlpekaun. So what if she is 'ugly'? What's wrong with some people in this thread? I'm sorry but I always get miffed when someone calls another ugly in a way that can't be interpreted to be a joke... What makes you think you're any less hideous by doing that?

That said, I wouldn't put up with her behaviour. She doesn't sound like someone who really cares about your feelings. There's a difference between saying 'hey, you know what? I think some bangs would look fabulous on you' and 'your forehead is huge. it makes you ugly', don't you agree?

Friends, yes, are supposed to be honest (I don't really know if she's being honest here though, and if she's really joking. To me it looks like she's only doing this to make herself feel better, needs to get off her high horse) but pulling you down like that is not OK, there's no excuse for it and you should confront her. Ask her how it would make her feel if you were like that towards her. Like someone else here pointed out, if she's decent she'll work on her fault, if not... you should really ask yourself what kind of 'friend' she is then.

[Flicksityy]

Just tell her she's ugly. B.itch fight it out.

Why are you even hanging with people like her?

[Lovin' you]

Hun, how come your friends with this person?
Truly, a friend would never brag about having a bf. Conceited if you tell me.
If she calls you ugly, tell her she looks like trash.

however she is always putting me down, and never gives me any compliments...

Maybe she is the ugly one and wants to put you down so she can feel all pretty.
Next idea: if she calls you ugly, tell her she looks like a stinky monkey. If she's never given you any compliments, don't compliment her saying she's pretty; she'll probably take it as her being better/prettier than you.



--SooEun

[eternaldarkness4]

hmm
sounds like shes finishing for complements and just picking on you
i suggest the next time she says your ugly say
got a F PROBLEM?
or.... do you have a problem with how i look? ....i dont like it how you tell me i'm always ugly

or just start crying and make her feel guilty

[pencil_geeks*]

Even if your friend said just kidding after saying you have a big head and such, she's not really joking around. The comment has to come from somewhere. "You have a big head... just kidding" Sometimes it really does mean you have a big head.

But.. disown your friend. You don't need a friend like her, what makes her any better to put you down like that.

[x kisekiboshi]

Tell her straight up how you feel and how you would appreciate it if she could stop with the mean comments. 'Cause honestly, nobody ever deserves to be put down about their looks. Anyways, if she's truly your friend, she will say that's she's sorry and she'll stop. If she keeps doing it, don't be friends with her. You don't need someone to bring you down when there are so many other people that you could be friends with.

[Sleepy213]

She just says that to make herself feel better HAHAHAH.

Find new friend or tell her straight up, your face needs help too.

[WonderfulFive]

You should destroy her self esteem and self respect then dump her as a friend.