[KateLove]

Firslty.

1. I understand it's Korean culture to drink w/ a boss after work.
2. It was 2AM, I was waiting up for him thinking he'd be in any minute, so I didn't want to fall asleep.
3. In America, I think American customs should be followed, just like when I'm in Korea, Korean customs
should be followed.


So like my boyfriend's never done something like this before, but I'm just so confused and
angry right now.

So it's 3:45AM right now. My boyfriend was supposed to get out of work at 2AM then head straight
here to see me and spend a few nights, he's about 1.5 hours away. I called him at 2:15AM to see if he
was on his way here, and he told me some people were still singing (works at a Karaoke + i heard the people singing)
... so I asked why his boss doesn't kick the people out, and he said "Ah you think I'm not angry? I don't want to be here, but
this is a Korean place, we don't just kick people out, .. go to sleep I'll call when I get there" .. so went to sleep
until just a few minutes ago, I called him .. thinking he'd be about here. No, he drank 2 beers with his boss

WTF!!

He knew I was waiting for him. Now he'll be here at 5AM ... now I know it's only like 2 hours difference, but
.. I mean I was waiting, I was really excited about him coming, 5AM?? How could he ever CONSIDER drinking
with his boss? He's been working there only 1 week now, -- are they best buddies now?

I mean I know he's from Korea, the culture is a little different and it's a good thing to hang out with your boss, AT THE
RIGHT TIME!!..... Am I over reacting?? I can't even sleep now. It's not about the time, ... whatever, we were just going to sleep
anyway, ... but it's about the consideration.

EDIT:// I've come to the conclusion that more than anything, the fact that he was late and didn't call me bugged me.
I undertstand having a drink w/ the boss after work is Korean custom, but I was sitting up waiting for him, that was the point,
so he should have called me right when his boss asked him, and at least told me, so I could sleep. ... I really hate when people
are late. =/ -- I talked to him about it, and he admitted he should have called, so I must have something right. Also, I know it's
Korean culture, but ... we're in the U.S, when I'm in Korea of course I'll follow Korean culture, so please .... do the same.

[night]

It depends if he was sorry when he told you that he drank, but if he was like 'no big deal, get over it...i'll see u in 2hrs anyway' - yeh i can see why you would be angry.

Try not to go jumping into conclusions, wait until he comes and then ask for his reason. Maybe he might have wanted to come home but perhaps couldn't refuse his boss's offer? - idk, you should see what's his reason first.

[fantasian]

yeh talk to him about it. if he cares somewhat then let him off, as long as he doesnt do it constantly.

but its his first week, maybe he's just trying to get to know the boss and make a good impression.

[lingaz]

if its a once off u should chill out

if it happens again , id be worried if i were u

[aznxkaiser]

When he comes in, be in the most sexy outfit evar. Then say "None for you". And go to bed and lock your room.

[<3 Kim]

^ HAHAHAHAH that is so mean xD

Is the boss a guy? Maybe they just wanted to have drinks while they were waiting for the others to finish singing? Try to calm down a bit and talk to him about why he did it

[Ayuu~]

i think ur over reacting! i'd understand if ur disappointed but dont get angry at him..
i mean look at his point of view...
he had to work extra hourz just to wait for those people to finish singing..
he himself was angry about that too.. he mentioned to u he might take a while so told u to sleep first
so while they were waiting , his boss probably asked him to drink with him or something..
so he did.. 2 beerz is nothing and therez nothign wrong with getting in the good bookz with the boss..
and itz only 2 hrz.. he came to afterwardz..
it not so bad.. please dont bllow this situation out of proportion.. really!
and saying he was not considerate. i think he was. but he was also caught up with his work.
cant blame him too much! u shuld try to be a lil more understanding perhaps

[SiMPLY PiNk*]

i think you're slightly overreacting. perhaps his boss offered him a drink & he couldn't refuse it because according
to korean traditions, it's very rude to refuse a drink offered by an adult. it's not like your boyfriend went out to drink
with his friends & deliberately postponed his meeting with you, so i wouldn't be angry at him if i was in your position. (:

[ChairmanLMAO]

I think you should take a step back and put yourself in his shoes.

Like you said, he's only started working there for a week - if his boss offered him a drink or two and he said "Nah" that would be IMO disrespectful. Trust me, you do not want to fall out/make a bad impression with the person that pays your wages. My 2 pence.

[eternaldarkness4]

i think your overreacting
he doesnt want to lose his job
and i'm sure he'll end up coming ...thats the most important part

just chill
he doesnt want to get fired
the job would probably be important to him

though let him know your slightly annoyed > <

[Flicksityy]

Aren't you the one who posted last time that you had ran in front of a car in order to prevent him from leaving?

Honestly, lay it down girl.

The more you post the more overacted and crazy I find of you. And the more I feel sorry for the guy.

[Left_King]

I agree with these guys....

Chill Out...dont blow this out of proportion... take a step back, and try to get both point of views...and not only favouring urs...I know its hard...very hard....but...u can do it... give it a try... u'll be more understanding...This will only reinforce ur relationship ^^

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[Sleepy213]

Korean bosses and customers.

Let me slighty explain.

You can't just kick customers out. Koreans will take it as a wrong way and
will never go there.

If you reject korean bosses drink, its RUDE.
ITS A NO NO.
Yea it's kinda wrong and he should warn you about him going to drink.
but you should also understand under those circumstances.

[prisonerzero]

If you're studying Korea, you should know how things work with the business culture.

Like others said, it's rude to refuse a drink. Of course, he should tell you ahead of time, but still. Just like everyone else, you are overreacting a little bit.

And kicking any type of customers out (unless you're Gordon Ramsay doing the Kitchen Nightmares) is rude and could make a place lose business.

[xjuiiccy]

When he comes in, be in the most sexy outfit evar. Then say "None for you". And go to bed and lock your room.

^^HAHAH Awesome .
I think you're over-reacting . If the boss can't kick the people out,
& if he has NOTHING to do there-- what do you expect him to do ?
Just sit there & mope around ? If his boss asks him to drink with him, so what ?
It's not like he's cheating on you with beer . CHILL !

[tofu plushie]

I think you should just let it go.. He was just doing his job, he can't kick the customers out. And he was being polite drinking with his boss. I don't really see a problem there. It's not something worth getting angry about.

[pocketsoul]

Considering he's coming during the middle of the night and driving 1.5 hours for you, no, I don't think you have anything to be angry or disappointed about. At least, he's coming, right?

[OMGitzYOU]

You're so overreacting! It's not like he's flaking out on you although I hope he doesn't DRIVE, he already gave you a heads up and told you to go to sleep what more can you ask for?

[Blu_Velvet_Sea]

yeah total overreaction

please don't give him mini cooper. Dudes been up all night and in the early morning. Told you to go to sleep too. It's not like he's inconsiderate. He's trying to be polite and get on the boss's good side. So calm down and don't speak to him when your emotions are going crazy. Get your head cleared.

[NauticalJanine]

well it's his boss, he probably wanted to give a good impression or something. I mean, i would. But yeah, i think your overreacting.