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[KareBear]

Have you talked to her about this? I don't think she's doing it intentionally to make you think it's your fault. Instead, maybe she just feels so uncomfortable around you so she tries avoiding you. Girls tend to be more sensitive towards certain situations. For guys, they might think like getting a girl to watch scary parts in them movie is no biggie but girls can be like "omgosh!! what an ass!! he knows I don't like scary stuff!! @#$@!!!!" overall, girl's minds are just... complicated =___=. . . Or maybe school is just wearing her down. People react differently towards schooling- I know I'll become bitter, sarcastic and have crazier mood swings when exams are coming.

Anyway, just talk to her.

[joogrlpekaun]

I have no idea what's up with your roommate, but it's possible that it has nothing to do with you at all. There could be something else going on that you know nothing about that's been making her act strangely. She might've been having family, school, money, or relationship problems she never told you about. It's also possible that she's decided you're annoying or something and is avoiding you because of that. Or she might have a thing for you but knows you're taken already and doesn't want to deal with it, so she avoids you instead. It could be that she's not actually that social usually; maybe she was just making more of an effort to be friendly at the beginning of the year when she had less work to do.

She may be really rude and cold now from your perspective, but I don't think I'd kick her out for it if I were you. I'd only kick her out if there were actual conflict, like if she were such a slob you just couldn't take it anymore, or if she stopped paying her share of the rent or stole your stuff or whatever. If you're seriously that bothered by her giving you the cold shoulder, then you should confront her about it and ask why. Ask her if there's something wrong.

If you try talking to her about it and nothing really gets resolved for you, then it may be time to play her game and just stop trying. If she still insists on mostly ignoring you, fine, stop wasting your effort on her.

[小甜密]

Not that it have anything to do with you. Can you ask her why is she feeling or acting like that? If anything, it's a good thing to always communicate whenever there's something wrong.

[Meenuh]

When a guy goes out of his way to do things like what you do ie: saying goodnight good morning etc.. cooking dinner holding her hand they start getting ideas. Even if that's not the way you meant it. Best way to find out is to talk to her about it.

[aznxkaiser]

So you're a guy rooming with a girl that you're not dating?
You were getting too touchy with her. Stop pestering her with "WANNA EAT HEHEHE". Just let her be.

[Harbl]

Didn't you have problems with a different female roommate before? Next time get a dude in and an extra controller for that xbawx.

Anyway perhaps you gave her mixed signals with the "hey let me touch you back" kind of thing and now she's just avoiding because it's too damn awkward.

[aznboi1107]

she probably wanted you to make a move.

[&rea]

Your guess is as good as mine.
You're not going to get any answers on soompi cause all of our responses will be guesses as to why she's doing this.
Just talk her...

[msupky]

Reasons?

1) She's bored of you. Girls get bored easily.
2) She found someone new. Hence staying in her room talking and chatting to that special someone.
3) You did something that really turned her off.
4) She's stressed out from school. She has work to do.
5) She's PMSing.

This is coming from a girl, btw.
Buuut yea. It's best if you knock on her door and asked her what's up. Or else she might end up getting more moodier because you didn't approach her. Girls are like that.

[TiFFaNiZeD]

Yea...i know how you feel...because i just moved it with a 3 ppl, rented an apartment, 2 rooms.....but it's like me and my roomie, and the other pair....
at first when we just moved it....it was cool too we'd watch tv and eat together...but now we just stay in our own rooms and dont' even talk to each other....idk why either >.> it just feels awkward now going out to the living room and seeing them too....we kinda like...avoid being in the same room i guess ...changing roomates next year lol

[ITS VIVIAN! =D]

From my perspective, she might be having some feelings for you...afterall you did say she was a little touchy and flirty in some way?
And maybe because she knows you are dating, she does not want to interfere into your relationship and let her feelings fall deeper. Thus, she tries to avoid you?

There are many possibilities, and yeah I thought it was kind of rude for her not to ask after you when you were sick. Maybe she have stuff going on in her life that you might not know of.

[Morphiex]

well she came back from playing tennis with ehr friend
i asked her if she was hungry or is she going out to eat again.
she says no im fine and tries to close the door again.
i say im gonna make some for myself so its no worries.
she goes no its fine and closes the door.
i try to get a conversation going but she just shuts herself inside.

so after half an hour i just tried talking to her about it and it basicly went :

-hey can i talk to you for a sec.

+(1 min later ), whats up ?

-hey im just wondering is anything wrong are you having any trouble or something ?

+no im fine...

-yeah im just saying because youve been really wierd the past few weeks.

+YOUVE been wierd.

-yeah ive been sick like i told you , everytime i stand up i get dizzy so i decided to just stay in bed most of my time.

+oh ok. (at this time she tries to go back into her room.)

-youve been like really wierd lately, youre in your room 24/7 and you dont even say hi or morning or goodbye.
i just thought maby your stressed out because of school or maby because im annoying you in some way.
thats why i thought id keep things more quiet around here.

+oh ok. (tries to go back into room again.)

- so if ive done anything to annoy you or upset you , i didnt mean to.

+ i guess were just in a busy time in our life. maby we dont have to say hi or bye and stuff.

-yeah but ive always said hi or bye and when you were leaving a couple of days ago i said bye and you didnt even say anything.

+ well you didnt respond when i said something aswell.

- oh ok when did that happen? i might not have heard you.
but like a few days ago i was sitting in the living room and you just walked by to get your water or something and you didnt even say anything or even look at me.
i always try to say goodnight or goodbye , but these past few days youve babrely said 3 words to me.

+ oh ok maby we just have really busy lives right now.

and then she walks back in again and closes the door...

[&rea]

well she came back from playing tennis with ehr friend
i asked her if she was hungry or is she going out to eat again.
she says no im fine and tries to close the door again.
i say im gonna make some for myself so its no worries.
she goes no its fine and closes the door.
i try to get a conversation going but she just shuts herself inside.

so after half an hour i just tried talking to her about it and it basicly went :

-hey can i talk to you for a sec.

+(1 min later ), whats up ?

-hey im just wondering is anything wrong are you having any trouble or something ?

+no im fine...

-yeah im just saying because youve been really wierd the past few weeks.

+YOUVE been wierd.

-yeah ive been sick like i told you , everytime i stand up i get dizzy so i decided to just stay in bed most of my time.

+oh ok. (at this time she tries to go back into her room.)

-youve been like really wierd lately, youre in your room 24/7 and you dont even say hi or morning or goodbye.
i just thought maby your stressed out because of school or maby because im annoying you in some way.
thats why i thought id keep things more quiet around here.

+oh ok. (tries to go back into room again.)

- so if ive done anything to annoy you or upset you , i didnt mean to.

+ i guess were just in a busy time in our life. maby we dont have to say hi or bye and stuff.

-yeah but ive always said hi or bye and when you were leaving a couple of days ago i said bye and you didnt even say anything.

+ well you didnt respond when i said something aswell.

- oh ok when did that happen? i might not have heard you.
but like a few days ago i was sitting in the living room and you just walked by to get your water or something and you didnt even say anything or even look at me.
i always try to say goodnight or goodbye , but these past few days youve babrely said 3 words to me.

+ oh ok maby we just have really busy lives right now.

and then she walks back in again and closes the door...

Oh wow, kudos for talking to her.
To me it seems more like she's pissed at you than she's developing feelings for you.

[Melitus]

Didn't you have problems with a different female roommate before? Next time get a dude in and an extra controller that xbawx.

Anyway perhaps you gave her mixed signals with the "hey let me touch you back" kind of thing and now she's just avoiding because it's too damn awkward.

Yeah, didn't you have problem with another roommate? I don't get why do you expect roommate should take care of each another, you're sharing a household not your feelings. And why do you always choose female roomies?

[Morphiex]

^yeh but i didnt choose her because she female, the choice was between her or a 30+ year old guy who seemed shady and i had to get a roommate fast.
she seemd cool said she liked to play piano and guitar and stuff since i liek those thigns aswell i thought wed get along.

i dont expect roommates to take care of each other , but i do expect roommates to be friendly. or is that too much to ask ?
is common politeness such a difficult thing ? saying hi or bye with a smile.
asking how your day is , its not like im gonna spend 30 mins talking about my day , its just the principle of being polite and friendly that people seem to be lacking in this day and age.

but yeah shes pissed off at something , i asked her again and she doesnt say much.
guess il let her cool down abit and see how she is after the whole exam time and me being sick...

[RssgHr_]

From the sounds of it maybe you are trying to become really good friends with her whereas she just sees you as a straight out roommate and nothing else. Maybe you should just let things roll on and not be so full on all the time.

[Morphiex]

^nah we were friends at first she even got me guitar picks when she went back home , and she gave me other stuff.
im not trying to be best friends or something , just friendly.
she suddenly just changed after a month, and now its gone to the extremes.
we were doing good , maby im just really annoyng without even knowing it myself.
i just want to live with someone whos a good person and friendly nothing else..

but anyways im slowly opening her up again now...


just close this thread now i guess.