[TurtleLove]

My friend had recently got out of a relationship, and 2 weeks afterwards her boyfriend found someone new and initiated a relationship.
She of course, is somewhat upset about this, and is suspicious something was up during the two were dating.

What amount of time do you think is acceptable to wait before you get into a new relationship after your previous one ending?


Thanks for all imput!

[xjarvi]

She shouldn't be all in his business like that. Even if something was going on.. her and her ex bf are over with so why does it matter?

I think a person should take as long as they need to get back on their own two feet-- how can you love and care for someone when you haven't learned how to love and care for yourself?

[negitoro]

How long were they going out for?

[TurtleLove]

How long were they going out for?

Approximately 3 years =S

[RYUUSEi]

Well, my one and only ex that I was together with for 2 years started dating someone else BEFORE our relationship was even over. So I don't have much experience with the "acceptable amount of time to wait".

This is just my opinion, but I'd suggest waiting at least 3-5 months or something. If you're serious about the new guy/girl, then you don't want people to take your new relationship as a joke/rebound. So just stay friends with the guy/girl for a while, and don't jump into a new relationship that early. Give yourself some time to get over your previous relationship.

If your friend's ex jumped to another girl that fast, then maybe that girl is just a rebound for him? Or maybe he did have something going on with her even before ending it with your friend? If the latter is true, then she should feel lucky to have gotten away from a guy like that and just move on without b!tching at him about it - just move on, it's already in the past, right?

[BubbleFish]

I don't think there's an exact amount of time or an acceptable amount of time. It depends on yourself really..when you feel ready to commit to a relationship again. I dated this boy for 2 years and we broke up..then I started a new relationship in a little bit less than a year.

[L.FOR.LOVE]

mm it depends on the person theselves and how deep the relationshipso was ?
i went out with a guy for like 3 months, and in 3 monhs i was able to move on to this other guy
and then when he and that other guy broke up, we went out for 1/2 a year, yet it took me two years to move on ?

[damyoungji]

There is no such thing as an acceptable amount of time to wait before you start dating someone new again.
It is more about whether the person who broke up is ready to enter a new relationship, and if they are just looking for a rebound.

My first relationship ended back in April 2007. Ever since then, I have not been keen about relationships or liked anyone ..
Despite the fact that my relationship did not last long and it was a mess (I did not like my ex much after I realized who he truly is).

[KOGEPANN;)]

There's no 'acceptable' amount of time in the dating world, hecc I've seen some girls and guys find another partner in a week or less, my ex was like that, whereas I'm still single.
It's about getting back up on your own two feet again, whether or not you're ready to move on and find someone new and get on with your life again.

[arianna90]

one minute one second.

[ly*chee]

Some people move on from relationships by starting new relationships.
Others choose to wallow in misery for the next day, week, month, year(s).
It differs for everyone.
I can understand why your friend would be a little hurt since they had a pretty long relationship going...unfortunately if thats what he chooses to do she can't do anything about it.

[Stevent]

I don't think there's an exact amount of time or an acceptable amount of time. It depends on yourself really..when you feel ready to commit to a relationship again. I dated this boy for 2 years and we broke up..then I started a new relationship in a little bit less than a year.

Agreed. There's no set time. It's whether the person is ready to thrust themselves into another relationship.

[littlejade]

there is no acceptable time...
its their life.. they can do whatever they want..
if he moved on quick.. then it meant he didnt love ur friend enough.. thats just how it is!

some ppl can move on quicker, some ppl cannot!

theres no rule for a time to wait to find a new date.. BECAUSE ITS LIFE!

u got to realise that 'Love' is a force..

[linny]

As everyone has said, there is no acceptable amount of time to get with someone new after they break up. It all depends on the person and the circumstances of the break up.

To explain about the ex-boyfriend dating after two weeks, a very high possibility is he emotionally checked out of your friend's relationship long before the two of them actually broke up. I've heard in long-term relationships, it's common for either one or the other partner to stay in the relationship a very long time, even if they don't love the person any more. The reason for this is, since you have emotionally invested so much in a person, you want to be absolutely sure that when you do break up, it's for the right reasons. I'm not surprised this ex-bf has found someone new, even if how quickly he found someone must really hurt.

I'm sorry your friend feels hurt, but she really can't direct that anger towards her ex. He is just moving at a different pace than she is.

[xo_sugar_ox]

It depends, if your someone feels he/she is ready and has completely gotten over their ex, which may take weeks, months, or even years, then it's ok if they get into another relationship. Some people are different when it comes to dealing with breakups so there's not really an acceptable time.

[babybuggyY2K]

there's no such thing as a acceptable amount of time to wait. feelings are feelings , if you break up with a person without feeling any remorse , guilt or sorrow then move on quickly. the world needs to spin. if it's over then it's over unless you plan to get bak with that person i dont see a point in giving unecessary time for a relationsip that has ended

[Pogichinoy]

1 week for a guy, 2 weeks for the girl. That is what the rule book says on page 89.

Just kidding, there are no rules or standards for these things. Its open to anyone, they can wait as long as they need to.

[insanelyCRAZY]

when ever you think its right...
i mean you can label yourself in a relationship even ONE DAY after a break up with somebody else..
but im quite sure its different when you're actually SERIOUS about the relationship. =/
so that takes time.

[simple*love]

It doesnt really matter, but it should take some time to relax then go back into a relationship lols
i would say at least a month.

[lilliannn]

its hard to put an exact time frame onto something like this. but if i had to, id say at least 3 months. then take that time to clear your head and straighten out your feelings and relationship with the ex.