[st*r]

have any people that like that in your life?



well i have this friend who has been getting on my nerves on and off over the past couple of years.
we both end school early every other day getting out of the same class at the same time and lately she's been asking me for a ride
every other day when we have that class together
normally i wouldn't mind something like this but she has developed a habit of asking me every time and her house is kind of out of the way
gas is expensive and she never offers me gas money

well today she offered to give me gas money cuz i think she could tell in my voice that
i was a bit annoyed with her because i said i had to be home cuz my mom wanted to go out with me
so i agreed to give her a ride and when we got to her house all she did was say thanks and got out.

gawd. im sick of this


she's always causing me problems
last year i sold her my old flute and i gave her the flute beforehand so she could test it out to see if she liked it
the next day she told me that she wanted to buy it and that she would give me a check the next day
she kept repeating that to me for about half a year before my mom called her mom
who said that her daughter told her that she'd already given me a check, which was a lie
i finally got the check from her the next day
i really suspect i wouldn't have gotten anything from her if i didn't contact her mom


i'm sick of being flat out used by her. i think what she's doing is plain rude and if she was a real friend she
wouldn't be treating me this way.

so anyways back to the problem at hand. i don't really have the heart to just flat out tell her
that i can't give her a ride and leave her there at the school and i feel so petty
if i demand money from her so what can i do? or atleast how can i say it?

o yeah and feel free to post any stories you may have

[des monstres]

er... why are you friends with her again? does she even benefit you in anyway? i say drop her. i had a friend like that who would ask me for a ride home constantly. later, i just flat out said no and told her to ride the bus. now we aren't friends anymore because we drifted and i realized that i shouldn't have even bothered with her in the first place.

but anywho. yeah DENY HER RIDES. even if she "SWEARS" that she'll give you gas money.

and uhh.. learn to stick up for yourself? when she got out, you should've been like, "uh. where's my gas money." SAY SOMETHING.

i'm sorry, but i'm pretty sure she thinks of you as a doormat. sorry if that sounds harsh. but yeah.

dropppp herrrrr. and say no every time she asks for a ride home or anything of that sort.

[daulism]

BE MORE AGGRESSIVE~ But in a polite way.
Ask for something in exchange when she asks you for something.
If she refuses, then say no. Make up some excuse, so maybe she'll stop the habit of "always going to you".
& If you feel guilty, then look for a alternative to why you can't give her a ride. Like, i.e, "I have to go home & do homework, QUICKLY!!"

But what do you mean by the "past couple of years"? You guys must be close then?
You can tell her straight up like, "I do not feel appreciated by you." or make her feel guilty!

[PhuongNguyen]

I wouldn't even call her a friend, but if you still consider her as one then I guess just makes subtle hint about gas money.

if she ask you, just tell her that you're tight on money and you don't want to waste your gas. If she really want the ride then she will offer to pay for gas, if not... too bad too sad.

[nagano19]

My goodness, that's terrible.
Just don't talk to her anymore. She sounds horrible.

I have a friend [who isn't as bad??], but she wanted to hang out with me more and more after I got my license and stuff.
I would buy her things since she wasn't from a very well-off family, but I guess she took advantage of that and always asks me to buy her things at the mall saying she'll "pay me back."

I know she won't cuz she doesn't have a job and all. But I really hate how she just goes with anyone who drives/has a car. = A =
And gas is so expensive too. All my other friends practically beg to pay me back in some form or another if they don't have cash, even if I don't ask them to. : /

And they'd always ask me to do their art homework in HS, which was pretty aggravating because they'd ignore me and go talk to someone else soon as I finished, and had the nerve to call ME a bad friend.
=__=

[Melitus]

I wouldn't even call her a friend, but if you still consider her as one then I guess just makes subtle hint about gas money.

if she ask you, just tell her that you're tight on money and you don't want to waste your gas. If she really want the ride then she will offer to pay for gas, if not... too bad too sad.

The definition of a friend is differen't to everybody, so it may be weird for you to see why this girl still remain friends with this freeloader, but on the otherside, the thread creatore knows perfectly why.
Personally, I don't mind reaching out, but if they arnt willing to reach out for you, I think we both knows the authenticity of this friendship.
You should test her if she will reach out for you, if it doesn't work out, then wait for the day she will. Obviously there has to be a reason why you remain friends with her.

[PhuongNguyen]

The definition of a friend is differen't to everybody, so it may be weird for you to see why this girl still remain friends with this freeloader, but on the otherside, the thread creatore knows perfectly why.
Personally, I don't mind reaching out, but if they arnt willing to reach out for you, I think we both knows the authenticity of this friendship.
You should test her if she will reach out for you, if it doesn't work out, then wait for the day she will. Obviously there has to be a reason why you remain friends with her.

That's why I said that I woudn't call her a friend, but if the OP still consider that person as a friend then make subtle hint for that person to pay for the gas money.

[Meenuh]

Instead of asking for money etc i'd just tell her exactly what you told us. I'm sure there has to be some good qualities about her that kept you around with her. Just talk to her about it. As surprising as this may sound, some people don't realize they do things like that and some of them just think that you're okay with it because you don't say anything about it.

But the whole check thing. She sounds fishy to me.

[st*r]

well in response to everyone discussing whether or not i consider her a friend...honestly... i don't. but the thing is that we've been 'friends' since maybe second grade. so i've known her for about 9 years. even tho she does stuff that annoys me she's just someone i've grown accustomed to being around for such a long time that i feel i can't just suddenly cut her off, plus we have a tight circle of friends so seeing/being around her is inevitable, atleast until graduation.

i also want to bring up the fact that she's the kind that always wants to make people feel sorry for her. it's not like she comes up to me and acts like a total jerk and demands stuff from me but she does it in a more subtle way which makes it difficult for me to reject her. especially when she's in the process of asking me she does this sad sort of rejected disney princess face so i just cave and say yes and when we get to her house she acts really grateful and is all 'thank you sooo much. i'll see ya tomorrow ^^' so i just can't bring it in me to interrupt and be like 'WHERE'S MY MONEY YO!'


i hope that makes a little sense... cuz if she was actually a flat out jerk it'd be so much easier for me drop her as a friend but unfortunately she's a little more sneaky about it

[Flicksityy]

Had a 'friend' like that, she use to always used my money for shopping and was cheap enough to ask if she could have my stuff to sell it. She always exaggerated on how much money she would be to shopping, in the end I'm always the one bringing at least 3 times as much money than she had stated previously, in which she didn't bring. She wears branded branded branded as well.

She probably owns me over a few hundred dollars in money. Never asked for it back though. Just told her off for being cheap.

She stopped too since she's joined my group, since I get along with the people in the group more than her, she's scared that I'll kick her out and leave her to be a loner again because she's been kicked out by other numerous group for a few times now.

You should deal with her as quick as possible before she uses you anymore. It's really annoying.

[<3 Kim]

I knew someone similar but not to that extent.
Before she would ask us to pay for her lunch, since she had "no money" on her. But when she opened up her wallet she had $20, $50 notes, wtf? Also whenever someone borrows say... $1 or $2 off her, she would chase you and would continuously ask for that $1 or $2 back. However when she borrows money off people, she hopes we don't ask her to pay back since she "doesn't want to" She probably owes someone I know over $50, she never paid him back

I also knew someone else. Back then my friends and I were really obsessed with Harry Potter. This girl I knew went out and bought Harry Potter items in this Asian store for cheap. She then doubled, or even tripled the price and then sold them to us. She had left overs, and then she ended up forcing us to buy them from her. We found out later that she ripped us off, we confronted her about it. All she said was "sorry, the price stickers fell off and I forgot the price" so stupid, no price stickers can fall off EVERY single item

In the end we ditched both of them, totally ignored them both. Try to be more harsh on her, as it could get worse.

[damyoungji]

Never met someone who tried to take advantage of me like that before.

There is one guy that I kind of know that still owes me fifteen bucks. I am the type of person who tracks people down once I see them LOL
My friends do not really care about people doing this to them, but I care. I always pay them back, regardless of what they say (sometimes it annoys them).

Like the time where I owed my friend two bucks and I only had quarters. It was her birthday and she did not accept it.
As a result, I went through all her presents and stuffed a quarter into each present as she watched LOL It was kind of fun =)

My male friends get annoyed whenever they go out with me because if they buy something like a sandwich for me, I want to pay them back.
The last time it happened was with one of my good online friends that I have known for years, and it was my first time meeting him.
I wanted to pay him back and he said, "do you not let guys pay for you? -__________-""

T.T

[BoAFriend]

I kind of feel bad because you could call me a freeloader because mostly my junior and senior year, this one friend of mine gave me rides home everyday, and I felt bad because at times when he couldn't and I had to walk home, I'd get mad at him. Oh stupid me. I did pay him back though, in the sense that if we were to go out to eat, I'd pay for his meal or buy him drinks.

Now that I've been driving for a year already, I realize how annoying it is to have to give someone rides all the time, if not everyday.

Uh as for myself I've encountered people who CANNOT stay away from me when it comes to food. This one guy my senior year would straight up take my snacks, dig his paws into the bag, and have my food halfway in his mouth before asking, "Oh yeah, can I have some, man?" And he wonders why I don't like him...

[tofu plushie]

That reminds me of a old friend who would also beg for money to buy food for lunch. But, would be incredibly stingy if I asked to borrow money another time. So annoying, I hate people who take advantage of you.

[xxxxxxx]

I hate that! Usually when people asks for a dollar or so, I feel like I'm annoying by asking it back.

I totally understand your car issue. Because I'm not 18, had my license for less than a year and I live in California, I would just tell her that I feel uncomfortable driving a minor.

Or maybe you can tell her that you're going to stay after class for 30 minutes. If she still asks, just say " I don't have enough gas to drive you home." You can always lock the door until she pays ^__^

[prisonerzero]

You need to learn to stand up for yourself. If she's not going to contribute, don't bother.

[Meenuh]

well in response to everyone discussing whether or not i consider her a friend...honestly... i don't. but the thing is that we've been 'friends' since maybe second grade. so i've known her for about 9 years. even tho she does stuff that annoys me she's just someone i've grown accustomed to being around for such a long time that i feel i can't just suddenly cut her off, plus we have a tight circle of friends so seeing/being around her is inevitable, atleast until graduation.

i also want to bring up the fact that she's the kind that always wants to make people feel sorry for her. it's not like she comes up to me and acts like a total jerk and demands stuff from me but she does it in a more subtle way which makes it difficult for me to reject her. especially when she's in the process of asking me she does this sad sort of rejected disney princess face so i just cave and say yes and when we get to her house she acts really grateful and is all 'thank you sooo much. i'll see ya tomorrow ^^' so i just can't bring it in me to interrupt and be like 'WHERE'S MY MONEY YO!'


i hope that makes a little sense... cuz if she was actually a flat out jerk it'd be so much easier for me drop her as a friend but unfortunately she's a little more sneaky about it

Regardless of whether she's sneaky about it or not you see through her. That's just as bad as being a flat out jerk. Actually, I think it's worse. She's more two faced and she seems to be a bit of an attention rainbow. You know that she's being sneaky about it and that should be enough to get you off your feet. Stand up for yourself. You remind me of myself when I was in highschool. Nobody ever asked my sister for anything because they knew she'd say no. I have a hard time saying no so they always used to come to me.