[Tuffcore]

has anybody been in a relatonship where their S.O. had kids......?
how'd it work out...or i mean, how'd you deal with it...

I was seeing this girl in her early 30s for a little while and everything was going great until i found out she had a 14-year-old daughter. That was the deal breaker for me. I avoided her after that.

For those who are dating and have kids, be honest and upfront about the kids. Don't deceive the other person thinking they'll like you in spite of the kids when they find out about them 2 months into dating you. You can ultimately end up wasting each other's time.

[JJM]

has anybody been in a relatonship where their S.O. had kids......?
how'd it work out...or i mean, how'd you deal with it...

I dated a guy who had a kid. I didn't give much thought to it simply b/c I wasn't looking for a serious relationship. And if I were, he wasn't serious relationship material. He told me about his kid a week after we met. I guess the reason why I didn't care whether it worked out or not was simply that from the moment I knew of his kid, that was the deal breaker. But if he were an honest individual about the ex-gf who he was still dating and the so-called ex-wife that he was still married to, I might have overlooked that. lol Can someone say "loser"?

I'm a selfish person. I have to be the primary focus for attention/affection in my SO's life. Hell, I get a little bitchy when my bf spends more time on World of Warcrack than with me. I don't mind poker. At least he's making money. Back on subject, if I didn't give birth to that child, I know I'd feel as though I'm competing with the kid. I'd rather not deal with it at all. Yes, it's not sympathetic of me, but I can't deal with someone trying to find a babysitter for his kid(s) when we go out.

[JF21�]

I dated a guy who had a kid. I didn't give much thought to it simply b/c I wasn't looking for a serious relationship. And if I were, he wasn't serious relationship material. He told me about his kid a week after we met. I guess the reason why I didn't care whether it worked out or not was simply that from the moment I knew of his kid, that was the deal breaker. But if he were an honest individual about the ex-gf who he was still dating and the so-called ex-wife that he was still married to, I might have overlooked that. lol Can someone say "loser"?

I'm a selfish person. I have to be the primary focus for attention/affection in my SO's life. Hell, I get a little bitchy when my bf spends more time on World of Warcrack than with me. I don't mind poker. At least he's making money. Back on subject, if I didn't give birth to that child, I know I'd feel as though I'm competing with the kid. I'd rather not deal with it at all. Yes, it's not sympathetic of me, but I can't deal with someone trying to find a babysitter for his kid(s) when we go out.

wow you too huh?

well atleast i know i'm not the only one.....

[*1004*]

ok... so i went on my first blind date ever. i was set up by my cousin because she thought we would really click. im 20 and in college the guy is 26 and about to go to law school. the date went really well and we had some really good conversations. we didnt *click* like when its AMAZING chemistry, but i felt that it went really well. theres definately an age gap, but im interested in him and dont want it go into friends territory instead of like relationship territory. im wondering if i should call him or wait for him to call me because we talked casually about meeting up next week, and how do i subtly hint that im interested in being more than friends. ive never been set up or gone on a blind date so im completely lost. i was hesistant about meeting this guy at first but now that i have, im glad that i did. i guess its been a long time since ive been impressed by a guy and considered him date worthy...... please give me advice....

[Laxntiga]

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Let him do the calling, you should have asked for an Email or MSN/Aim it's less intrusive than calling. Maybe even a text messege is cool. Like.... "Hey, this is [insert name] hows the library mr. law school?" or something dumb like that.

Learn how to be flirty, he's the one who should be chasing you. Do bear in mind he's going to law school and will be studying a lot. Its good to hear you found someone interesting, I wish you good luck =D

[Tuffcore]

Me again. This time, a question/topic about girls and their make-up.

I recently met a lady who i thought was beautiful and I really wanted to pursue her but then the following week, i met her again but this time she wasn't wearing make-up and she looked very common. Call me shallow but my feelings toward her changed. It didn't stop me from wondering though, how do women here handle make-up and their men? especially when they know they look 10x better with make-up?

I hear from some girls that they hide themselves from their men when they are not wearing make-up but if the relationship is to be everlasting, then he's eventually going to see the real skin under that foundation right? Has anyone here experienced this situation before?

A question for the boys, how did you feel when you saw your girlfriend without make-up for the first time?

[CIRee]

Me again. This time, a question/topic about girls and their make-up.

I recently met a lady who i thought was beautiful and I really wanted to pursue her but then the following week, i met her again but this time she wasn't wearing make-up and she looked very common. Call me shallow but my feelings toward her changed. It didn't stop me from wondering though, how do women here handle make-up and their men? especially when they know they look 10x better with make-up?

I hear from some girls that they hide themselves from their men when they are not wearing make-up but if the relationship is to be everlasting, then he's eventually going to see the real skin under that foundation right? Has anyone here experienced this situation before?

A question for the boys, how did you feel when you saw your girlfriend without make-up for the first time?

Puzzled. I now make it a standard if a girl dont show me her real face, she not relationship material. Women are liars, there face proves it.

[HERMIT]

A question for the boys, how did you feel when you saw your girlfriend without make-up for the first time?

She was not quite the clown whom I held in such high comical esteem.
It took the helium out of my balloon and the sugary taste out of my cotton candy.

[donporkuloin]

Tuffcore: You shouldn't like a girl just for her looks. For the record women w/o makeup doesn't bother me in most cases. I'd rather see a woman w/o her makeup sooner than later.

[edward1849]

ok... so i went on my first blind date ever. i was set up by my cousin because she thought we would really click. im 20 and in college the guy is 26 and about to go to law school. the date went really well and we had some really good conversations. we didnt *click* like when its AMAZING chemistry, but i felt that it went really well. theres definately an age gap, but im interested in him and dont want it go into friends territory instead of like relationship territory. im wondering if i should call him or wait for him to call me because we talked casually about meeting up next week, and how do i subtly hint that im interested in being more than friends. ive never been set up or gone on a blind date so im completely lost. i was hesistant about meeting this guy at first but now that i have, im glad that i did. i guess its been a long time since ive been impressed by a guy and considered him date worthy...... please give me advice....

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[Tuffcore]

Puzzled. I now make it a standard if a girl dont show me her real face, she not relationship material. Women are liars, there face proves it.

I felt puzzled too when i saw that girl the second time. Infact, I nearly filed a complaint to Consumer Report and the Better Business Bureau for false advertising! I felt like such a victim of fraud!

(i'm joking of course) but seriously, her difference between make-up and non-make-up was like night and day.

She was not quite the clown whom I held in such high comical esteem.
It took the helium out of my balloon and the sugary taste out of my cotton candy.

Did you point and laugh at her face when her "Joker's smile" wasn't washing off with her make-up?

Tuffcore: You shouldn't like a girl just for her looks. For the record women w/o makeup doesn't bother me in most cases. I'd rather see a woman w/o her makeup sooner than later.

For the record, women w/o makeup doesn't bother me in most cases too. This was an extreme case.

I understand that this topic may be sensitive to some women on this message board so i apologize in advance if i offended anyone. I just want to know some honest opinions about women and make-up.

[incyphe]

I felt puzzled too when i saw that girl the second time. Infact, I nearly filed a complaint to Consumer Report and the Better Business Bureau for false advertising! I felt like such a victim of fraud!

(i'm joking of course) but seriously, her difference between make-up and non-make-up was like night and day.
Did you point and laugh at her face when her "Joker's smile" wasn't washing off with her make-up?
For the record, women w/o makeup doesn't bother me in most cases too. This was an extreme case.

I understand that this topic may be sensitive to some women on this message board so i apologize in advance if i offended anyone. I just want to know some honest opinions about women and make-up.

I guess after awhile, you learn to 'see-through' the makeup and imagine what's underneath all the cake and drawings. Usually, heavy eye makeup is a red flag.

But honestly, I feel sorry for women who feel like that they have to do this to improve their appearance. I'm sure they would rather not wear makeup if they can help it.

[JF21�]

Me again. This time, a question/topic about girls and their make-up.

I recently met a lady who i thought was beautiful and I really wanted to pursue her but then the following week, i met her again but this time she wasn't wearing make-up and she looked very common. Call me shallow but my feelings toward her changed. It didn't stop me from wondering though, how do women here handle make-up and their men? especially when they know they look 10x better with make-up?

i wear make up..but only eyeshadows,mascara,liner and lipgloss...i only overdo it on the eyes (bright colors/bold liner) during the summer..just because it's fun to play in...plus without any mascara and liner i look like a little girl...lol

as for dating, most of the times my BFs couldn't even tell when i was wearing makeup or not (aside from when i had on eyeshadow) because, ''everyday/normal people''makeup is supposed to be about enhancing your features, not about covering them up...but lots of women get this confused.

i dont think it's pretty when girls cake on makeup to the point of looking FLAWLESS because it just looks fake/nasty...and like someone said..it kinda makes you wonder how they really look...

I hear from some girls that they hide themselves from their men when they are not wearing make-up but if the relationship is to be everlasting, then he's eventually going to see the real skin under that foundation right? Has anyone here experienced this situation before?

yeah a lot of the YOUNGER girls will go to great lengths to not show their boyfriends their real face....just take a look in the H/B/F and L/R forums , i remember there were couple of topics about it...its kinda sad. (and when i say younger, i mean in age AND in mentality)

but i think for the woman you were seeing to show you herself without the ''mask'' shows a great deal of maturity and self confidence. just the fact that she felt comfortable with you to not have to wear makeup is a good thing. not a bad thing imo

[JJM]

Women and make-up? Personally, I've never had trouble with it. Most of the guys I've met and dated initially met me at my most natural facial state... minimal make-up to none. I'm not one of those women who needs to get up two hrs. before her man to put on her face. Make-up is like clothing to me. I dress appropriately for the occassion, thus so shall my face. I'm not going to put full-on make-up to work or shopping, but if going out to a club or glamourous function... then yes. Besides, my man prefers me fresh bare face with post-coital hair.

[HERMIT]

Problem here is that make-up these days look like the real deal. It's honestly difficult to tell the difference between foundation and real skin unless you're petting the girl's face with your hands. I'm 27-years old and the girls i date nowadays are beginning to require make-up to bring out their best. I know i got to be realistic with my expectations but at the same time, i don't want to be falsely advertised to.

Speaking of being shallow and superficial, what would be your (or anybody else's, for that matter) perspective in regards to surgical enhancements of any kind? I suppose in this regard, the use of make-up as a means to 'falsely advertise' would be the least of your concerns. Approaching this purely from a 'natural selection' perspective, I find it interesting how plastic surgery - in its own unique way - kind of artificially circumvents this natural process .... you know what I mean? Generally-speaking, if it is indeed full lips, a slender body, and an ample bosom that are what attracts the male eye, it's kind of interesting how collagen injections, liposuction, and breast implants can allow the female to further create this 'illusion' .... along with the age old tradition of applying make-up and using perfume. Yet, in the end, when the couple hooks up and has offspring, the genetic code doesn't exactly transfer over: the couple could still stand to have chubby and/or flat-chested kids.
I suppose what I'm getting at is this: Would your consideration of a potential mate go so far as to dismiss one that used surgical enhancements of some sort - merely because of the uncertainty of offspring you would produce? Or perhaps is it something that you never actually thought about until now? Should it even matter?

[thealmightyGOD]

I hate makeup on women because my mom has always put on a lot and whenever she'd hug or kiss me it'd cake off on me or my clothes or I'd get a wiff of the scent, which isn't so pleasant to me. I'd rather touch a girl's face and actually feel the texture of her skin. Eye makeup is okay as long as it doesn't look like two big black spots or some awkward color like two huge blue spots. Too much blush is scary too because I'm afraid of clowns. It's pretty much the same as everything else in life, too much of it isn't good. =[

[rahrah]

LOL

everyone in my office knows what white day is now. haha its the "korean valentines". i made sure to tell everyone.

im celebrating white day on the 14th ... of march.

i dunno anyone else (non-fob) whose celebrating this.

LOL

anyone else out there celebrating this? there's got to be at least one person out there.... somewhere.

[watcher]

i'd celebrate it... but there are complications in doing so with the person i have in mind
i guess i'll figure it out by tomorrow... haha

[rahrah]

i'd celebrate it... but there are complications in doing so with the person i have in mind
i guess i'll figure it out by tomorrow... haha

haha

you know the white day phenomenom too??? wow... im not alone!! =D soompi rules~

all these girls should be wondering who is getting them chocolates tomorrow! haha~

[Tamago86]

the real way to do it is wait a few days after white day, and then buy all the 70% off chocolates, save em for next year and hope the misses don't notice they're abit stale