[beckii]

thanks for ur replies papabear/ tuffcore/ chewy117.

i think il be out of luck for a while then=S

this is totally off topic but i find it funny how in the love+relationships section of soompi, the 'fellas' who all answer love questions r around 16-17 yrs old. gahahaha

[chewy117]

well, those 16/17 yr old boys are very sensitive around that age



they get what you girls are going through
ahahahahahaha

[watcher]

That's the thing she only rejected me once. And the reason why she rejected me the first time is because she already had a bf that was a friend of mine. And keeping things on the Down Low.

I don't have troubles talking to a girl btw. I socialize pretty well. The only problem I get is girls tend to like me more as a friend, than as a guy. And they tell me this all the time. What does a wingman do btw? My best and close buddies tell me i'm the best wingman they have.

ahh.. u know, i read that last one wrong. i thought she said no to you 3 times. if it's just once, then who knows? maybe you should ask? but i still don't like the idea of asking whether or not you have a chance. it sounds weak. why not say something like 'i really like you, and wanna work something out.' and proceed to ask her out on a date. or just grab her hand. or if you're brave enough, just kiss her and work from there! the last suggestion requires good timing though... haha

as for wingman... the wingman pretty much helps his friend hook up with the girl of his choice. the tasks include giving the friend praise, or affirming anything he talks about, about keeping her friends busy why he gets some one on one time with his girl, etc. a good wingman will not guarantee his friends hooks up. some disagree with this, but i believe that should come down to the friend's skill. but as wingman, you support him to your fullest extent.

for example... if i was with you that night when you were with your crush and her cousin, i would've kept her cousin busy. showed her a good time and talked good stuff about you while you spend more personal time with your crush. i'd slip in little suggestions on how great you are so her cousin can do some small talk with your crush in the bathroom. at the same time, i'd make you look good in front of her, and at the end, when we pay, i'd slip in my cash earlier and have you pay the entire tab and act like a grateful friend. stuff like that.. haha

i dont really talk about problems in detail via the interweb
but here goes

i had some drama with a girl not too long ago
and one of my friends introduced me to one of his school friends
...

which in the end karma got the best of me

basically, what i'm trying to say is when you lower your standards too much you dont work for that relationship to work
and karma sometimes being a bichi lady on her magical day will smack you across the face like there is no tomorrow.

dood.. that sucks...
i understand though...
that need to feel like you still got game. [well, that was my need anyways]
didn't settle though
my conscience got the best of me.
plus, karma bites back harder when dealing with ktown girls for some reason

[chewy117]

dood.. that sucks...
i understand though...
that need to feel like you still got game. [well, that was my need anyways]
didn't settle though
my conscience got the best of me.
plus, karma bites back harder when dealing with ktown girls for some reason

she wasn't even ktown girl
but yea... ktown girls are scary... lol

anyways... she just pissed me off by the end of our conversation
eh... i guess it's better that way

hmmm... my friend is trying to hook me up with one of her friends

i guess people are sorta un-easy because i'm the only one who's not in a steady relationship.

[watcher]

she wasn't even ktown girl
but yea... ktown girls are scary... lol

anyways... she just pissed me off by the end of our conversation
eh... i guess it's better that way

hmmm... my friend is trying to hook me up with one of her friends

i guess people are sorta un-easy because i'm the only one who's not in a steady relationship.

among me and my friends... it's just me and one of my good buddies who arent in a 'steady' relationship. it's actually pretty funny how the younger ones are all in committed relationships. if they all get married before i do, imma lose a bunch of candidates for best man!

you should take up your friends offer. wut u got to lose?

[chewy117]

the weird thing is... everyone is getting married around me

and i think that's why my friend's g/f (well, i should say fiance now) is trying to hook me up with her friend

we're going ice skating this sunday btw...

[watcher]

the weird thing is... everyone is getting married around me

and i think that's why my friend's g/f (well, i should say fiance now) is trying to hook me up with her friend

we're going ice skating this sunday btw...

lol... good luck!

[chewy117]

lol... good luck!

yes, i am also wishing myself good luck

[watcher]

yes, i am also wishing myself good luck

i'm sure you'll be fine. ice skating's one of the best excuses to get some physical contact. offer your hand/arm if she needs help. [assuming you know how to skate... ]

[eternal.happiness]

the weird thing is... everyone is getting married around me

and i think that's why my friend's g/f (well, i should say fiance now) is trying to hook me up with her friend

we're going ice skating this sunday btw...

There's nothing wrong with meeting new people
If she isn't someone you're interested in romantically, you've gained a friend.

[chewy117]

There's nothing wrong with meeting new people
If she isn't someone you're interested in romantically, you've gained a friend.

never i said i had a problem with it

seems that my friends are the ones that has a problem me being the only guy single

when everyone meets up, i'm like the 17th wheel

ahahahahaha

[addicted2kdrama]

never i said i had a problem with it

seems that my friends are the ones that has a problem me being the only guy single

when everyone meets up, i'm like the 17th wheel

ahahahahaha

Me 2. It's bad... They try to hook me up with any single female in the room.

[watcher]

Me 2. It's bad... They try to hook me up with any single female in the room.

ouch... that bad huh?
most of my friends gave up on me... every time they intro me to someone, i never bother calling her back. haha
most [except my closest friends] don't know i'm currently in pursuit, but i'd rather keep it that way
i've found a heck of a fish that simply refuses to be caught! haha

[chewy117]

my friends aren't that bad

but yea... their all worried for some odd reason...

[Tuffcore]

What's the best way to tell your parents that you've just broken up with your girlfriend?

[watcher]

^ why would you need to find a best way? were your parents looking forward to see you marry this girl? if so, i would imagine they would ask you for status updates from time to time, and you can tell them if they ask. if not, and they're not interested enough to ask you, maybe you can casually bring it up when you have dinner with them sometime.

[Tuffcore]

^ why would you need to find a best way? were your parents looking forward to see you marry this girl? if so, i would imagine they would ask you for status updates from time to time, and you can tell them if they ask. if not, and they're not interested enough to ask you, maybe you can casually bring it up when you have dinner with them sometime.

My parents are historically controlling.
My parents were not approving of us.
My parents heavily affected our relationship in a negative way.
I put my reputation on the line to assure my parents that i've made the best decision of my life to be with my girlfriend.

Things are going rough now.
Break up can be seen on the horizon.
I just want to avoid the typical "i told you so, you should listen to us next time" comments coming from my parents because I'm going to snap.

[pyrochild]

How does everyone feel about age differences in dating?

I am currently involved with a 36 year old woman. I'm 23. She really likes to bring up the fact that she is much older than me. It's hard for me to understand that, because age is not really chronological for me, and I often date older women because they generally have a better sense of self andor have their lives together. Women my age still have crazy in their blood. Anyway, I really like this one. I haven't wanted anything so badly since last summer. However, while she is nice to me, I feel like she is keeping this great distance between us. Partially because of this age difference she can't emotionally breech. She talks about how stupid her friends are for dating girls who are 22, when I'm the same age.

How do I approach her about it. I think it's a conversation that needs to happen soon. Right?



edit: I feel like I should add that I'm female, too. Because I guess it changes things around a little bit.

[dunpingy]

i mean, you made the best decision you could at the time. i'm not sure you can avoid it but it shouldn't mean anything..just ignore

[Aziraphale]

How does everyone feel about age differences in dating?

I am currently involved with a 36 year old woman. I'm 23. She really likes to bring up the fact that she is much older than me. It's hard for me to understand that, because age is not really chronological for me, and I often date older women because they generally have a better sense of self andor have their lives together. Women my age still have crazy in their blood. Anyway, I really like this one. I haven't wanted anything so badly since last summer. However, while she is nice to me, I feel like she is keeping this great distance between us. Partially because of this age difference she can't emotionally breech. She talks about how stupid her friends are for dating girls who are 22, when I'm the same age.

How do I approach her about it. I think it's a conversation that needs to happen soon. Right?

I guess it could be a lot of things, in particular how society views the older woman-younger man relationship, ie not as favourably as the 'norm' of the younger woman-older man relationship. And some people also equate age with level of maturity, so she may subconciously think you're less mature than you actually are, or that you're not serious about the relationship. Women in their 30s generally have different needs from those in their 20s, she may be looking for something that she doesn't feel you can offer. Or she could be really self-conscious of herself and the age difference just makes it worse for her, since she may feel it's too big a gap for her - you're 13 years younger, not 3. While you may not feel it should matter, she may be viewed differently for dating a much younger man, ie cradle-snatching and all that. Using her friends as an example may indicate the extent of her own discomfort with the relationship, or she may have gotten grief before about dating a younger man and is now apprehensive about how this one will turn out.

A talk would be good, to at least see how she feels about the whole thing, gives her a chance to get it out in the open, and also for you to assure her how you feel about her. Some women just cannot take dating a younger man - heck, I'm sure sometimes some of us here feel a little bit odd about liking younger boybands or something, but it passes because it's not a relationship. But perhaps she has other grounds for concern that she may not have expressed to you before. It's not something that can't be overcome, it just requires a concerted effort from both of you to make it work. All best!