[D_K]

It's a question I don't have the answer to so how would I know what to expect?? I've heard different responses.

If this is really the case then I admit that I was harsh in my replies. I was merely questioning the motive behind your question. But getting back to the topic at hand, I don't think a moral justification is necessary for inter-racial dating.

[D_K]

*sigh* women...

You can't spoil them or they'll demand it all the time.

Dude. Stop reducing women to the lowest common denominator. I can't help but think that you have some serious unresolved issues with the female species.

[donporkuloin]

*sigh* women...

You can't spoil them or they'll demand it all the time.

I agree with you to some extent. If a girl is spoiled a lot she will expect it.

[epark1281]

Dude. Stop reducing women to the lowest common denominator. I can't help but think that you have some serious unresolved issues with the female species.

Mind taking it easy? Don't be so quick to judge. I know it's not always good to Dr. Phil people, but a lot of people might not respect or want your "in your face/holier than thou" brand of criticism.
It's not actually just women. It's human nature to habituate to certian treatment, good or bad.

[addicted2kdrama]

My remark wasn't cynical nor was it born out of ignorance. It was sarcastic and showed my lack of enthusiasm wrt your question.

But fine, I'll play. No, its not 'bad' for a black guy to like an asian girl, nor is it 'bad' for a black guy to prefer an asians over other races. Come on dude, did you really expect a different response than this?

Dude. Stop reducing women to the lowest common denominator. I can't help but think that you have some serious unresolved issues with the female species.

You should learn how to take things less seriously. It's great for your health.

[D_K]

Mind taking it easy? Don't be so quick to judge. I know it's not always good to Dr. Phil people, but a lot of people might not respect or want your "in your face/holier than thou" brand of criticism.
It's not actually just women. It's human nature to habituate to certian treatment, good or bad.

Um. ok? It's not actually just humans. My 2 year-old border collie Maggie also habituate to a certain treatment. Not sure why I need to be reminded that an individual's propensity to behavior conditioning isn't gender specific.

the statement "women, You can't spoil them or they'll demand it all the time" is rude, ignorant, and just plain stupid. Anyone who's willing post such comment on a public forum is IMO lackign in sound judgement. "you can't spoil them or they'll demand it all the time" is a comment I would be more willing use to describe my dog.

Mind taking it easy? Don't be so quick to judge. I know it's not always good to Dr. Phil people, but a lot of people might not respect or want your "in your face/holier than thou" brand of criticism.

Rather hypocritical are we?

[epark1281]

Rather hypocritical are we?

thanks for proving my point.

[jcraze]

calm down guys.

love and relationships ... all im feeling right now is hate.

<3<3<3 ?

[epark1281]

Um. ok? It's not actually just humans. My 2 year-old border collie Maggie also habituate to a certain treatment. Not sure why I need to be reminded that an individual's propensity to behavior conditioning isn't gender specific.

the statement "women, You can't spoil them or they'll demand it all the time" is rude, ignorant, and just plain stupid. Anyone who's willing post such comment on a public forum is IMO lackign in sound judgement. "you can't spoil them or they'll demand it all the time" is a comment I would be more willing use to describe my dog.

There are ways to say that that don't make you look like such a jerk.
But that's up to your judgment. When you say it like that, you sound unreproachable, holier-than-thou, IMO.
But if you feel differently, nothing much i can say about it then.

[kitty_N]

i've always been a girl to only do serious dating, however, lately i've been feeling... let's say pretty pessimistic about love and feel myself heading towards the no strings attached relationships. i am completely new to it and a bit weirded out that i am going against everything i thought i believed in... so i'm just curious what are your takes on no strings/friends w/benefits relationships. and if you've had one yourself and don't mind giving me feedback on how it pulled though let me know plz

[angelZ]

are there any signs to know if a guy is still not over his ex yet?
i've asked him already & he says he only likes her as a friend since she's one of his closest ones.
i respect that but it makes me uneasy to know that she's so important to him...

[aznboi1107]

are there any signs to know if a guy is still not over his ex yet?
i've asked him already & he says he only likes her as a friend since she's one of his closest ones.
i respect that but it makes me uneasy to know that she's so important to him...

I would say one sign is if he were to point out and say "oh *ex's name* has a bag like that"

[donporkuloin]

i've always been a girl to only do serious dating, however, lately i've been feeling... let's say pretty pessimistic about love and feel myself heading towards the no strings attached relationships. i am completely new to it and a bit weirded out that i am going against everything i thought i believed in... so i'm just curious what are your takes on no strings/friends w/benefits relationships. and if you've had one yourself and don't mind giving me feedback on how it pulled though let me know plz

I've never had one, but I had a girl that was offering it to me. I turned it down though, because that's not what I wanted at the time. What I wanted was to have a serious relationship. But as I've went out on dates I've realized that most girls(correct me if I'm wrong) these days don't want anything serious. I keep running into girls that say I don't want commitment, I just want friendships, or I'm so busy, etc. Knowing full well they're not as busy as they make themselves out to be. Just being honest that seeing girls do this has really disappointed me, and had me depressed. Just because I keep getting bs-ed around by females.

So I have been thinking since women these days don't want anything serious.. Maybe I should just go for friends with benefits, no strings, etc. It really sucks to me, because that's not what I want, and the fact that I'm coming close to changing my ideals has just had me bummed out.

Also, from watching people that have had friends with benefits in most cases someone gets hurt, because feelings will come. My 2 friends did that. 19 and a 25 yr old. 19 yr old broke up with his gf to have an fwb with the 25 yr old. After a few times with the 25 yr old he got back with his gf, and the 25 yr old is still crushed by what the guy did. This happened 6-7 months ago.

[pikapika]

im all up for being asexual

anyone with me?

[BebeSweet]

i've always been a girl to only do serious dating, however, lately i've been feeling... let's say pretty pessimistic about love and feel myself heading towards the no strings attached relationships. i am completely new to it and a bit weirded out that i am going against everything i thought i believed in... so i'm just curious what are your takes on no strings/friends w/benefits relationships. and if you've had one yourself and don't mind giving me feedback on how it pulled though let me know plz

Don't do it. I have been in your position before. I broke up with a boyfriend who I had been with for 2 years to be quite pessimistic about jumping into another long term relationship. I wanted to have fun and date around. I ended up in a friends-with-benefit type relationship and ended up feeling pretty bad after it ended, even despite having little feelings for him. It can be fun in the beginning but as it progresses and you realize this is as far as it will ever go, it becomes hard to not to feel used - especially if all you've ever been in, in the past, were meaningful relationships. Oh and don't forget in most cases, someone get hurts and it could very well be you!

[jcraze]

i get those feelings about casual no strings stuff all the time.

i say don't do it with the same person for too long, just random people and you'll be fine.

[Aziraphale]

Don't do it. I have been in your position before. I broke up with a boyfriend who I had been with for 2 years to be quite pessimistic about jumping into another long term relationship. I wanted to have fun and date around. I ended up in a friends-with-benefit type relationship and ended up feeling pretty bad after it ended, even despite having little feelings for him. It can be fun in the beginning but as it progresses and you realize this is as far as it will ever go, it becomes hard to not to feel used - especially if all you've ever been in, in the past, were meaningful relationships. Oh and don't forget in most cases, someone get hurts and it could very well be you!

The smallest age difference I've dated was 2 years and the biggest was 5 and a half years, which is of my current relationship. Not to mention this is the best relationship I have had thusfar, and I'm not just saying that either. I don't know what the oldest age I'd date is, because I never really thought I'd date a guy 5 years older than me at this age (I'm 18, turning 19).

I do not think you're 20 yet!

INTRUDER ALERT!!!!!!!!!!!

[papabear]

i've always been a girl to only do serious dating, however, lately i've been feeling... let's say pretty pessimistic about love and feel myself heading towards the no strings attached relationships. i am completely new to it and a bit weirded out that i am going against everything i thought i believed in... so i'm just curious what are your takes on no strings/friends w/benefits relationships. and if you've had one yourself and don't mind giving me feedback on how it pulled though let me know plz

read up on the effects of oxytocin

[&rea]

im all up for being asexual

anyone with me?

I'm with ya!

[pyrochild]

im all up for being asexual

anyone with me?

I WISH! it would make my life manageable.