[addicted2kdrama]

^ the 4th type can be put in the #2 category. Believe me, i know.

[donporkuloin]

I've realized that there are 3 types of people:

1. People who we are very attracted to, you fall into deep lust and you become crazy over them for no reason. Lust is powerful, we sometimes think that its love because the emotions are so strong. They are exciting and the lust is very passionate, but they are not neccessarly "good people."

2. People who are genuinely good people, sometimes coined 'boring.' They are usually coined as the 'nice guys' but they know right from wrong and will treat you with utmost respect.

3. People who are both. These are the ones that we are looking for, and the ones who will make you fall in love. Its generally very difficult to find these types of people and if we do, we quickly fall in love...

I have only met #1 and #2 so far in my life, never both. I thought my #1 was a #3 but I ended up being played...and torment myself into believing that hes a #3.....and it hurts, it still hurts now because I didn't want to believe it...sigh~ when will we ever learn.
I hope I meet my #3 soon...

People like #3 isn't real to me, because when people lust over something, or someone? In most cases it's not for the right reasons. #3 can't be real. Think about it. A person who is good and bad. A person like that.. if he or she is real? That person has a social disorder, or is a schizophrenic.

[HERMIT]

I'm just looking for a number 9 to go with my number 6.

[Tuffcore]

I'm just looking for a number 9 to go with my number 6.

and all i can find is number 2.


(teeheehee i said number 2... heehee)

[jshat4]

Hahaha...someone else who likes putting people into categories. That's like a bad habit of mine.

[&rea]

How do you deal when one of your best friends doesn't like your significant other and may have good reason to?

[709394]

How do you deal when one of your best friends doesn't like your significant other and may have good reason to?

and what would that reason be? (secret past affair? long lost brother/sister? knows some dirty secrets? )

Hahaha...someone else who likes putting people into categories. That's like a bad habit of mine.

Lol I think those categories are way too few though.
4) people you simply don't give a damn about and they don't either about you ~ ever see those passer-byers on the subway? Those that pass by in the blink of an eye?
5) unattainable people ~ the "superstars" you know you'll never get....but you lose interest anyway, because they're unattainable
6) people who like you but you could care less about, and most often, their motivations are quite misguided

And much more..more..more..

Basically, the vast 99% of people I encounter fall into 4.

hahaha, my categories only hold true if we get to encounter them on a face-to-face basis
like...real people

[donporkuloin]

How do you deal when one of your best friends doesn't like your significant other and may have good reason to?

What's the reason your friend doesn't like your significant other?

[little mixed girl]

i am somewhat frustrated by the type of guys that are interested in me.

it's a guy who is somewhat ok looking, but seems to be lacking in confidence.
an introverted guy who turns to me because he thinks that i am like him.
this is the type of guy who thinks that giving you something random is a good way to show affection.
he sweet talks off and on, and tries to be the type of guy a girl wants...or what he thinks a girl wants.

the problem is that while i am somewhat introverted, i can't be with an introvert.
the guy thinks that because i am somewhat quirky that i will forgive his quirks (i won't).
and i need someone who can fight with me. i'm not talking knock-out drag-out fights, but ...well, whatever.

to guys (and girls, i guess), my advice is to be yourself.
trying to fake it and be someone you're not, trying to be everyman to every girl all of that stuff is not going to get you a girl.
and hovering around a girl, hoping that she's going to come to you won't work either.

*sigh* just disappointed that i keep coming across the same types of guys...

[donporkuloin]

i am somewhat frustrated by the type of guys that are interested in me.

it's a guy who is somewhat ok looking, but seems to be lacking in confidence.
an introverted guy who turns to me because he thinks that i am like him.
this is the type of guy who thinks that giving you something random is a good way to show affection.
he sweet talks off and on, and tries to be the type of guy a girl wants...or what he thinks a girl wants.

the problem is that while i am somewhat introverted, i can't be with an introvert.
the guy thinks that because i am somewhat quirky that i will forgive his quirks (i won't).
and i need someone who can fight with me. i'm not talking knock-out drag-out fights, but ...well, whatever.

Do you tell the guys you come across what you're looking for, or do you expect them to know?

[little mixed girl]

Do you tell the guys you come across what you're looking for, or do you expect them to know?

these are guys who seek me out, not the other way.
and they never formally say "i'm interested in you".

i know that they are interested, but i can't just turn around and be like "you know, i am not looking to date you, so stop trying".

i don't have a set guy that i'm looking for. i'll know if i like him when i meet and talk with him.
he could be pretty fit or a little chubby, super good-looking or so-so, etc.

it seems that guys are looking for me to support them, but they are not going to put out too much effort to support me if i went through a hard time.
they are looking for someone to completely identify and agree with them, but they don't want to accept other opinions.

[&rea]

To 709394 and donporkuloin:

He won't tell me why he doesn't like my boyfriend, but I know it must be something important because he doesn't really hold grudges against people. It's frustrating me a bit because I always support him and what he does, but he's saying that he won't support our relationship even if my boyfriend makes me happy. (There definitely isn't an underlying secret crush if that's what you're thinking lol) I don't know what to do...

[donporkuloin]

To 709394 and donporkuloin:

He won't tell me why he doesn't like my boyfriend, but I know it must be something important because he doesn't really hold grudges against people. It's frustrating me a bit because I always support him and what he does, but he's saying that he won't support our relationship even if my boyfriend makes me happy. (There definitely isn't an underlying secret crush if that's what you're thinking lol) I don't know what to do...

That's a bit awkward for your friend not to tell you. I would seriously drag it out of him. If it's something you need to know? How can he call himself a friend, and not tell you. You should have a sit down with all parties involved, and ask for the truth.

[klx13]

Maybe your friend is secretly in love with you and that's why he doesn't want you to be with your boyfriend (hey, just throwing it out there). Or maybe he knows something seriously disturbing/wrong about your boyfriend and he doesn't want to tell you cuz he doesn't want to hurt you (or wants the boyfriend to tell you himself).

[HERMIT]

To 709394 and donporkuloin:

He won't tell me why he doesn't like my boyfriend, but I know it must be something important because he doesn't really hold grudges against people. It's frustrating me a bit because I always support him and what he does, but he's saying that he won't support our relationship even if my boyfriend makes me happy. (There definitely isn't an underlying secret crush if that's what you're thinking lol) I don't know what to do...

Are you sure about that? You might be erroneous in thinking that the secret crush is on you. It could lie somewhere else. And that's why the hesitancy in even revealing it to you.

[jshat4]

I hate hugging people in general...not a touchy-feely person.

[&rea]

That's a bit awkward for your friend not to tell you. I would seriously drag it out of him. If it's something you need to know? How can he call himself a friend, and not tell you. You should have a sit down with all parties involved, and ask for the truth.

Yeah it is awkward. I don't know if he's trying to protect me, and if he is, it would be better for him to tell me sooner than later. If it's something that's really important, I'd want to know, but at the same time, I wouldn't want to know. I'm so torn and confused right now =\

Maybe your friend is secretly in love with you and that's why he doesn't want you to be with your boyfriend (hey, just throwing it out there). Or maybe he knows something seriously disturbing/wrong about your boyfriend and he doesn't want to tell you cuz he doesn't want to hurt you (or wants the boyfriend to tell you himself).

He never said "I don't want you to be with him." All he said was that he doesn't like him and that I deserve better. He also told me it's my decision in the end, and if I do decide to stay with him, he told me to be careful. So there has to be something that went on...

Are you sure about that? You might be erroneous in thinking that the secret crush is on you. It could lie somewhere else. And that's why the hesitancy in even revealing it to you.

Hahaha good point, but he definitely does not have a crush on my boyfriend haha. He's been in love with one girl for years now, so it's pretty safe to say that both options are out of the question

So anyway, my friend is in Windsor right now, but I'm afraid that when he comes back to Toronto in the summer, I won't be able to see him as much because of the circumstances...What should I do? I don't want to have to choose between them...

[watcher]

This sounds kinda silly, but I gave away my first "hug" today. =(

I hate hugging people in general...not a touchy-feely person. And then my friend kinda made me hug him today...

I'm going to pretend it's not a "real hug".

wahahaha... what if i hugged you? what would you do about it?

[HERMIT]

wahahaha... what if i hugged you? what would you do about it?

I imagine she'd be smarter this next time around and charge you for it.
No more giving away hugs by this enterprising young gal.

[jshat4]

Is it just me---or do I always get confused about when you're supposed to hug someone? I suppose if they stretch out their arms...that's a signal? I'm always reluctant because I think it's going to be SUPER SUPER embarassing if they didn't mean to hug me..and I hug them first...ack.

Oh well, whatever, I'll figure it out someday.