[donporkuloin]

I want to switch from a friends with benefits relationship to just friends. I really just want a steady boyfriend.. but I still like this guy as a friend. We both just want to be friends because we aren't looking for the same kind of relationship. Problem is, we are both attracted to each other. Anyone been through this before?
And also he mentioned before about hooking me up with one of his "nice guy" friends who actually wants a girlfriend.. would it be weird to mention that again? He always acts like he doesn't care but he still calls me everyday just to say hi, etc.. which confuses me.

Odds on I would just move on from this scenario. But if you're that intrigued with nice guy friend? Then mention it, and see what happens?

[PH00F-]

It's nice to be back... anyway, i feel like i'm cursed when it comes to falling for someone. Whenever i talk to someone i like & telling the details to my friends - - i always end up so depress because right when i already tell them the details of the guy,; coincidentally, the guy stops talking to me. & it already happened to me four times. i don't know. am i really that scary? :S it's just an observation that i've been facing. :/

[beautifulfriend]

It's nice to be back... anyway, i feel like i'm cursed when it comes to falling for someone. Whenever i talk to someone i like & telling the details to my friends - - i always end up so depress because right when i already tell them the details of the guy,; coincidentally, the guy stops talking to me. & it already happened to me four times. i don't know. am i really that scary? :S it's just an observation that i've been facing. :/

it's not just you..it happens to me, too. haha

for me, i would get this feeling that a guy is interested in me. For example, he'd IM me first on AIM or MSN and all that good stuff. What would happen is that I would talk to several friends about it, just to get another opinion. But for some odd reason, the guy will just start acting kinda cold towards me, instead of the affectionate way he used to be.

I'm thinking perhaps I over-analyzed the situation when he was friendly to me and blew things out of proportion, and ended up being over-friendly.

These days, I kind of "gave up" looking for a relationship. Meaning, I'm going to enjoy my single-ness.

However, if the "right" guy comes along, then I wouldn't mind starting a relationship.

[ecstasy_touch]

i've been on a dry spell for a little more than 2 years now... and i've honestly stop "looking" for relationships cuz it just seem impossible for that perfect timing / person especially in university n what not....

Lately though, finally, i'm seeing a great korean boy and i suddenly find myself clueless.. i feel like i don't know what to do in a relationship. i'm scared that i call too much. im scared that i don't call enuf that things might drift away...i over think too much and i feel really vulnerable orz.

the last time i was in a serious relationship is way back in highschool and it only lasted three months. so i'm really a n00b when it comes to relationships...

well my lovely korean boy...i'm really diggin on him and so far it seems like he feels the same way. we've been calling each other and chatting on msn for the past week and its going great.
our second "date" is on sunday =)
we plan to hit the beach at night and watch the Grudge on my laptop

i really don't wana screw this one up... wish me luckk =)

trinity.

[urusai_baba]

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it. I think we are going to stay friends because we have a mental connection, not just a physical one. If it can't happen like that, I will definitely have to cut it off. But we both don't want the fwb thing anymore, I talked to him about it, so I think it's possible. It hasn't been going on for very long so the emotions don't run that deep, thankfully. Hope I'm not just in denial about it, but it seems like it's going to work. Thanks again for the help. I think I will try to get him to hook me up with "nice guy" if we can remain friends for a while. Not right away though.

[709394]

i've been on a dry spell for a little more than 2 years now... and i've honestly stop "looking" for relationships cuz it just seem impossible for that perfect timing / person especially in university n what not....

if you think university is hard to meet peeps, wait till u get outta univ...

[PH00F-]

it's not just you..it happens to me, too. haha

for me, i would get this feeling that a guy is interested in me. For example, he'd IM me first on AIM or MSN and all that good stuff. What would happen is that I would talk to several friends about it, just to get another opinion. But for some odd reason, the guy will just start acting kinda cold towards me, instead of the affectionate way he used to be.

I'm thinking perhaps I over-analyzed the situation when he was friendly to me and blew things out of proportion, and ended up being over-friendly.

These days, I kind of "gave up" looking for a relationship. Meaning, I'm going to enjoy my single-ness.

However, if the "right" guy comes along, then I wouldn't mind starting a relationship.

Yeah that's basically what i'm doing just letting it be you know. I hope that right guy will come along for us, if there was one. HAHA I'm such a pessimist.

[Echoe]

I honestly did not know how hard relationships were until this one, which is my first and real one. All this time I would be the best relationship counselor for my friends and I could not understand why some people could simply not bend for one another out of love.

Now I know why. I was such a stupid, innocent girl back then.

[vanness77]

experience is a great teacher. been there done that
now I'm thankful that I got a wonderful bf and hopefully this will lead to a happy ever after

[watcher]

I honestly did not know how hard relationships were until this one, which is my first and real one. All this time I would be the best relationship counselor for my friends and I could not understand why some people could simply not bend for one another out of love.

Now I know why. I was such a stupid, innocent girl back then.

i think it's all about balance... between what is ideal and what is reality.

[Pabo_ya]

HAHA, i have a friend that's always walks around in his house in boxers. Countless of times girls are brought over and he's chillin with only his boxers on. He even walks his dog around the neighborhood in his boxers.

LOL i got alot of girl friend that always walks around with only her under wear when im around... well its never have any effects on me.. since im used to see them like that... and when i ask them why they act like that.. they answer like this "your not a wolf type so i felt save even if im wearing my under wear when your around"

[donporkuloin]

i've been on a dry spell for a little more than 2 years now... and i've honestly stop "looking" for relationships cuz it just seem impossible for that perfect timing / person especially in university n what not....

Lately though, finally, i'm seeing a great korean boy and i suddenly find myself clueless.. i feel like i don't know what to do in a relationship. i'm scared that i call too much. im scared that i don't call enuf that things might drift away...i over think too much and i feel really vulnerable orz.

the last time i was in a serious relationship is way back in highschool and it only lasted three months. so i'm really a n00b when it comes to relationships...

well my lovely korean boy...i'm really diggin on him and so far it seems like he feels the same way. we've been calling each other and chatting on msn for the past week and its going great.
our second "date" is on sunday =)
we plan to hit the beach at night and watch the Grudge on my laptop

i really don't wana screw this one up... wish me luckk =)

trinity.

Good luck. Call me a hypocrite, but why do you keep referencing to him being Korean? Why does that matter to you?

[jshat4]

Whose parents keep nagging them to find someone? Now that my "career" path is set (yay!!!!), my mom is nagging me to find a boyfriend. Pff, I hate the idea of looking....IF it happens, it happens, right?

[watcher]

Whose parents keep nagging them to find someone? Now that my "career" path is set (yay!!!!), my mom is nagging me to find a boyfriend. Pff, I hate the idea of looking....IF it happens, it happens, right?

some people wait idly for opportunity, and others create it. i believe neither one is lesser than the other, so why wait for it to happen, when you can make it happen?

of course, i'm only repeating something we already discussed many pages back

[toxic-apple]

On my b-day, one of my classmate passed around a card for the whole class to sign. Anyway, when I received it, the guy I have a liking on put "happy b-day....etc... the girl sitting next to me is my cousin."
Why is he telling me that? I always see him hanging out with her really close, so I thought they're dating. He always try to make conversation with me also.
Therefore, I thought it was a confession, but I was wrong.
I text him and ask what he meant on the card? and that I have feeling for him.
He text back and ask what am I talking about. I text back "I guess i misunderstood the meaning on the card. Thank you for your b-day wish"
He didn't text back. I'm sad and embarrass. I don't know how can I go to class facing him this Tuesday. .
He's younger than me.

Any advice on what to do now or what I should have done? I shouldn't assume anything right?
Well, class is over in three weeks, so I properly don't have to see him again.

[Sweetraindrops]

What are some ways for a guy to get a date from a girl who he thinks likes him, but they never talk? They see each other at work a lot, and all she does is stare and scare to talk to him. He knows she likes him, so he wants to ask her out, but not sure how he's going to do so. Any tips?

On my b-day, one of my classmate passed around a card for the whole class to sign. Anyway, when I received it, the guy I have a liking on put "happy b-day....etc... the girl sitting next to me is my cousin."
Why is he telling me that? I always see him hanging out with her really close, so I thought they're dating. He always try to make conversation with me also.
Therefore, I thought it was a confession, but I was wrong.
I text him and ask what he meant on the card? and that I have feeling for him.
He text back and ask what am I talking about. I text back "I guess i misunderstood the meaning on the card. Thank you for your b-day wish"
He didn't text back. I'm sad and embarrass. I don't know how can I go to class facing him this Tuesday. .
He's younger than me.

Any advice on what to do now or what I should have done? I shouldn't assume anything right?
Well, class is over in three weeks, so I properly don't have to see him again.

Just act like nothing happened, or you can say something like..

Hah ha.. april fool... .. lol.. just think of him as one of your girl friends and talk trash to him n such. Unless you guys aren't friends? Even if the jokes don't even make sense, do it just so things won't be awkward.

[watcher]

What are some ways for a guy to get a date from a girl who he thinks likes him, but they never talk? They see each other at work a lot, and all she does is stare and scare to talk to him. He knows she likes him, so he wants to ask her out, but not sure how he's going to do so. Any tips?

how about ask her to lunch? or a quick coffee break during late day?

On my b-day, one of my classmate passed around a card for the whole class to sign. Anyway, when I received it, the guy I have a liking on put "happy b-day....etc... the girl sitting next to me is my cousin."
Why is he telling me that? I always see him hanging out with her really close, so I thought they're dating. He always try to make conversation with me also.
Therefore, I thought it was a confession, but I was wrong.
I text him and ask what he meant on the card? and that I have feeling for him.
He text back and ask what am I talking about. I text back "I guess i misunderstood the meaning on the card. Thank you for your b-day wish"
He didn't text back. I'm sad and embarrass. I don't know how can I go to class facing him this Tuesday. .
He's younger than me.

Any advice on what to do now or what I should have done? I shouldn't assume anything right?
Well, class is over in three weeks, so I properly don't have to see him again.

no worries, dont do anything. treat him as you always did.
if he ever decides to pull another ambiguous move like that, just ignore it.
if he decides to ask you out and make it obvious, tell him you don't like guys who send mixed signals and end it there

[Tuffcore]

What are some ways for a guy to get a date from a girl who he thinks likes him, but they never talk? They see each other at work a lot, and all she does is stare and scare to talk to him. He knows she likes him, so he wants to ask her out, but not sure how he's going to do so. Any tips?

Generate something at work first. Get some good conversations going for a couple of days (at least) before proceeding to the next step. It's awkward to hit someone with a "wanna go for coffee sometime," out of the blue.

Moreover, the good conversations at the coffee room and the printing room will carry over to help out when/if the two of them eventually go on a date.

[Sweetraindrops]

What are some ways to ask a girl who barely speaks english? I think she's a foreigner, so she might not know what a date is.

how about ask her to lunch? or a quick coffee break during late day?

Thinking about it, but i need to start having a normal chitchat with her first then i'll move in.

Generate something at work first. Get some good conversations going for a couple of days (at least) before proceeding to the next step. It's awkward to hit someone with a "wanna go for coffee sometime," out of the blue.

Moreover, the good conversations at the coffee room and the printing room will carry over to help out when/if the two of them eventually go on a date.

Yeah, that's what i was thinking too, but the people i talked to said just go and ask. .

[mz simmonz]

I'm curious, has anyone's flirting style changed since they were teens or even as recently as last year? =P Not flirting socially I mean as in really flirting/sending signals/"courting" someone you actually have interest in. For me, I've never been any good at this type of stuff..the best I can do is make jokes and be charismatic..then I'm lost after that. Even though I'm way more outgoing than I've been since I was younger, when it comes to that, I still find it nerve wracking o.O